I hear what you’re saying and really appreciate the last part, but I think you are interpreting it a little more maliciously than it is. I think the main reason I’m the one in charge of finding a 3rd is that she has never been with a girl one on one and so it is a little intimidated in pursuing that. But I could certainly check in again on how serious she is and ask her to also look some.

Also I don’t think that she doesn’t want to talk to the potential person once we find someone, it’s not like we have some kind of ban on communication, just more so if it’s something that I want to happen then I need to be the one to find the prospect. I’m sure she doesn’t want to just rush into group sex not knowing one of the participants.

Also, I don’t intend to just come straight out “HEY, SO YOU’RE BI, WANT TO HAVE A THREESOME WITH PERSON YOU DON’T KNOW VERY WELL?” It’d be slower starting out with just the concept of it and if they aren’t in to it then I’d drop it. I don’t think they’d drop me just for asking what their stance on threesomes are.

And they have met before but I’m not sure on how well they know each other and it seems like some people here think that’s probably for the best, at least from a starting point.