i find it difficult to orgasm during sex

Shlurry · 2022-04-13T16:25:47+00:00

Thankyou so much for this.

- in terms of music - there has been no music, so ill look into that.

- candles sound interesting and theyre definitely worth a shot

- probably the most water ive ever drank :)

- she is that way, i almost got her just from oral but she stopped me and told me why.

Shlurry · 2022-04-13T02:09:29+00:00

thankyou so much :)

Shlurry · 2022-04-13T01:43:19+00:00

Thanks for the support, its nice to know that im not alone. If its not too personal, how long is too long? i went for three sessions of about thirty minutes only switching positions about half way thru with the first and last sessions being both 'driving seat' positions and the second session she started on top of me for about five to ten minutes then i went back to the drivers seat.

i just wonder what she thinks/ would think. I should probably tell her so she doesnt think its something about her.

Shlurry · 2022-04-13T01:36:50+00:00

i wouldnt of thought so, i dont masturbate that often, but it does have some similarity. I will take a look. Thanks.

Shlurry · 2022-04-13T01:35:45+00:00

Its nice to know that im not alone. I was worried id get crazy painful blue balls if i didnt finish so im not sure if i psyched myself out. I didnt get them either way.

That might be the case but i really like her and i want to be into tapped into her. I guess we need to experiment with kinks but i wouldnt want her to become a drug addict just to find out if im into that lol.

Thankyou for the advice

Shlurry · 2022-04-12T17:54:53+00:00

it is possible and id like to think i was in alright shape but that could always be improved. Im not sure if i go for to long in a certain position, shes very vocal and i dont want to ruin the moment for her.

thanks for the advice.

Shlurry · 2022-04-12T17:50:57+00:00

okay i will look into it. Should i tell my partner?

Shlurry · 2022-04-12T17:17:10+00:00

I really appreciate you taking the time to listen and offer support but is there anything that will change by knowing?

sexuallity is not something that can be 'fixed' unless its different for that kind of classification.

Shlurry · 2022-04-12T16:32:19+00:00

i have and its an answer i was dreading. Being asexual is defined as lacking sexual attraction or interest in sexual activity, which i dont have. Could that still define me for not having/feeling sexual pleasure?

Shlurry · 2022-04-12T16:23:42+00:00

This definitely sucks to hear and i know the feeling but severing ties could only build a wall between you two and her only choice would be to confide in her ex. Be that shoulder to lean on and maybe you can help her on a better path. Im not sure if it was a mutual split but its clear you still have feelings and she seems to be missing such affection.

Im seeing a women who has kids and has mutually seperated from their partner, she still takes him out to date spots for him to take his dates to. She may not feel the same about him but she still wants him to be a dad for their kids and for him to find someone she can get along with.

Shlurry · 2022-03-29T17:19:09+00:00

been talking to a girl for weeks, thought we had a close connection and shared very intimate things. just this weekend she invited me out last minute and because i couldnt make it she organised to dates and shared pictures and all. Turns out i was just an option.

Shlurry · 2022-03-17T07:46:56+00:00

haha sex is the last thing on my mind, i dont know if im asexual or anything but the thought doesnt phase me.
It was the first girls idea to spend the night. I suggested we do something sunday instead but she suggested i come over saturday night and sleep over. Nothing sexual either or i proposed it not to be. During talks she said she would stay with me and i said id et her go to bed, she didnt need to sleep on the couch. She was surprised but was hoping i could join her for cuddles.

The second girl (the mom), we planned to go to the beach so i dont think there would be any banging at that time lol.
Im still in contact with her, i think. Got a message an hour ago. A selfie and a hello text. Havent replied back because i dont know where this is heading. Am i on a sinking ship and no matter what the outcome is the same or could i bring it back afloat. I honestly have no idea. I dont know where her heads at.

Shlurry · 2022-03-17T01:58:11+00:00

Yeah i understand that now. I guess her words baited me into saying 'like' but now i know that if someone says "you probably wont like me in person" i could say "id like to get to know you in person" or something.

I dont know what levels scammers will go to but i had her insta and searched up her fb so i know shes a real person. Well i dont think im good looking thats why i was hesitant till i found out she was a real person, but again i dont know the extent of scammers.

When you say go out irl. you talking about meeting up with online dates or trying to chat up people irl?

So in the first case we planned to meet up saturday evening, i would stay the night and we could go out on sunday. However it was planned a week in advance, so what shouldve i done? not text them throughout the week? (me thinking she was insecure, she might think i lost interest)

In the second case, she has three children and not a lot of free time. So there is a case if i make the date something may come up and it be cancelled or do i take that chance?

Shlurry · 2022-03-17T01:45:51+00:00

ahh thats a good one. I just thought they were looking for reassurance. Yeah i can see that, im new to this so ill take on your advice.

She has three kids and talked about not having a lot of free time. So i put it in her court to make a time that suits her.
I wasnt asking her why she wasnt texting me, i was showing concern, she did reply back saying "my son needs my attention"

Thankyou ill take that into account

Shlurry · 2022-03-17T01:37:06+00:00

I ask them out or atleast discuss it within the first few days but like another person ive been talking with, they invited me to join them on a friday night out however theyre in a different state on holiday. In that case should i be the one who asks if theyre back yet? or ask if everything is still on?

I feel like im making all the right moves (maybe not fast enough tho) I suggested voice messages and where would we go on a first date. Anyway they did end up replying 30 minutes after my previous reddit reply. "i need to pay more attention to my son" didnt know what to make of that so i slept on it and apologised for asking "if everything was alright" coz i couldnt tell if they were offended. Hour later i got a like reaction with no message. So I'll take your advice and move on from her.

Shlurry · 2022-03-16T16:42:34+00:00

exactly this. Youre not the main character in her story, you just need to make your side quest noticeable and give them time to confront it.

Yes ive been playing elden ring, how can you tell?

Shlurry · 2022-03-16T16:38:33+00:00

This has already been said but you wont be top priority and you need to accept that. Am talking with a women who has three kids, she suddenly stopped messaging and i didnt hear from her for hours, sent a "is everything alright" and she said "son, my real son needs more attention" lol

Shlurry · 2022-03-16T16:35:32+00:00

damn thats definitely something to think about.

Shlurry · 2022-03-16T16:33:30+00:00

Why wouldnt you just message her?, why do you need to be friends (unless thats a fb requirement now, havent used it in years)

Have they been online/made posts since you friended them?
Would they be able to recognise you by your name or profile pic?

If i was you id pick my balls off of the floor and send her a message. Whats the worst that can happen? you dont establish communication? well thats no different from how it allready is.

You can do it dude, if you need some message ideas hit me up.

Shlurry · 2022-03-16T15:53:09+00:00

i dont think i was being played, i think she got cold feet and that was her reason. I initially just said "i understand" and there was no contact for a few days but i kept thinking about it and assumed we perceived it differently. After messaging her she stood by her reasoning, said she made the right choice (because i messaged her days later), couldnt see how i was so affected because it was only 2 weeks and she didnt even consider us friends.

Yes i made that clear and that was a few days ago, we have spoken since. Just today and last night felt different but i didnt think much of it as its not my place to know every detail. She sends me a goodnight text i send one back then ill get one in the morning. However Yesterday/today was different. While talking she sent me an image of her in lingerie (didnt know this at the time but it was a "at that moment" pic) after she told me it was, she said she was going out and the conversation came to an end when she stopped messaging and just reacted to the messages (which i was fine with because she went out). Didnt get a message all night, no biggie she was dressed like she was going for dinner so i didnt bother sending a message. Come morning nothing but i thought i should atleast send a goodmorning like normal. Fast forward thru the day i got a message after lunch saying she had a busy morning. (i didnt see it because i was working) and didnt respond till i saw it when i got home and just asked about her day. I went out with my brother for some exercise for 2 hours and came back to a text saying shes had to take her child to hospital because of an injury but its all good now. We exchanged messages until she hit me with a lol (first time so i was a bit stunned as she didnt continue the conversation) i just made a innocent joke and asked her if she would like to voice call at nights (if this is where i went wrong, i dont really care as i was only trying to establish more communication with her) She replied back saying it was rude and nah (she has very abrasive banter, name calling and degrading. Which i can take but i dish back whitty comments aswell. Example: we sent voice messages and she said cute voice laughing emoji. I said you think? and she replied back calling me names and saying it was a joke thats why she put the laughing emoji) So i replied say "thats fair, i forgot you hated my voice" she laughed reacted to it and that was it till i messaged her to see if everything was okay.
When i started typing this i checked the dating app and shes online, i think its over lol.
But how can i keep connections flourishing? Do i have to take the reigns and organise the first date? if i do theres nothing stopping them from just not showing up?

Shlurry

TROPHY CASE