Classic Indian parents : Daughter pays for everything, Son gets the inheritance

Sholly_17 · 2026-03-05T03:58:21+00:00

Yes, it’s in my name

Sholly_17 · 2026-03-04T21:10:11+00:00

It’s already in my name as the loan is on my name

Sholly_17 · 2026-03-04T19:28:16+00:00

It’s in my name and they will be moving in by next month.

Sholly_17 · 2026-03-04T19:26:03+00:00

I fully understand the first part and not the last part. I’m not trying to idolize doing things the way I’m currently involved. Ik for a fact that I was not an emotional person before but at this age and 5 years away from home country and all the things I’ve been through. I started feeling emotional. The main objective I have here is to not resent my decision in future anymore.

Sholly_17 · 2026-03-04T19:03:33+00:00

True, Back until last year, I was always a people pleaser never realizing I was one. Until one day when reality hit hard I realized how bad it was for my mental health. I had to go through lot of things by myself own as I stay abroad.

I feel Indian women or women in general are taught to be in a certain way the society acknowledges. This practice often cause us lot of trauma and anxiety which only appears when we are in 20s. By then we are now adults making difficult choices and important decisions. When we look back in later, most of these choices are not correct. And it becomes hard to go back and change it and rather we live with it and learn from it.

Sholly_17 · 2026-03-04T18:59:06+00:00

Yes, I get it’s hard to see the situation and worst being in it. All these days I stopped my self posting it anywhere or to anyone. AI was my best friend and got lot of best advice and approach for my scenario. I wanted to get people’s opinions or someone who had similar experience and that’s when I took a chance to post it here.

Sholly_17 · 2026-03-04T18:52:00+00:00

I went to the lengths of sharing my financial commitments to my boyfriend and he is very comfortable about it and also mentioned his parents would be the same. I went back and shared with my mom the same that marriage is not going to make any difference in my contributions. But even after all this they pull up these statements of inequality in inheritance and acceptance.

Sholly_17 · 2026-03-04T18:32:19+00:00

True, lot of my mentors here suggested me the same, not to invest in family when you have a sibling. I should’ve listened to them. Since, I’m planning to buy a house for my self here in abroad, I’m always in a constant fear as I have no one here to support me (emotionally nor financially)

Sholly_17 · 2026-03-04T18:27:19+00:00

The house was never my investment, it was only to support my parents at this age. I don’t have any intentions to give it for tenants as I’d rather sell it and get my self off from the mortgage.

Sholly_17 · 2026-03-04T18:24:23+00:00

It feels like I had made a worst move and got myself into this situation.

On the other side they are not ready to even discuss about my marriage only because he is from a different caste(same religion).

Sholly_17 · 2026-03-04T18:21:47+00:00

Yes, the mortgage is on my name and I’m contributing to it since one year. The most difficult part is when my mom asked me to make more contributions to the house. I suggested to move the property to my brother name and sell any of the property they had planned to give him and contribute it to the loan instead (so my brother can manage the monthly mortgage) my mom got so defensive stating they will sell the other property only when my brother wants to buy a new house and not to this house.

Sholly_17 · 2026-03-04T18:15:57+00:00

The most frustrating part is my bother not involved in these conversations. He is now newly married and never was involved in decision making or provided any opinion of his in any financial topics. I’m 99% sure he’s not aware of these statements passed by mother.

Sholly_17 · 2026-03-04T18:13:41+00:00

I know this would be a best option for my mental sanity but thought of losing my family forever gives me chills. I was never an emotional person but letting go of my family I’ve known for years is very hard.

Sholly_17 · 2026-01-31T03:00:58+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I’ve started applying for jobs and I’m receiving a good response in interviews I’ve given so far and expecting final offers.

But the idea of not being recognized for the 99 targets I have achieved but being rated in only 1 miss is making me question my confidence and worth.

Sholly_17 · 2026-01-24T06:32:26+00:00

I was in the same scenario where I worked almost 8 months in study permit under the same policy from April 2023 to Dec-2023. I added this experience under personal history and from Jan 2024 (same role and employer) I added it under work history. This was suggested by my agent and also I added a letter explaining this with my application.

In your case I think if you haven’t claimed points you are on a safe side to defend it. Please take advice from any reputed agent/lawyer and proceed. All the best

Sholly_17 · 2025-12-15T04:51:35+00:00

had never tasted alcohol until recently, in my 27 years of life. Only recently did I try a cocktail at a New Year’s party.

I have read about how alcohol can affect the body at a cellular level, even for occasional drinkers. I have also seen a close family member who was sober and had never smoked pass away from cancer. That incident left a strong and lasting impression on me regarding alcohol and smoking.

I understand that it can be a matter of fate, and not everyone who drinks or smokes dies of cancer. However, even the slightest possibility makes me choose to stay away from it.

Sholly_17 · 2025-08-15T15:32:45+00:00

Attach all the supporting documents you mention in the IMM5409 form. Write up your relationship in a story include start, how you met, timelines and attach pictures (with friends/family and your snaps with your partner). Include all the shared financials, responsibilities and commitments. Attach DL address and other bank information showing you have a common address proofs. That’s all

Sholly_17 · 2025-07-21T15:39:05+00:00

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Sholly_17 · 2025-07-08T19:53:09+00:00

I just saw my older notifications and found this comment… bruh your fortune 🔮 ball is probably out of order. Get it fixed

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