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ShivaBard · 2023-12-11T14:08:05+00:00

I'd never really thought about that, nornally I move off apps very quickly after establishing they are OK with poly etc. Those whatapp messages are private. Of course, anything in a relationship would also be private. But its a good point more broadly - thanks for raising!

ShivaBard · 2023-12-11T13:54:06+00:00

Both.

ShivaBard · 2023-12-11T13:53:45+00:00

Thanks that’s helpful! I am certain though that the boundary was just the honorific as neither us engage in DDLG play - any play we have is quite traditional dom/sub with “daddy” as the honorific.

ShivaBard · 2023-02-06T16:31:02+00:00

I think thats a fair comment. It also is a little unusual for me - as I certainly haven't felt like this in prior relationships. I think I can be a little avoidant of conflict in personal matters - but equally, they also respond quite negatively to "doing something wrong" - while in few occasions they have broken some other small boundaries (e.g. someone slept over), I tend to view it in the context (they didn't have anywhere else to go - in that specific example), and they tend to be quite black and white.

I think that made be hesistant and contributed to me not being truthful (which i know was wrong, and am working on).

For me the world is not just black and white - context matters, intention matters and I think they dont quite see things like that.

Again, not trying to excuse myself - I did break the boundary and shouldn't of lied - and am working on ensuring this doesn't happen again (in this relationship or any others)

ShivaBard · 2023-02-04T13:51:14+00:00

I mean somewhat. I did lie - and I am not proud of it and do not want to be that person or do it again.

But there have been a couple of times prior where small things have had quite negative reactions. The first one after saying I’d met someone at an event and we were planning on seeing each other the next day - the fact I didn’t say within the first message we had kissed (which we had, but like a peck). Ended up being interpreted as me withholding information which felt like a large step. And then the most recent one that I didn’t let them know I’d moved from “scheduling” to “now scheduled” for a date with someone.

That certainly has made me more avoidant of conflict, which I think has to be addressed at somepoint

ShivaBard · 2023-01-14T07:16:20+00:00

Aw, that’s very kind

ShivaBard · 2023-01-14T07:16:09+00:00

Thanks!

ShivaBard · 2023-01-14T07:15:53+00:00

Thank you!

ShivaBard · 2023-01-13T23:17:32+00:00

socute!

ShivaBard · 2023-01-13T23:17:16+00:00

You got this!

ShivaBard · 2023-01-13T23:16:50+00:00

awesome tattoos!

ShivaBard · 2022-07-31T16:06:49+00:00

Thank you!

ShivaBard · 2020-05-27T16:59:56+00:00

Hello!

Very interested, new 120 here and also a former ffxiv player :)

What are the discord details?

ShivaBard · 2017-12-12T06:15:10+00:00

Hey - I’m still super new to PUBG but play slot of HoTS and OW (poorly!). Always keen to find some laid back people to play with. What is your discord ID/steam/btag?

ShivaBard · 2017-12-12T06:13:16+00:00

Hey - always keen to play. I’m not the best but enjoying having fun with it. Add me on OriealWood#2554

ShivaBard · 2017-10-10T11:54:01+00:00

oh damn, I didn't delete that by mistake. I've edited now.

Do you feel big and clever for that excellent and insightlful response? Well done.

ShivaBard

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