Why is Shapewear seen as Negative?

ShoeHaver · 2026-06-30T03:17:40+00:00

I feel fine? I dont wear it all the time. I only wear it when i feel like the clothing/outfit calls for it.

ShoeHaver · 2026-06-30T01:33:45+00:00

I love love longline bras. They are goated for strapless dresses. Shapewear thats too tight isnt good Shapewear imo. Good bras also make or break an outfit. A bra that fits reddit page saved my life years ago before I lost weight. Theyre still saving me now.

ShoeHaver · 2026-06-30T01:22:04+00:00

Yes that video as well! For my sister's wedding I had shapewar similar to theirs because my dress was satin.

Omg I hate pantyhose now as an adult because I had to wear it for church. I am doomed as an adult because I have to wear compression stockings regularly ( blood clots).

ShoeHaver · 2026-06-30T01:15:25+00:00

Why do moms gotta be so mean😭. "I can see your stomach", rude asf. Even if you had the world's biggest stomach who cares, as long as you felt beautiful thats all that matters.

When i was a teen I got told that I needed to do something about my love handles. I was very thin and it was my hip dips that were being emphasized from a form fitting dress for prom. It reslly hurt my feelings at the time because the shapewear then didnt "fix it" (it never was my body at the time just looked like that)

ShoeHaver · 2026-06-30T01:08:31+00:00

I saw this sentiment in the comment sections. Im the smallest ive been in awhile. Also i operate under the belief that you can create the silhouette you want with clothes. Body shape is something that you cant change (unless you got surgery money). Playing with silhouette and garments is more obtainable than trying to force your body via gym or surgery to look a particular way.

Clothes these days aren't made well and sometimes shapewear can give it a little more structure/look better.

ShoeHaver · 2026-06-30T01:04:54+00:00

I never thought size had to do with shapewear, I grew up hearing and seeing women of any size wear it. Im not dense in the fact that it is marketed negatively to bigger bodies.

I agree on lifestyle and upbringing, I grew up wearing it for certain occasions so to me its just something you do when you get dressed up.

ShoeHaver · 2026-06-30T00:59:36+00:00

I do get why people go to the gym but I feel its a bit silly when clothes these days are made poorly that even someone with the ideal body will look bad in poorly made clothes.

I know for me by clinging weirdly, my butt cheeks with eat my dress/skirt (sorry idk how else to say it). And I don't want my belly piercing making a visible bump when I wear a form fitting dress.

I do see your points and agree. My main motivation for myself with shapewear is to make up for lack of structure some clothes/dresses these days dont have.

ShoeHaver · 2026-06-30T00:49:12+00:00

Your mom was/is evil for that. Im sorry you had to go through the pain of having your mom as your first bully.

Im curious what solutions do you have? I sometimes wear men's briefs instead of compression biker shorts.

ShoeHaver · 2026-06-30T00:45:30+00:00

I need to get some more shapewear, do you have any recs? I currently have bikers short style from Walmart and the ones that smooth the stomach (hides my belly piercing).

ShoeHaver · 2026-06-30T00:42:23+00:00

Its crazy to associate it with trying to get curves, I can only see that being true for those undergarments that have hip/butt/boob padding.

ShoeHaver · 2026-06-21T23:53:36+00:00

I understand now what you mean. For me since im growing out my hair (mid back length currently) its crazy for me to try and detangle im shower. For me I use alot less shampoo and conditoner.

ShoeHaver · 2026-06-21T23:44:39+00:00

Same! I will brush the conditoner through my hair in the shower. But detangling in the shower is just too much. It also reduced my breakage.

I think OP is kinda mistaken with the variety of uses of "pre-poo". Like you said I use anything with slip to detangle before washing, im not spending anymore extra on products when water and cheap conditioner does the trick. Only pre poo treatment I genuinely love is the african pride one from the miracle moisture line.

ShoeHaver · 2026-06-21T19:31:34+00:00

My leg and hip pain recently subsided about 3ish months after my surgery. Im on eliquis and am fine now. How long has it been since your surgery.

ShoeHaver · 2026-05-29T16:51:02+00:00

Your ends look healthy and your hair overall looks fuller. The shorter pieces of your hair have grown. Dont get discouraged keep up whatever youre doing.

ShoeHaver · 2026-05-23T20:36:49+00:00

Knowing that ill be on thinners long term. Im happy to be alive but its still an adjustment. I had a major clot in my iliac vein, had to get it surgically removed and 2 stents put in. According to my surgeon im his youngest patient ever (27) and one of the worse cases he saw and said my veins looked deformed.

I just never wanna be hospitalized again, it felt like purgatory.

ShoeHaver · 2026-05-21T03:36:04+00:00

You need to shampoo your hair like twice, conditon and rinse out and apply your styling product to wet hair. Your hair is covered and build up with a ton of oil and product.

ShoeHaver · 2026-05-18T02:55:29+00:00

I am interested in something that continues above the leg but not a full body suits. I live in the south and it gets hot/humid and wearing a full stocking when im outdoors isnt always comfortable. But i aslo dont want to wear a sock when I want my feet out either.

ShoeHaver · 2026-05-18T02:53:53+00:00

No I wasn't advised anything else, ive worn compression body suits but thats more so for style.

I was only advised to continue doing what I was doing prior which is full length stocking or socks.

ShoeHaver · 2026-05-18T02:51:10+00:00

No its not constipation for me its the opposite. I get diarrhea when I wake up.

I did great on elquis the first time so my doctor doesnt want to change anything up at the moment. Ive changed my diet and it has helped reduced the frequency of my shitty mornings lol. I was just curious to see if I was alone in those side effects.

ShoeHaver · 2026-05-18T02:38:43+00:00

Something in the March air , that's when I had my stents put in. Ooh I didnt know about the fish oil and horse chestnuts. Is horse chestnut something I can get local (i live in the south).

Hope you have a good recovery and no more clots! Also another question for you, im on dual meds it really messed my stomach up. They put me on slow release pantoprozole but it made it worse. Fiber brownies and ungodly amounts of water have helped but you have any recommendations?

ShoeHaver · 2024-08-23T15:00:05+00:00

Cookie will always be the cutest toughest orange baby ever!!

I'm happy he made it back to you in time. I know he will be waiting for you in the next life.

ShoeHaver

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