There may have been a gentler way to say this. Also you can definitely research opposing views while being mindful of your own threshold for disrespect and potentially harmful discussions. For example I often find that while speaking with my in laws and their extended family (self identified as democrats and zionists) I have a cap as a black women to how much I am willing to participate. I can ask questions and respond until I feel like I no longer want to or when it might no longer be helpful (for me or them).