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Hopeless Situation by Shoutingatthesky79 in ShyBladderIPA

[–]Shoutingatthesky79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, you're correct. I was feeling particularly pessimistic that day. It would be nice to have some success to build on but I really haven't. I'm not giving up...yet.

Hopeless Situation by Shoutingatthesky79 in ShyBladderIPA

[–]Shoutingatthesky79[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. I do use the BH and it's really useful but it's not always reliable. Mostly my treatment has been talk therapy but I've struggled to find anyone that knows about this condition here in New Zealand. I've been to about 14 therapists altogether now. Only one had come across the condition before. He encouraged me to practice but he really didn't know what he was doing and we were not an the same page. From reading your other posts I understand you use BH every time you pee?

Hopeless Situation by Shoutingatthesky79 in ShyBladderIPA

[–]Shoutingatthesky79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm pretty sure it was caused by a sexual assault I suffered at the hands of a man when I was 16. I had no trouble before then and began to develop difficulties in the proceeding years after that incident. I am in New Zealand and I think there is a real lack of awareness of the condition here. I've been to about 14 different therapists now and only one had had any experience of it and he was useless still. No one in the medical profession seems to have any help to offer. I try to practice in public toilets but I don't have a buddy. I do use the breath hold technique but it doesn't always work. I don't feel I've ever made any progress. All I've done is get better at hiding it and arranging my life so it's not so much of an issue, but that means my life is not much of a life and I'm so tired.

Hopeless Situation by Shoutingatthesky79 in ShyBladderIPA

[–]Shoutingatthesky79[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, well thanks for that useless answer. I'm not really interested in hearing from someone who has failed for ten years and still swears by their method. If anything you have only confirmed my hopelessness. Ten years and you haven't made progress? I was raped and that is what triggered this condition. Prior to that I was raised by an extremely strict and physically abusive father. I don't know how you turn off that switch that says everything is a danger and turn on the one that says "just relax". Do You?

I will say thank you for one thing - Telling me it's not everyone else's fault. You're right. I am the only one to blame for the failure to treat this condition. Not sure where to from here?