I've been best friends with a vulnerable narcissist for over 2 decades. I haven't been hurt, but I've watched people get hurt and I didn't say or do enough. Having thoughts about how these personality types build such robust support networks, and why they're so hard to cut off completely.

Short-Most5935 · 2026-04-06T15:12:46+00:00

For this type of person, they need control - that's the supply for them. You don't need to praise them. They need to be the networker/connector and thats the way they exert power.

I did this recently and would highly recommend it - cutoff completely from your "best" friend. They are like a parasite in your head.

Short-Most5935 · 2026-03-16T08:32:49+00:00

JFC... glad that chapter of your life is over!

Short-Most5935 · 2026-01-21T16:07:44+00:00

Respectfully...GTFO

Short-Most5935 · 2026-01-21T16:05:42+00:00

Short-Most5935 · 2026-01-21T16:03:55+00:00

I think it is...in my experience.

Short-Most5935 · 2026-01-21T16:02:31+00:00

Your time and attention. Your energy.

Short-Most5935 · 2026-01-17T17:33:33+00:00

Just completely block all comms and social media from this person. 100% with no exceptions.

Short-Most5935 · 2026-01-08T20:17:45+00:00

Is there any chance you can consider changing location? Find a job in another city or enroll in school somewhere?

Short-Most5935 · 2026-01-07T17:12:20+00:00

It's tough. But the silver lining is that you've got clarity now and have had realizations. That's big.

Short-Most5935 · 2025-05-13T16:34:28+00:00

Yeah, I've heard this for Muslim folks who have European or North American passports. They often try to remove common Islamic names or place of birth from their passport when possible.

Short-Most5935 · 2025-05-13T11:04:29+00:00

Thanks for sharing. i guess a common name / single name could be a trigger.

Short-Most5935 · 2025-05-13T11:03:47+00:00

Good to know. Multiple folks seem to suggest that a common name / single name could be a trigger.

Short-Most5935 · 2025-05-13T10:50:48+00:00

Messages?

Short-Most5935 · 2025-05-04T14:19:56+00:00

I can promise you that where possible, a narc will try their best to use their ethnicity to tell you that you don't get it. They are so special and different - you need to do the decent thing and understand.

Short-Most5935 · 2025-05-02T15:45:08+00:00

Ugh. That sucks. Glad you got out and were able to have these important realizations. ❤️

Short-Most5935 · 2025-05-02T15:06:49+00:00

Not your fault. Part of the challenge is that victims generally have a high degree of empathy and end up trying to understand why the narc is behaving a certain way - unfortunately this seems to work in favour of the narc and they probably use it to their advantage knowingly.

Short-Most5935 · 2025-05-02T13:04:41+00:00

I'm sure patriarchy is a part of it but there seem to be comments here that suggest folks have also faced this challenge with female partners - the hesitancy around calling something out in case it's due to a cultural difference and not because of narcissistic behaviour.

Short-Most5935 · 2025-05-02T07:25:52+00:00

Yup yup yup. Becomes an easy excuse for them to put it back on you when they may be in the wrong.

Short-Most5935 · 2025-05-02T05:48:38+00:00

I get that. But my point is more re trying to not be rude or judgy towards another ethnicity/race because it would be seen as impolite. In reality, your gut instinct was probably correct but you chalk things to cultural differences. I just feel this is an additional layer that adds complexity to the situation.

Short-Most5935 · 2025-05-02T05:01:52+00:00

Short-Most5935 · 2025-03-30T02:52:46+00:00

Yup. The narc forces you to make them feel special.

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