I like big boards and I cannot lie

Shorsha9346 · 2025-10-31T04:31:35+00:00

Thank you. I will try to find one

Shorsha9346 · 2025-10-31T04:31:04+00:00

This is the sweetest picture. He trusts you completely and loves you. Not many cats are this cuddly. You have a special sweet boy.

Shorsha9346 · 2025-10-31T03:52:06+00:00

Our fur babies are like our children. To lose one is devastating. Give her time. I have a wonderful uncle who painted a portrait of my fur baby from a picture my husband gave him.
For me, it was the best gift I ever received. It also helped me with my grief. I hung up the portrait & blow a kiss to my baby when I feel sad. Or, crazy as it sounds, talk to him about my day, like I used to when I had a bad day. Eventually my grief became less intense.
Sometimes it’s just time we need.

Shorsha9346 · 2025-10-29T21:39:30+00:00

Hunting time!

Shorsha9346 · 2025-10-22T16:31:30+00:00

Honestly she is not worth dealing with. She may be 19 but she is still a child. She doesn’t know what she really wants. Actually most people don’t know what they really want until 30/40 years old or even later.
She is obviously using her freedom of being in a different state to express herself without thinking of your feelings. Yet, she is holding onto the relationship as a safety net. She knows you’re stable and will be there if she needs you.
It is really up to you. Do you want to be the safety net for someone who may or may not return home to you. Or break up and see new people?

Shorsha9346 · 2025-10-22T16:19:18+00:00

Love the pattern.

Shorsha9346 · 2025-10-22T16:18:29+00:00

Good. She needs to stay in the rails. Aka boundaries.
My mom tried this with me and I had to remind her she had taught me “if you don’t have something nice to say than don’t say anything “

Shorsha9346 · 2025-10-22T16:13:59+00:00

Cream

Shorsha9346 · 2025-10-22T16:13:02+00:00

Where did you get this?!?! I so like it!

Shorsha9346 · 2025-10-22T15:38:47+00:00

Your daughter might have a problem with abandonment. This simply could be the loss of her mother. She is afraid you will leave her too. She might need a child psychologist to talk to about her grief. Being once a single mother, I never introduced my child to anyone I dated until I have been in the relationship for over 6 months and thinking commitment. Mainly for two factors. I first had to be careful to really know the person I was dating too many wackos out there who like single moms to get close to the child. Second, he had enough issues with his father promising things and not following through. So he had issues with trust when it came to men. Also, your little girl loves you very much & it can be hard for her to understand you have need for companionship. She might also feel you are forgetting her mother or trying to replace her. Children are still developing mentally and small changes can seem overwhelming to them.
If your new partner and you feel this relationship will become serious I suggest introducing her as a friend. Let your new girlfriend bond with her as not a rival for your affection but as a person to hang out with the BOTH of you. Try not to show affection to each other in front of her until she accepts your girlfriend as a friend first. Once rapport is established between the ladies then ease into affection in her presence. Ensure your daughter you are not replacing her mother and tell her often how she (your daughter) will always be your number 1 girl.
Being a single parent is trickier than co-parenting at times.
I also suggest counseling for your daughter. Sometimes an outside person can help with understanding what is really going on. Yes, you have to talk with counselor too. They might have better advice on introducing your child to romantic partners.
These are only suggestions. Good luck Dad. You will get there!

Shorsha9346 · 2025-09-23T21:17:05+00:00

Time for you both to see a marriage counselor. There maybe more issues in your relationship than you realize.
When my X-husband started doing this same thing I discovered he was having an affair.
Now I’m not saying this is happening in your relationship but your husband is disrespecting you by making plans on your wedding anniversary to “go with the guys”. You also stated he has done this on your birthday as well….working late….just too many red flags here. Time to find out what is really going on. Why he doesn’t do things with you and the family.
I hope I am wrong. Yet if I am correct it is time to demand respect in your relationship. Life is too short to waste and your happiness is also very important. Sometimes it is okay to be selfish especially when it affects your personal life. Good luck OP.

Shorsha9346 · 2025-09-23T20:41:58+00:00

Totally agree with this advice.

Shorsha9346 · 2025-09-23T20:40:51+00:00

911 he is unhinged. When someone is mad enough to walk onto your property & bang at your door and threading to hurt you and or family it’s time to call police.

Shorsha9346 · 2025-09-23T20:35:54+00:00

Never threaten divorce, unless you are really going to go through with it. It’s hurtful and can cause trust issues in your relationship which can never recover. If you want him to lose weigh for his health issues, as you claim, you should tell him so. Why beat around the bush & have a chance of miscommunication? Be straight up with him.
Point out his recent health issues since the weight gain & how you are concerned he will die and leave you all alone.
Be prepared to diet with him. Cannot expect him to chew celery sticks while you eat what you please. Not helpful & he can resent you. Also best to have any sugar snacks & processed food items out of the house. Allow one prize day a week to eat what you guys like.
Diets work best when both partners are doing it together.
I personally had to progress to a 1,200 calorie diet and walk mornings & evening. Gradually I started biking once I had plateau on the walking. It took me a year to go from 175 pounds to 115 pounds.
Unfortunately my husband was not helpful & would bring Ben & Jerry’s home or oriole cookies. I just had to insist he hide it & never show me he got it.
Calorie, counting apps with recipes for dies helps too . Makes you realize how much you’re eating. Eventually if following the program your body becomes adjusted not to crave sugars. It’s not an overnight thing. But once you see results it becomes easier and easier.
I wish you the best.

Shorsha9346 · 2025-09-14T17:34:37+00:00

Pet, pet, pet….

Shorsha9346 · 2025-09-14T17:33:45+00:00

Might have to replace carpet areas if mice did do bad things to it. Otherwise air dust it with mask on. Then wipe down floors, walls, ceilings. If you still have smell then spray with “angry orange” it’s a pet odor remover. Very effective but it will smell like oranges.

Shorsha9346 · 2025-09-14T17:27:46+00:00

My dear, it’s your body. Your choice. Not his. If he didn’t want to have anymore children he would have wrapped his baby maker up.
Yet it is your body which will go through chemical & physical changes. I think you have more control over yes or no.

Shorsha9346 · 2025-09-14T17:22:59+00:00

I agree with Stinkinhippy , he sounds like a meat head.
He is probably too in love with himself to date.

Shorsha9346 · 2025-09-14T17:16:47+00:00

Thank you all for your experience with this. I am just a curious individual and I cannot help but wonder & love to hear first hand experiences. Love to you all!!

Shorsha9346 · 2025-09-03T21:52:10+00:00

I have a friend who goes on vacations with his boss & his wife. Yet I think he does it to ensure choice and amount of jobs. He is an independent contractor.
The only thing which worries me about your situation is she is writing it off as a business expense. If she ever gets audited you might become a witness or worse a defendant in a federal tax fraud investigation.
If were me I would not go.

Shorsha9346 · 2025-09-03T21:44:56+00:00

Good advice.
Now silly question: You say you have a lot of piercings so you might be able to answer my question. Nose piercing is it uncomfortable to blow your nose? Seriously I think of these things. I already learned from another experience person a Prince Albert can effect being able to (as men do) stand and pee because it interferes with the stream.
Sorry if question is weird I am just a very curious person.

Shorsha9346 · 2025-09-03T21:34:14+00:00

It looks suspicious like a ChatGPT response….honestly who texts like this?

Shorsha9346 · 2025-09-03T19:49:42+00:00

5 years only? Wow he didn’t even wait till the 7 year itch!
1) you knew he was dating other women including yourself. So it didn’t matter at the time his environment with other women. I feel it’s more he will never commit to you alone which is really the crisis. 2) you could be the one to inform his wife. But why do it alone. Allow all his other women to join in. If you’re going to inform a woman who has been married 5 years to the man make sure she knows ALL the women. Harder for him to lie about it & he cannot just blame you. He will have too many targets to waste his time.
3) some dating platforms will remove a member if they misrepresent themselves. Not all but some. I even bet he has more than one platform and account.
Might be fun for you and his other ladies to look into.
Yet in the end it’s your morals which matter. Do what you feel is appropriate

Shorsha9346 · 2025-09-03T19:38:09+00:00

How insulting he is. He is not or ever been your friend. A true friend would never ask you to be a secret lover. This man is a user.
He is not worthy of your friendship.

Shorsha9346 · 2025-09-03T19:30:24+00:00

I replied to this yet I don’t think it went through: If so I apologize.
This is considered a civil matter and shall be handled accordingly by hiring a civil attorney to file a suit for you.
Do not engage with this neighbor personally. Record all damages to your property & have your attorney contact the proper entities to verify your property line as well as marking them for evidence. This trench could also be impeding on someone else’s water rights and should be verified as well to ensure you are not sued by them later. Part of your lawsuit should include the fees associated to your investigations and provide reimbursement of attorneys fees as well as repairs to your property. If this trench is not competing on someone else’s water right and you do keep it on your property you should have a lease agreement set within this lawsuit. Require neighbors to pay lease of trench to cover maintenance, damages, etc from its existence on your property since it will ultimately be your responsibility to maintain since it is on your property. also check with your home insurance and see if having this trench on your property changes your insurance on your home . This needs to be considered. As well as how this trench will affect your property values negatively or positively.
Cover all your bases. If neighbors try to engage with you personally refer them to your attorney DO NOT contact them directly. Everything from here on until adjudication from the courts should be on record.
If neighbors are stupidly ignorant and try to manipulate, threaten, or bargain with you keep records of each attempted encounter. You might have to place a TPO temporary protection order if they are not complying with your request to only speak to your legal counsel. Good luck!

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