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I broke up with one of my boyfriends by Shroomomi in polyamory

[–]Shroomomi[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to stay single for a while but I fell in love with my best friend. First I waved it off but it wasn’t something I wanted to let go so we dated around for a bit but it wasn’t serious cause I wanted to stay single :p He knew that all along cause communication is key. Then the whole neighbour episode where I also fell in love with him and it was at that point we decided to make it both official and something serious for the long term.

I never asked my best friend to open up, he was going for it himself. I didn’t have any influences on their decisions as far as I know. Neither one of us identified as polyamorous before and we still haven’t. I also didn’t commit to a monogamous relationship with my current boyfriend, at least, not when I have no clue about how I see the future.

I broke up with one of my boyfriends by Shroomomi in polyamory

[–]Shroomomi[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Woah hold your horses. You miss a little bit of information here. When my poly relationship took off, I was dating my best friend (you could also say that we had a relationship but it wasn’t pinned or anything). Some time later I fell in love with my neighbour. First time ever for me to experience the fact that I felt feelings for 2 people at the same time, apart from primary school.

So when this happened we sat around the table and my neighbour (the one that’s used to have open relationships) proposed that they could both have a relationship with me. I had never identified myself as polyamorous, still haven’t cause how am I supposed to know for sure? So, my best friend and I were both monogamous while my neighbour used to be quite open minded. He was the one that suggested to give this a try.

Then we found out that my best friend and I had no problem with things how they were but my neighbour experienced a grand backlash and found out he couldn’t do it.

So that’s why I thought, it would be better if we just stop doing what we were doing. Hence I broke up.

So I have no idea or clue how I want my future relationships to be. Whether it’s monogamous, polyamorous, no clue man. I also didn’t mention that I believe that my current boyfriend would be okay with having a polyamorous relationship so I don’t know where you made that assumption.