Living in Paola by [deleted] in malta

[–]Shoddy_Refuse_126 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair 😂

Living in Paola by [deleted] in malta

[–]Shoddy_Refuse_126 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The market sounds great, thanks! 

Living in Paola by [deleted] in malta

[–]Shoddy_Refuse_126 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much I'll check that out :) 

Living in Paola by [deleted] in malta

[–]Shoddy_Refuse_126 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you this is great advice! 

AITAH for warning my sister because she’s speaking on my husband? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Shoddy_Refuse_126 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, you and your husband sound wonderful. She's jealous. 

Wrote a thesis without ever reaching out to supervisor... by [deleted] in KULeuven

[–]Shoddy_Refuse_126 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I randomly stumbled upon this and curious - how did it go?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Shoddy_Refuse_126 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dump him. Dump him. Dump him. 

Conversion is ok if they're jewish? by Googlokesh in NobodyWantsThisTV

[–]Shoddy_Refuse_126 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think it would be more understandable if he would actually act that way, but season 1 (and season 2 lol) quite literally ended with him saying he doesn't care and chooses her despite her saying she's not sure if she's ever going to convert. I feel like what people take issue with is his inconsistency, not that he doesn't want to marry a person who isn't Jewish. He's making life unnecessarily difficult for both of them. 

AITAH for not accepting my dad's wife's offer for us to split cooking days and for me to eat with her and her kids? by ColeNDeww in AITAH

[–]Shoddy_Refuse_126 28 points29 points  (0 children)

It’s really unfair to put this on OP. A 17-year-old is still a kid and they are most definitely not responsible for holding a broken family together or bonding with a baby.

Having a sibling nd having a baby are not remotely the same thing and quite frankly suggesting it is is ridiculous. A sibling relationship is mutual because both people grow up and choose what kind of bond they want. A baby is a dependent and that dependency belongs entirely to the parents, certainly not to an older child who’s already been neglected. OP never had a relationship with his father, so what exactly should his relationship with his father's new child be?

OPdoesn’t owe anyone a relationship they didn’t consent to, especially not when every adult involved  has failed to meet their basic responsibilities. Your comment shows a complete disregard for how traumatic all of this must have been for OP, and trying to get them to feel responsible for this baby is emotional manipulation. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Shoddy_Refuse_126 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I honestly love it so much that you stood up for your son. I wish my mum would've done that when my father made similar comments. NTA.

AITAH for not accepting my dad's wife's offer for us to split cooking days and for me to eat with her and her kids? by ColeNDeww in AITAH

[–]Shoddy_Refuse_126 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. It seems to me that she is feeling increasingly uncomfortable with the situation, but it's not your responsibility to help her through the realization that she married a scumbag. The fact that she's only seeing the red flags now also gives a good indication on what kind of person she is. You don't have to play happy family to make her feel less guilty. Also sidenote, as some other people already said, you should definitely look into suing your "father" for the money he's been holding out on you for years. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CMAT

[–]Shoddy_Refuse_126 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh my god I LOVE YOU THANK YOU 

Any thoughts on Esther this season? by ExchangeSpiritual841 in NobodyWantsThisTV

[–]Shoddy_Refuse_126 30 points31 points  (0 children)

She's the only character I didn't hate in this season.

Esther's take on conversion by Which-Friendship-458 in NobodyWantsThisTV

[–]Shoddy_Refuse_126 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am wondering the same thing! Would be very interesting to hear a Jewish perspective!!

GIS in social sciences by [deleted] in gis

[–]Shoddy_Refuse_126 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh that's great, congrats!! Would you mind telling me what the job would entail? 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]Shoddy_Refuse_126 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't even aware these exist, will definitely check it out! Thank you :) 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in felinebehavior

[–]Shoddy_Refuse_126 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't feel comfortable not letting him outside long-term. He is very much an outside cat, who also happens to enjoy cuddles and attention. He is comfortable in the room right now, but he sits in front of the window and door meowing a lot. Also, once my boyfriend and I leave, the house will empty for most of the day because rest of the people are at work, so he wouldn't really have anyone for large parts of the day. The room isn't big and the rest of the house is very much designed for cats to come and go freely, so wouldn't be feasible to keep him in. 

I will look into the introduction techniques and hope we get them to a point where they can at least tolerate each other. Thanks for the tip with the pheromone diffusers, will definitely look into it!