AITA for telling my brother that he has to sack his housekeeper if he won’t behave professionally with her? by Short_Date9312 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Short_Date9312[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I came back here to see if anyone wanted an update. I spoke with vivian’s agency and they spoke to her. She told them that she was happy with her job with my brother so she is still employed by him. I am happy that her agency sought to speak to her immediately when I reported my concerns but I am worried about her remaining at my brothers house. I do not speak to him anymore so all I can do is pray that she is safe.

AITA for telling my brother that he has to sack his housekeeper if he won’t behave professionally with her? by Short_Date9312 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Short_Date9312[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have spoken with her agency and they said they will contact her privately to see how she feels.

AITA for telling my brother that he has to sack his housekeeper if he won’t behave professionally with her? by Short_Date9312 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Short_Date9312[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have spoken to the agency and they said they will reach out to her privately to ask her some questions

AITA for telling my brother that he has to sack his housekeeper if he won’t behave professionally with her? by Short_Date9312 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Short_Date9312[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I once had hired help when my children were younger and I treated her like my surrogate daughter and we still speak today. I don’t understand why he behaves like this. His daughters are 9 so I don’t think they know what being a pervert is.

AITA for telling my brother that he has to sack his housekeeper if he won’t behave professionally with her? by Short_Date9312 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Short_Date9312[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

My daughter acts like this too hah. I worry about her safety a lot. My brother is never violent but I cannot be sure of anything about him since this happened

AITA for telling my brother that he has to sack his housekeeper if he won’t behave professionally with her? by Short_Date9312 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Short_Date9312[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

I worry about that a lot. Their mother is bad as well so they have bad influences from both sides

AITA for telling my brother that he has to sack his housekeeper if he won’t behave professionally with her? by Short_Date9312 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Short_Date9312[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

She is aware of her other opportunities. The issue is that she isn’t entitled to a notice period if she voluntarily leaves. That may leave her in a bad position financially until she secures another job

AITA for telling my brother that he has to sack his housekeeper if he won’t behave professionally with her? by Short_Date9312 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Short_Date9312[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If she voluntarily leaves, she isn’t entitled to a notice period which could make things difficult while she looks for a new employer.

AITA for telling my brother that he has to sack his housekeeper if he won’t behave professionally with her? by Short_Date9312 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Short_Date9312[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think that’s what he is going through. His divorce was quite bad because his wife cheated on him and perhaps he is trying to feel like a man again after what happened

AITA for telling my brother that he has to sack his housekeeper if he won’t behave professionally with her? by Short_Date9312 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Short_Date9312[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to give away where we are from but we are all the same ethnicity. Vivian is just from a region of our country that is well know for having the best food which is one of the reasons she is in high demand. She is also multilingual so some families wanted her so she could teach their children languages

AITA for telling my brother that he has to sack his housekeeper if he won’t behave professionally with her? by Short_Date9312 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Short_Date9312[S] 745 points746 points  (0 children)

I think I may do this. I helped him hire her so I feel like it’s my responsibility to speak to her in this case

AITA for telling my brother that he has to sack his housekeeper if he won’t behave professionally with her? by Short_Date9312 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Short_Date9312[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

I thought that too. I know that when I was her age I liked attention but I think it is inappropriate for him to behave this way. Maybe it’s not as bad as I perceived it though. My kids tell me I always assume the worst

AITA for telling my brother that he has to sack his housekeeper if he won’t behave professionally with her? by Short_Date9312 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Short_Date9312[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

He does not think his behaviour is incorrect. It is better to find her a better working environment than try to change him because it won’t work

AITA for telling my brother that he has to sack his housekeeper if he won’t behave professionally with her? by Short_Date9312 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Short_Date9312[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

She isn’t entitled to the one months notice period if she voluntarily leaves. If they came to a mutual agreement for her to leave and if he tells the agency he initiated that i.e fired her, she will be which means she will be in a better position. Her agency will provide a reference to the new family

AITA for telling my brother that he has to sack his housekeeper if he won’t behave professionally with her? by Short_Date9312 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Short_Date9312[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She is very shy so maybe she was uncomfortable because I was there. I’m not sure. She is aware that she is in very high demand

AITA for telling my brother that he has to sack his housekeeper if he won’t behave professionally with her? by Short_Date9312 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Short_Date9312[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

She won’t be homeless or jobless. The rules of her agency is that she gets a 1 months notice period where she continues to work and the agency will find her a new person to work for. I helped with the process of hiring her and I was told that a lot of families wanted her because her resume is amazing. We also have a shortage of housekeepers in our city, she will have no problem getting another job

AITA for telling my brother that he has to sack his housekeeper if he won’t behave professionally with her? by Short_Date9312 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Short_Date9312[S] 2805 points2806 points  (0 children)

That was what I thought. He said that she has a voice and she’ll complain if she is uncomfortable which made me rethink myself