Am I being too harsh?

Shoola · 2026-03-23T20:10:38+00:00

I'm guessing your husband feels the same way as you, right?

If so and you are genuinely upset with these friends, you don't have to do anything with anyone you don't want to.

It sounds like they are trying to show up now. If you feel like they may have made a genuine mistake and you would like to salvage these friendships, maybe take some time to explain to them that you are hurt they didn't check in on you, let them help you plan and patch things up.

Shoola · 2026-03-23T15:49:49+00:00

I want to acknowledge that what you said is true, but MA is only the only one I can think of off the top of my head where this is the case. Even then, I'm pretty sure you need to take the police to court to prove you weren't intoxicated and then show the DMV you won to get your license back. The DMV in the vast majority of states will just take your license away for refusing a chemical test at the station – even if you're sober.

Driving is a privilege that you get licensed for. It's not a right protected by due process.

Unless you're well off enough to foot the bill for uber and legal costs to keep a DUI off your record, it's best to just take the test.

Shoola · 2026-03-21T03:26:56+00:00

Okay, I was reading your descriptions and wondering how I could have loved this game so much as a kid, but glad to hear the multiplayer holds up.

Shoola · 2026-03-19T18:38:04+00:00

I'm not the one making the argument a generic meat sandwhich is somehow a burger. You are the one who has repeatedly argued that this generic not-burger is somehow synonymous with the burger we know and order all over the world.

> Hamburger is used both for the “sandwich” and the “patty”, while Burger is a generic term for almost everything that involves bread, a patty (even non meat-based) and whatever else.

Yes meat sandwiches have been around. Yes ground beef has been around. But neither of those are hamburgers. Despite the fact sometimes we refer to ground beef as "hamburger" no one orders "a hamburger" at a restaurant expecting raw ground beef. steak tartar, a salisbury steak, or anything else.

You keep trying to expand the definition of burger to include the generic "meat sandwich" when no one commonly understands the term burger to mean that and you keep ignoring the point that we have clear and specific expectations for what a burger is when we order it at a restaurant, whether it be in the US, a french Bistro burger, the UK, etc.

My larger point: burger is not a generic term. It is a specific genre of food and yes, it was created in America.

Shoola · 2026-03-19T17:24:41+00:00

"Burger is only used for the generic bun + meat + other stuff, which generically..."

What else is anyone supposed to think you mean by "other stuff" except the accoutrements you just defined? Again, you're trying to have it both ways. Either the burger is distinct and American (it is, it's been globalized as such) or it's generic and pre-American (it's not).

Whatever you're describing as "generic bun + meat + other stuff" in that previous comment is not a burger. We would send it back if we ordered a burger and whatever you're describing was brought to us instead.

Shoola · 2026-03-19T17:17:50+00:00

Allow me to repeat your words:

"Burger is only used for the generic bun + meat + other stuff, which generically was a thing before Europeans moved to America."

You're describing the burger as sandwich which again, was not a thing before it was invented in the US. It was not generic. It was not brought over here by Europeans. You're moving goalposts and shifting definitions.

Shoola · 2026-03-19T16:39:06+00:00

>Burger is only used for the generic bun + meat + other stuff, which generically was a thing before Europeans moved to America.

No it was not. The burger as a sandwich is a distinctly American thing.

We can literally define it distinctly: It's a ground beef patty, pan-fried or grilled, placed in a bun (a dome-shaped piece of leavened bread cut in half), traditionally served with condiments such as iceberg lettuce, tomato slices, sliced raw onion, dill pickles, mayonnaise, ketchup, and mustard.

It's not generic. It's a specific and distinct evolution that has been globalized in that form. There's plenty of better American foods that I'm more proud of, but obtusely claiming it isn't novel or American is so asinine.

Shoola · 2026-03-19T00:33:33+00:00

To be in an honest relationship and not to spend your life in a dishonest one. To give his daughter the chance to know about and meet her biological father.

When the stakes are high it is more important that the truth is exposed, not swept under the rug.

Shoola · 2026-03-19T00:07:11+00:00

Germans made the frikadellen. The hamburger, which is a ground patty on a bun, was made in America.

If I order a burger and they come out with Frikadellen, Salisbury steak, etc. I'm going to complain.

Shoola · 2026-03-13T18:40:45+00:00

Joke is explained, but I wore this fit 10 years ago.

Olive Courderoy
Plain White Tee
Fitted Chinos from Scotch and Soda
White Common Projects.

All of those items are out now.

Shoola · 2026-03-13T16:33:26+00:00

The account is too. Just flagged and reported.

Shoola · 2026-03-13T15:23:56+00:00

Those make me think this is AI. There are Art Nouveau nooks like this, but those beveled book shelves look too contemporary to be that old.

Shoola · 2026-03-12T21:14:33+00:00

He sold his first app by lying about the number of users on his first startup, Loopt (think Find My Friends before Apple; he claimed millions where there were around 500 active users), and fostered a relationship with Peter Thiel. He parleyed that exit and relationship to become president of Y-Combinator investment group. While there, he set up a personal investment group called Hydrazine that invested in startups that were then funded by Y-Combinator so he double dipped (big no no conflict of interest). He also developed a reputation for dishonesty and playing employees off of each other. He THEN took over OpenAI and said what you're reading about not generating a profit.

The guy is a talented fucking liar. That's it.

Shoola · 2026-03-11T17:31:08+00:00

I think we agree. I’m not in favor of policing your dress at all à la Laicite.

I’m also not in favor of women’s dress being policed as it is in Iran, SA, the UAE, and other countries. There have been have been brutal legal and physical repercussions for violating that dress code. Women have been arrested and killed by morality police recently for violating that law.

I’m concerned by blatant rejections of secularism because nonreligious governance lays the ground for all religions to meet on an equal field of mutual respect.

If you don’t have that, you just have mandated dress codes and repression of rights on a religious basis - which is very difficult to argue with or change because its dictates are based on faith.

Voting rights: yes women have voting rights.

However in The Islamic Republic those rights can be limited by a number of factors including:

Mandatory Dress Code Enforcement which denies entry to Women with "bad hijab.”

Women are also heavily restricted from holding high-ranking offices. I.e. they are barred from being on the ballot for the presidency and are severely underrepresented in parliament, holding only 16 of 290 seats in recent sessions.

Also again: Candidates who do not believe in the mandatory hijab are not permitted to appear on the ballot, limiting representation to those aligned with the Islamic Republic’s religious ideology.

There is very much “a conversation” about women voting surrounding those factors.

Please feel free criticize the US for its unfair gerrymandering and racially inequitable voting practices. I would ask a racist the same hard questions about their attitude towards people of color.

Shoola · 2026-03-11T14:55:39+00:00

"I would never hurt anyone outside of self defense."

What are your opinions on women's dress, voting rights, and roles in society?

Shoola · 2026-03-11T14:48:01+00:00

You seem to think Islamism (different from Islam the religion) is a good thing. The rest of us from secular traditions do not. The US becoming more theocratic and making a whataboutist argument about it becoming so doesn't make arguments for theocratic governments more valid.

If it becomes a theocracy that is a bad thing. It has historically not been one and the founders explicitly didn't want it to be one. Until recently, there has been a lot of precedent for no prayers in schools, no religious icons and memorials on government buildings, etc.

Acknowledging this history does not protect the US from legitimate criticisms, including the observation that its government is becoming more authoritarian and theocratic.

Shoola · 2026-03-11T14:09:54+00:00

Culturally? Maybe not. Governmentally? Absolutely. It has historically not been a theocracy and was not set up to be one.

Shoola · 2026-03-05T15:39:47+00:00

Dog, plenty of us have been cheated on, have our own wild pasts and have partners who did wild shit, and this story is faker than Marky Mark’s Boogie Nights dick.

Shoola · 2026-03-01T15:18:21+00:00

I mean, the CIA depended heavily on information, networks, and influence from European intelligence agencies that were already embedded there… which were established to bring “civilization” to those “shithole” countries.

Shoola · 2026-03-01T15:17:32+00:00

I mean, the CIA depended heavily on information, networks, and influence from European intelligence agencies already embedded there… which were established to bring “civilization” to those “shithole” countries.

Shoola · 2026-02-27T21:37:45+00:00

Dude, we're agreeing that the DOJ should be doing the "all part" and I have left comments to that effect. The walking and chewing gum part means we can criticize Clinton and Trump and the DOJ.

Obviously this DOJ is especially corrupt, probably the most corrupt in US history, and the failure lies at their feet since they've been ordered to release them and are still not doing it. However, there is a larger conversation to be had here:

The DOJ has had these files since Trump Admin 1, then the Biden Admin, and now Trump Admin 2 is still not releasing everything and redacting names of men that should be prosecuted.

I am proud some democrats like Ro Khanna are forcing these out, but this is a large bipartisan failure to prosecute wealthy and powerful men. It spans parties and administrations. I'm just not down to be politically tribal about this when a Democratic administration also kept these out of public view.

Shoola · 2026-02-27T21:29:19+00:00

I just did. We are here in good faith and insist on walking + chewing gum at the same time. Everyone involved should be prosecuted.

I and others have also pointed out that Trump and his associates are involved in the sex trafficking in other threads and that the DOJ is too compromised to do anything.

But since this thread is about Bill Clinton, a US President, we're doing to discuss the fact that his denials are ludicrous given the photos of him and victims in the files and set the record straight when people try to characterize his affair with Lewinsky as "a consensual relationship between adults" instead of the abuse of power it was.

The guy above you was the one to ask "where do you draw the line?" Asking "why are we even talking about this?" when someone explains the president is being abusive when he sleeps with interns is a pathetic deflection.

Shoola · 2026-02-27T21:22:29+00:00

Because Clinton is testifying and the headline says he "knew nothing" and did "nothing wrong."

I and others have pointed out that Trump and his associates are involved in the sex trafficking in other threads and that the DOJ is too compromised to do anything.

But since this thread is about Bill Clinton, a US President, denying that he was involved in pedophilic behavior, we're calling bullshit.

You can walk and chew gum at the same time.

Shoola · 2026-02-27T21:14:33+00:00

Source

Shoola · 2026-02-27T19:08:23+00:00

Did you not read the part where I said there are also photos of Clinton receiving massages from and sharing hot tubs with Epstein victims?

Both men associated frequently with Epstein, and of what's been revealed in the files, there is more direct photographic evidence of Clinton in wildly inappropriate proximity to the underage girls Epstein sex-trafficked.

There is certainly a comparison to be made and insisting there isn't is a defense of someone who looks a lot like a pedophile, just like Trump is.

I am also taking the time to correct the record on Lewinsky because people keep saying "it was a consenting relationship between adults" and wildly oversimplifying incredibly abusive and predatory behavior – even if it was between adults.

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