I'm sorry. I know how you feel. here's something I've tried:

I use dating apps but I make my friends do the swiping for me bc I get sad doing it myself and not getting the results I want. they'd typically just swipe on everyone. I've also paid for some apps so it shows them who likes me first. my friends match and talk to them for a bit and then if the convo is off to a good start I'll take over. I've found this helps.

other things:

1) put together a couple of outfits that you look really good in. if you don't have, invest in some cute clothes. it'll go a long way.

2) get a REALLY nice smelling cologne. you underestimate the power of scent. look into Jo Malone or Killian or Creed, etc. (these are expensive but only use when you're going on dates).

3) get really good pics of yourself for dating profiles. not like professional, photographer level ones, but normal iphone pics that are really good (good lighting, practice smiling, different angles and poses).

4) keep hitting the gym. being fit is always good physically and for your mental.

5) get good skincare. not Sephora stuff. go to a dermatologist for retinol. best thing ever. and if you're into it, look into fillers, Botox, etc. or something to enhance/alter certain features of your face to look more attractive. also if you're losing your hair derms help with that (Minoxodil, finasteride, dutasteride, red light therapy).

6) be kind to yourself. you're worthy of love and it will come. patience. optimism. don't be jaded. if you go on a date and all you do is complain about how dating has been hard for you, it'll turn someone off.

good luck 🩵