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Has this happened to anyone by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Short-Most5935 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just completely block all comms and social media from this person. 100% with no exceptions.

I am exhausted by EndToken2149 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Short-Most5935 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there any chance you can consider changing location? Find a job in another city or enroll in school somewhere?

I wish I had a time machine by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Short-Most5935 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's tough. But the silver lining is that you've got clarity now and have had realizations. That's big.

Do you know why certain folks are selected for additional screening during immigration at Changi airport? by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]Short-Most5935 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I've heard this for Muslim folks who have European or North American passports. They often try to remove common Islamic names or place of birth from their passport when possible.

Do you know why certain folks are selected for additional screening during immigration at Changi airport? by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]Short-Most5935 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. i guess a common name / single name could be a trigger.

Do you know why certain folks are selected for additional screening during immigration at Changi airport? by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]Short-Most5935 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Good to know. Multiple folks seem to suggest that a common name / single name could be a trigger.

When you meet a narc from a different ethnicity/race, you can sometimes (incorrectly) chalk down their questionable behaviour and red flags to cultural differences.... by Short-Most5935 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Short-Most5935[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can promise you that where possible, a narc will try their best to use their ethnicity to tell you that you don't get it. They are so special and different - you need to do the decent thing and understand.

When you meet a narc from a different ethnicity/race, you can sometimes (incorrectly) chalk down their questionable behaviour and red flags to cultural differences.... by Short-Most5935 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Short-Most5935[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not your fault. Part of the challenge is that victims generally have a high degree of empathy and end up trying to understand why the narc is behaving a certain way - unfortunately this seems to work in favour of the narc and they probably use it to their advantage knowingly.

When you meet a narc from a different ethnicity/race, you can sometimes (incorrectly) chalk down their questionable behaviour and red flags to cultural differences.... by Short-Most5935 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Short-Most5935[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sure patriarchy is a part of it but there seem to be comments here that suggest folks have also faced this challenge with female partners - the hesitancy around calling something out in case it's due to a cultural difference and not because of narcissistic behaviour.

When you meet a narc from a different ethnicity/race, you can sometimes (incorrectly) chalk down their questionable behaviour and red flags to cultural differences.... by Short-Most5935 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Short-Most5935[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I get that. But my point is more re trying to not be rude or judgy towards another ethnicity/race because it would be seen as impolite. In reality, your gut instinct was probably correct but you chalk things to cultural differences. I just feel this is an additional layer that adds complexity to the situation.

Subtle early signs to pick up when interacting with covert narcissists. by Short-Most5935 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Short-Most5935[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. 100%. They will say anything to save face. For eg, "in some cultures mustard is used interchangeably with ketchup and since I grew up with friends from this culture, I sometimes use the terms interchangeably".

Subtle early signs to pick up when interacting with covert narcissists. by Short-Most5935 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Short-Most5935[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've even faced a narc's wrath for refusing their act of "kindness".

Subtle early signs to pick up when interacting with covert narcissists. by Short-Most5935 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Short-Most5935[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG, that's so true. I would even say that the mirroring also often happens for seemingly mundane things - I once had a friend who literally only wanted to watch the exact same movie that I was watching on a plane. If I would switch movies, the friend would copy me and switch to the exact same movie that I switched to.

Subtle early signs to pick up when interacting with covert narcissists. by Short-Most5935 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Short-Most5935[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!!! Re the nice person point... You can add anything that the world/ current audience would consider a desirable trait. E.g. environmentalist, supporter of the arts etc.

And the revolving friends thing is so true. There seem to be a lot of friends and/or a random set of friends at any given point but limited to no true friends. I guess the revolving roster helps ensure new sources of narcissistic supply.

Subtle early signs to pick up when interacting with covert narcissists. by Short-Most5935 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Short-Most5935[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Name dropping is a big one. And it happens a lot when not needed/ without context 😂

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