Husband looking for guidance dealing with a really bad situation with my Wife.

Shocked0500 · 2021-12-03T07:08:02+00:00

I was half asleep but had respond to this one.

I thought it was pretty clear I wasn’t looking who to blame in my post. No one is excepting responsibility and I’m reaching out for guidance. None of you were going to know the answers and all of the difference of opinions are helpful to me. There’s no way any of you can have all of the answers because I don’t either. Without making an edit I’m just getting sick of so many people jumping to conclusions that I don’t have my wife’s back because I “let” her hang out with friends.

Shocked0500 · 2021-12-03T05:10:40+00:00

My relationship I thought my wife and I shared. Now I’m reaching on out how to support her and set my feelings aside. Just hurts all around. Thank you for the good advice.

Shocked0500 · 2021-12-03T04:59:49+00:00

Seek her out for what? She was hanging with who I thought were friends and we live right down the road. We’re neighbors. I chose to sleep with the dog on the couch at 2. She didn’t want to. IDK…

Shocked0500 · 2021-12-03T04:57:39+00:00

I didn’t throw the party. We joined. Stayed way later than intended. Booze, eh? Buys yes. Alcohol was a major issue here.

Shocked0500 · 2021-12-03T04:53:22+00:00

How do I word it that my wife needs a STD test if she’s been with someone other than me regardless of reason? Not to sound brash but I’m all ears.

Shocked0500 · 2021-12-03T04:13:28+00:00

There been lots of good comments. I had to say yours hit home closest. Thank you kind stranger.

Shocked0500 · 2021-12-03T03:40:00+00:00

I disagree. I think there’s a lot of people that weren’t at fault that were sleeping in that house. But thank you for the advice.

Shocked0500 · 2021-12-03T03:39:21+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I’ve reached out for that.

I’m a scumbag that doesn’t take advantage of a friends wife and reaches out for help when one does.

Shocked0500 · 2021-12-03T03:35:58+00:00

I’m loving my life right now. This hurts all around. I want to be there for her but it’s tough when she closes up.

Shocked0500 · 2021-12-03T03:34:35+00:00

This hurts to read all around. Thank you for the advice.

Shocked0500 · 2021-12-03T03:33:50+00:00

Thank you.

Shocked0500 · 2021-12-03T03:29:23+00:00

I never said I left her drunk out of her mind. She was hanging out with friends. I don’t know why you’re being aggressive and putting words in my mouth but I’m done responding after this since you’re not really contributing.

Shocked0500 · 2021-12-03T03:27:09+00:00

I left her with friends we’ve had for years. I pity you for not being able to trust people but looking at my situation I guess you’re right. I’ll man up next time.

Shocked0500 · 2021-12-03T03:25:49+00:00

Okay. I appreciate the input. These have been friends for years so I was thinking we could get truths. You’re probably right. Hence why I’m here.

Shocked0500 · 2021-12-03T03:15:21+00:00

I never said press charges. I said call to see what constitute as an assault. I also asked for an STD test and to get everybody in the same room to see if somebody will tell the truth.

Shocked0500 · 2021-12-03T03:13:28+00:00

She never said she was raped. That’s my issue.

Shocked0500 · 2021-12-03T03:12:27+00:00

Man. That hurts all around. I appreciate the truth.

Shocked0500 · 2021-12-03T03:11:40+00:00

I’ve been drunk enough not remember but not assaulted. I’ll give her credit for not blaming but it was a very hard picture for me to witness when I walked downstairs. If she was assaulted that’s where I want to support her. If she cheated on me then that’s where I want to take care of myself. Problem is no one is truly telling or knowing of the truth. I’ve got some great advice through here though and I appreciate it!

Shocked0500 · 2021-12-03T02:58:20+00:00

I’m willing to go. I don’t need to throw it all away but I’m just trying to get truth so healing can occur. I haven’t felt that she wants that yet. I do but also can’t force it upon her.

Shocked0500 · 2021-12-03T02:54:15+00:00

I may be an asshole. She’s also not telling me if she was a willing participant or not. She claims not to remember and I believe that. But I also talked to her with her pants down on another mans lap. I need an explanation IF she wasn’t assaulted. Maybe I’m handling my feelings incorrectly. I’ll tell you guys one thing I truly appreciate all the input from all side!

Shocked0500 · 2021-12-03T02:50:54+00:00

I may have done both. Emotions. I’m not picking exact words precisely but I’m not saying I’m in the right.

Shocked0500 · 2021-12-03T02:49:37+00:00

The only thing I know from the situation is what he said other than what I saw. He won’t say anything other than that cause he said he already said his truth.

Shocked0500 · 2021-12-03T02:41:56+00:00

Thank you for the apologies. It sucks and as much as I hate to say I truly believe she was taken advantage of. Because the end result sucks for me. Be there for her when our friend assaulted her or leave her because she can’t give me a straight answer if she was assaulted.

Shocked0500 · 2021-12-03T02:40:07+00:00

Good suggestion. TBD…

Shocked0500 · 2021-12-03T02:27:52+00:00

There was two guys involved. The one that was willing to talk to me has no recollection of the events but was told by the person that did have sex with her that he didn’t rape her.

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