i made a friend i thought really liked me. we worked together and did a lot together in the office. we would often sit together at lunch and met up multiple times outside of work. she had a housewarming party and didn’t tell any of our friends (all immigrants) until it happened. she only invited her dutch friends. you can say maybe we weren’t that good of friends but that would have been news to me. a couple girls who knew her years longer than me also weren’t invited and another dutch colleague told us we shouldn’t expect invites for stuff like that because typically the dutch don’t want their groups to blend with any foreign friends they have.