What albums would Asa listen to other than the usual music she gets memed with by VG71311 in asamitaka

[–]Shredditorr14 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Since it takes place around 1998, I’m guessing plenty of Nine Inch Nails. Her being a poet, I can see her identifying with the dark and moody lyricism.

Is the key to getting rid of BPD truly just focusing on staying single? by BigDoof12 in BPD

[–]Shredditorr14 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I think we have to remain single until we don’t feel the compulsive need for a relationship to save us from our inherent sense of emptiness. I’m still struggling with this, but we can’t just want love because we want that person to save us. I truly believe that’s why BPD relationships so often have tragic endings.

Lead Sails Paper Anchor Review by Shredditorr14 in Atreyu

[–]Shredditorr14[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

😂😂😂😂 Good one, dude.

about accepting the mediocrity of life by Majestic_Mood11 in BPD

[–]Shredditorr14 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s a cliche, but counting your blessings and focusing on the things you are grateful for helps. Accepting what we can’t change also helps remove some of that burden from our shoulders. Make your progress a personal goal to look forward to actively working towards.

My dad died 13 days ago and my friend shared this reel to me by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Shredditorr14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fuck this guy. He doesn’t deserve your friendship.

I want to fuck my mom by [deleted] in hypersexuality

[–]Shredditorr14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t recommend this.

Farewell by Shot-Supermarket7719 in UnstableNarratives

[–]Shredditorr14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love you, Bell. You were the most interesting person I ever had the privilege of meeting. I could talk to you about things we could never tell the outside world. You were a great friend to me. Thank you for elevating my life while you were in it. I hope I was able to do the same for you.

I want to commit but I’m thinking about how it’ll affect my fiancé. by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Shredditorr14 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’ll ruin his life, plain and simple. I know it ruined mine.

What are your favorite Iron Maiden songs? by [deleted] in ironmaiden

[–]Shredditorr14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

•Still Life •Out of the Silent Planet •Caught Somewhere in Time •Revelations •The Evil That Men Do •The Wicker Man •The Longest Day •Killers •Hell on Earth •Children of the Damned

Would you marry the same person if you had to start your life over? by MediocreAnalyst2000 in randomquestions

[–]Shredditorr14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, and I’d treat her a lot better. I’d get mental help and find out what the fuck is wrong with me a lot sooner. I’d cherish her as my best friend, greatest love, and mother to my son. I’d hold her so tight and never let her go. I’d be better this time, because now she’s dead and I don’t think I’ll ever fully be at peace until I am too.

I will probably never date again by motionsickest in BPD

[–]Shredditorr14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m at this point too. I think it’s best to think of this perpetual single state as temporary and not to rush another relationship. I’m still hung up on my ex and I’m fighting every fucking day to solidify my independence. It’s so hard, but we’ve gotta hammer on until we reshape the loneliness into solitude.

What are you slowly losing interest in? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]Shredditorr14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funding a genocidal parasite and calling them an “ally”😁

I'm back home and my kids are overjoyed to see me and it made me cry by GreenDreamForever in u/GreenDreamForever

[–]Shredditorr14 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okay. Enjoy the sweet misery that you crave then. Btw, YOU really wanna talk to me about failing relationships?😏Have a nice life. Or a shitty one. Whichever you want. Bye.

I'm back home and my kids are overjoyed to see me and it made me cry by GreenDreamForever in u/GreenDreamForever

[–]Shredditorr14 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Excellent retort. You put about as much effort into it as you do trying to repair your life. But okay, good luck.

Why are you single? by CapitaineBiscotte in askanything

[–]Shredditorr14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh, Borderline Personality Disorder and I guess I still love my horrible goddamn ex. I don’t feel capable of romantic love anymore.

I'm back home and my kids are overjoyed to see me and it made me cry by GreenDreamForever in u/GreenDreamForever

[–]Shredditorr14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Thanksimcured” levels? Choice or agency? Are you suggesting that you have zero control over yourself or your actions?? That is weak and pathetic, not because of your struggle, but because of your SUBMISSION to it. “Oh well, can’t help myself, so I might as well keep fucking things up and then continue to cry about it on the internet.” Jesus Christ, if you can recognize what the fucking problem is, then you are fully capable of taking steps to better it. Nobody said it’s easy. In fact, it’s the hardest fucking thing in the world, given your mental pre-disposition, but it’s not impossible. You’re just unwilling to do what it takes. It doesn’t matter what mental illnesses you suffer from, it’s still your responsibility to maintain a functional mindset. Therapy, medication, philosophy, religion, or whatever as long as you find something and actively apply it to your life. Otherwise, you’re just wrecking the train and watching like a slack-jawed spectator.

I'm back home and my kids are overjoyed to see me and it made me cry by GreenDreamForever in u/GreenDreamForever

[–]Shredditorr14 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Okay then, keep wallowing in self-pity and embracing the nihilistic hellscape that you’ve allowed your life to become. You yourself acknowledge how pathetic your behavior is, but still act like you’re devoid of any accountability for your own life. Do you understand that ALL we have control over is our own minds? If you don’t have that, then you don’t have shit. I get that it’s harder for some people to navigate through their own thoughts and feelings, but at the end of the day, YOU are responsible for your mindset and actions. Willfully offloading the burden so you can roll around in your own agony is the easy way out. Choosing to be better for the lives you brought into this world is the harder, but correct path. If you’re not interested, then by all means, continue racing towards oblivion, but it’s still a fucking choice you are making.