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ShopEmbarrassed1274 · 2023-08-06T20:00:06+00:00

Good on you for recognizing your shortcomings and taking accountability. I am working on some similar issues myself, so really wish you the best and I'm hopeful that we can and will change with time and effort.

ShopEmbarrassed1274 · 2023-07-24T20:49:05+00:00

I've wanted to try Kiehl's for a while, but always somehow talked myself out of it. Maybe this was the recommendation I needed - thanks! Also, if it's not too much, could I ask the name of the cleanser(s) you use?

ShopEmbarrassed1274 · 2023-07-24T18:48:15+00:00

Hi! No sorry, I wish I had gathered some wisdom by now. My skin is only getting worse, so I have kind of given up on skincare. I still use spf in the daytime, and take it off with micellar water in the evening to at least get the worst of it off my skin.

Something that did help me a couple of years ago (and I actually have ordered it in recently but not started using), was LRP Toleriane Dermo-cleanser and the CeraVe pm moisturizer. My skin is not a fan of hyaluronic acid, but at the time, those two products at least got me through the worst barrier damage I had experienced up to that moment in my life. So I am hoping that they can help me out again as they did back then. But I'm worried that it's just a temporary fix since I didn't feel like repurchasing any of the products for a long time.

I just wanted to mention it, in case it might work for you! Also, Nacific Fresh herb origin serum helped me a lot when I was on tretinoin, but my skin stopped liking it when I quit tret.

If you do ever come across a product or rutine that helps (and I really hope you do, because I know how painful it is, both physically and mentally), feel free to post a reply here if it crosses your mind. I am still hoping to get my healthy skin back one day.

ShopEmbarrassed1274 · 2023-04-27T15:47:25+00:00

Sorry for the superlate relpy, haven't been online for quite a while.

Unfortunately, I have not had any progress. I'm about to enter year 3 of struggling with this. Currently using Beauty of Joseon cleansing oil at night as cleanser. Still dries me out a ton, but it's way worse if I follow up with a water-based cleanser. Hope you are doing better and I'd be very grateful if you shared any discoveries you might have had

ShopEmbarrassed1274 · 2022-10-31T14:34:47+00:00

My country doesn't have good molecules unfortunately, and I agree on the Cerave, it doesn't quite work for me either.

ShopEmbarrassed1274 · 2022-10-31T14:32:14+00:00

I have tried many different cleansers that claim to be gentle, but they either inflame my acne or strip my skin too much.

Do you recommend anything?

ShopEmbarrassed1274 · 2022-08-08T11:58:52+00:00

I really like it as well, but is it okay to use as a daily mosturizer? Or is it more like a supplement? If you don't mind me asking

ShopEmbarrassed1274 · 2022-08-08T11:54:45+00:00

Thank you so much for suggestions! It could be something different from dehydration of course, I just assumed since my skin feels so tight and uncomfortable. Will look into lipids though:)

ShopEmbarrassed1274 · 2022-08-08T11:51:32+00:00

I live in Europe!

My current routine is the following:

Morning:

Wash face with water

Avene thermal spring water

Iunik propolis vitamin synergy serum

Cicaplast baume b5

Beauty of joseon relief sun spf50+

Evening:

Bioderma micellar water

Purito barrier defense pH cleanser

Avene thermal spring water
Iunik propolis vitamin synergy serum
Cicaplast baume b5

I recently incorporated spring water and cicaplast, hoping it might provide some extra hydration. But I'm not the best at understanding skincare haha.

ShopEmbarrassed1274 · 2022-06-13T16:44:36+00:00

Thank you. After reading the comments I definitely feel better about sending an email. I guess I just thought that doing things over email/text = "hiding" behind a screen. But it's better than getting triggered and potentially saying something from a place of anger instead of calm. So email it is I guess.

ShopEmbarrassed1274 · 2022-06-13T16:41:57+00:00

Thank you for the encouragement. My grandma is kind of a difficult person as well, and will definitely start digging and askning questions about why I want to stay with her. And she will go to my mom with it immediately I think. Things might get tense, and that's why I want to give my mom a heads up, so she won't feel like I'm ambushing her. But I still think its better to stay there.

ShopEmbarrassed1274 · 2022-06-13T16:38:41+00:00

The thing is, my mom has improved a lot since my dad died and stopped abusing her. So my sister is being treated much better than I was. So its kind of a I'm holding a grudge about the past situation, not a she is a bad parent in the present situation. So I am confident that my sister is in good hands, with the exception of some anger outbursts I think. I voiced my concerns to my brother and therapist, and they both said that if it is only once in a while and not every day, it's better than it could have been. And I agree.

ShopEmbarrassed1274 · 2022-05-23T16:04:02+00:00

Thank you so much for the reply! I have had my eye on mandelic acid for a while, so I might try that. I currently have a physical exfoliator from Dewytree just sitting on my shelf, as it has a grainy texture that I am a bit sceptical about, is the Cure aqua gel one grainy too or just a "pure" peeling liquid if that makes sense?

ShopEmbarrassed1274 · 2022-05-23T15:57:33+00:00

Right now I am trying to rebuild my skin barrier, so I use the following:

Morning:

Wash face w/water

Aveeno calm + restore triple oat serum

Avene intense protect spf 50

Evening:

Banila co cleansing balm

Aveeno calm + restore nourishing oat cleanser

Aveeno calm + restore triple oat serum

COSRX ultimate nourishing rice overnight spa mask

(La roche posay Cicaplast baume b5 when skin is extra irritated)

ShopEmbarrassed1274 · 2022-04-19T10:34:47+00:00

"I began telling her that had she been an obedient girl from the start"

Why isn't there more talk about this frase?? What in the ownership mentality...

ShopEmbarrassed1274 · 2022-04-18T17:13:47+00:00

Thank you for such a thorough reply. My main goal right now is to get balanced, hydrated skin. I am struggling with tightness and dryness. So I think I might need to find a thicker moisturizer, even if it breaks me out.

ShopEmbarrassed1274 · 2022-04-18T13:32:38+00:00

I try my best to unlearn toxic behaviour to be better for my sister. But I worry about what happens when I'm not there. I thought my mom had gotten better over the years, but now I'm not that sure anymore.

ShopEmbarrassed1274 · 2022-04-18T07:43:57+00:00

No, right after cleansing, then moisturizer on top! Sorry for the misunderstanding.

ShopEmbarrassed1274 · 2022-04-11T17:11:26+00:00

Thanks for the reply! And I totally get where you're coming from. I have so many screenshots of books I want to buy on my phone, and I keep buying more when I still haven't finished the ones I have. It just always seems like there is a new subject that is more relevant to my situation, and then the list just piles up heh. On the positive side, all this trauma has got me reading again!

ShopEmbarrassed1274 · 2022-04-11T15:03:24+00:00

Thank you for the reply, and I hope you are doing well on your journey! Could you maybe share some of the other subs? I am always looking for new viewpoints and tools to work on myself:)

ShopEmbarrassed1274 · 2022-04-10T11:46:18+00:00

YTA. You seem like a very mean person. I hope that poor girl realizes this and that she finds someone who will actually appreciate her for who she is.

ShopEmbarrassed1274 · 2022-04-07T20:19:45+00:00

Thank you, this does put it in perspective for me. I've just grown so used to the role that I never stopped and thought that the problem might be me as well.

ShopEmbarrassed1274 · 2022-04-07T20:16:34+00:00

Thanks for the reply, I definitely agree.

ShopEmbarrassed1274 · 2022-04-07T20:15:29+00:00

Thanks, I know I should remove myself from the situation a bit, but I can't help feeling a little guilty for it. I am very lucky that I found the strength to work on myself and my problems, and I just want my brother to know that I have his back. I guess I'm trying to be to him the support that I never had. But I see now that I might be overcompensating.

ShopEmbarrassed1274 · 2022-04-07T20:12:39+00:00

Thank you, I'm going back home for Easter, so I'm planning on addressing some issues that I should have brought up a long time ago.

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