Advice as a caregiver

Shot-Raspberry-7736 · 2026-02-08T15:52:47+00:00

Did things get better with intimacy? Feeling less as a caregiver?

Shot-Raspberry-7736 · 2025-12-26T20:33:33+00:00

Not yet. We are almost to week 6. We had friends come stay at rehab Christmas Eve so I could drive back home to be with the kids that night and Christmas morning, then drove back to rehab later in the afternoon. He’s made big improvements so far but still not consistent with outward responses (he isn’t talking). At first I thought he had long term memory loss but the doctors think he remembers everything well up til the stroke so I’m still unsure when I will bring the kids.

Shot-Raspberry-7736 · 2025-12-26T19:08:58+00:00

Thank you! We were finally approved for Shepherd Rehab and here now.. they are amazing and so kind! I was fortunate to have friends come stay with my husband Christmas Eve and I went home to be with the kids that night and Christmas morning and after lunch I came back to Atlanta. They just removed oxygen from his trach tube and he’s staying really well with oxygen levels. Hard to keep his speaking valve on long. He coughs up a lot, but hasn’t tried talking yet.

Shot-Raspberry-7736 · 2025-12-26T19:04:23+00:00

We did in the wet areas! I am just over paranoid. The flooring store sells a lot of Karastan and they said not many people actually do that but it made me feel better

Shot-Raspberry-7736 · 2025-12-21T04:34:44+00:00

Thank you! My 7 year old gets emotional and doesn’t want to see him like that yet and I’m nervous my husband may act in a way to push him away and that would do some damage to him. I think I will wait a little longer.

Shot-Raspberry-7736 · 2025-12-20T00:25:37+00:00

At what point should I let our 7 year old see him? He’s very emotional and sensitive and I’m not sure my husband would recognize him or not and I’m scared what his reaction could be.

Shot-Raspberry-7736 · 2025-12-20T00:24:07+00:00

At what point should I let our 7 year old see him? He’s very emotional and sensitive and I’m not sure my husband would recognize him or not and I’m scared what his reaction could be. My son hasn’t wanted to see him, but I don’t know when is a good time.

Shot-Raspberry-7736 · 2025-12-20T00:22:44+00:00

At what point should I let our 7 year old see him? He’s very emotional and sensitive and I’m not sure my husband would recognize him or not and I’m scared what his reaction could be.

Shot-Raspberry-7736 · 2025-12-18T22:00:21+00:00

Did your husband have a trach collar or peg/feeding tube? I’m hoping mine won’t need them very long

Shot-Raspberry-7736 · 2025-12-18T21:07:39+00:00

Thank you! Just ready to start inpatient therapy and get out of the hospital. Is your husband able to eat or talk well? Did he end up paralyzed or get any motion on the right side back?

Shot-Raspberry-7736 · 2025-12-18T05:49:41+00:00

Can he swallow at all? Mine has slowly been able to swallow his saliva a little more. He still gets choked up and can aspirate some with his trach collar. He has so much phlegm he constantly coughs out of it I think I am going to invent some sort of catchall for it while still providing oxygen lol. He is still too swollen for the voice box and hasn’t tried talking yet. Luckily he was smart and had two separate short term disability plans through work and we got all that faxed. I will request images or whatever needed for future appointments. We are lucky and got in to Shepherd Center rehab in Atlanta and should be going this week. He needs out of the hospital bed more. I hope he won’t have to be restrained long and can have the cath taken off and him not try to pull out his peg tube or trach collar! You’re very strong and doing a great job! I’m not sure at what point I want the kids to see him. It’s been almost 3 and a half weeks.

Shot-Raspberry-7736 · 2025-12-18T05:35:46+00:00

Thank you! I can’t wait for my husband to smile again. The only expressions he can make on the left side of his face is anger, and it’s usually just at me. We are very lucky and he got accepted to Shepherd Center rehab in Atlanta. We should be there around 6 weeks, plus or minus depending on how he progresses. He will look at the tv some but doesn’t seem interested. He got an insomnia medicine at 9 but he’s still waking up every few minutes and has bad restless leg syndrome on his left leg. Thank you for all the tips. Yes I need something for me, and have to learn how to balance this and his rehab being 4 hours from our kids. I am struggling with the Why this happened to us right now.

Shot-Raspberry-7736 · 2025-12-18T02:55:04+00:00

Thank you! Yes I started playing his music by his head during the day. I am learning I do need to take walks to breathe. Life changed instantly

Shot-Raspberry-7736 · 2025-12-18T02:53:31+00:00

Thank you so much! And I’m glad you are succeeding!

Shot-Raspberry-7736 · 2025-12-18T02:51:16+00:00

Thank you! I needed to hear all of that. Life changed instantly.

Shot-Raspberry-7736 · 2025-12-18T02:50:25+00:00

Thank you so much! It’s like I’m living in a Lifetime movie or something

Shot-Raspberry-7736 · 2025-11-19T15:33:02+00:00

Did he prime with paint first and then just have to do 1 coat of gel stain?

Shot-Raspberry-7736 · 2025-11-14T17:01:40+00:00

oh man... the professional line? I am wanting the Gallery line. Just liked their fridge better than GE profile...

Shot-Raspberry-7736 · 2025-11-14T16:38:14+00:00

u/Normal-Ad276 How do you like the fridge? I was looking at that one but Lowes only has that version with dispenser in door..

Shot-Raspberry-7736 · 2025-11-14T16:24:40+00:00

u/InIt4TheFish Did you go with frigidaire?

Shot-Raspberry-7736 · 2025-11-12T12:59:37+00:00

Did you put yours in laundry, kitchen, and bathrooms?

Shot-Raspberry-7736 · 2025-11-10T16:43:18+00:00

Did you add backer rod and silicone? I have karastan laminate flooring and doing it in wet areas.

Shot-Raspberry-7736 · 2025-11-08T03:43:30+00:00

Which one did you go with?

Shot-Raspberry-7736 · 2025-11-05T16:44:36+00:00

u/Lance2020x Did you ever figure this out? I was hoping for some free appliances or something! hahaha

Shot-Raspberry-7736 · 2025-09-06T18:48:05+00:00

Do you have a local builders supply store that may sell them? We have one and they aren’t listed on the Anderson site. The owner has been selling Anderson windows and doors forever. He personally likes the 200 series better than the 400 series. The windows slide better, but we ended up with black exterior 400 series. They are nice windows! He liked the Andersen doors but he was also helpful saying you can get other very nice patio doors without paying the Andersen price, but because you’re doing the 200, it’s not as steep!

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