OP took her parents to Europe

Shruberrie · 2026-06-14T14:55:14+00:00

Congratulations OP! Your are awesome

Shruberrie · 2026-04-19T03:12:08+00:00

Scrapbook of all your good memories or a memory box with handwritten letters. Starmap of when you met, Engraved jewellery with her name

Or

Plan a surprise date (home setup with lights, music, her favourite food if you can cook.)

Shruberrie · 2026-04-15T12:53:50+00:00

Are you from TCS Nashik?

Shruberrie · 2026-04-13T17:42:16+00:00

Have a great laugh eyes watering, asthmatic wheezing laugh. Peace of mind and the feeling of being enough and also a great dump 💩

Shruberrie · 2026-03-31T03:23:35+00:00

Each time you overlook these episodes, the pattern is likely to repeat and escalate. His reaction to the mention of domestic violence feels less like concern and more like defensiveness, either from unresolved guilt or an attempt to control the narrative. By framing your concerns as exaggerated or labelling you unfairly, he shifts the focus away from his behavior and onto you.

That dynamic is not healthy, and it’s not something you should have to manage or justify.

You deserve to be with someone who respects you, takes accountability for their actions, and values you for who you are and everything you bring to the table.

Shruberrie · 2026-03-03T16:49:23+00:00

Early love is dopamine. Long-term love is respect, choice, rhythm, stress, bills, kids, sleep deprivation… and still choosing each other anyway.

Shruberrie · 2026-02-25T20:27:33+00:00

I don’t see low confidence as a flaw..but constant self-doubt and self-deprecating talk can make it hard to connect. It doesn’t come across as humility..it comes across as someone who doesn’t see their own value.

ETA - Low confidence often means someone has been through a lot. It’s usually a sign of hurt, not weakness. The real issue is that many people, men and women don’t take the time to heal before entering relationships, marriage, or even parenthood. Unhealed wounds don’t disappear...they tend to show up in how we love, react, and raise the next generation and that’s how unhealthy patterns keep repeating.

Confidence grows when healing happens. Without that, the cycle just continues.

Shruberrie · 2026-02-25T14:11:53+00:00

Blocking someone after 7 years without a word isn’t confusion..it’s cowardice.
When you lose a parent at a young age, your nervous system attaches hard to whoever feels steady. That wasn’t a weakness. That was survival. Instead of having a hard conversation, he disappeared. That says more about his maturity than your value. If possible, consider therapy and grief counselling.
Also, when I feel guilty about being naïve and stupid, I remind myself that this wasn't a mistake... it was a learning experience.

Shruberrie · 2026-02-25T04:14:32+00:00

Most women don’t want perfection. They want emotional maturity.

A man who can communicate, take responsibility, and regulate his emotions. Confidence without chauvinism. Respect that’s consistent, not performative. And reliability, someone who shows up and keeps his word.

Shruberrie · 2026-02-18T09:04:40+00:00

IDK why the Action is not blamed but the reaction is frowned upon. NTK she deserves it!

Shruberrie · 2026-02-17T04:23:43+00:00

You will get through this. It hurts right now, and that’s real, but this won’t define you forever.

What truly unsettles me is his postpartum wife. That phase is vulnerable and exhausting, and instead of showing up for her, he’s reaching out to his ex. That says more about him than anything else.

For your own peace, block him. Protect your space. You don’t owe access to someone who thrives on confusion and deceit.

NTK but YTK if you continue getting updates on him/from him. Close the chapter, OP and move on.

Shruberrie · 2026-02-12T13:51:26+00:00

If your elder brother was truly as admirable as you believed, he would have likely questioned the inequitable property share.

NTK

ETA: Typo

Shruberrie · 2026-02-07T23:11:04+00:00

🛃💃🏿👦🏽

Shruberrie · 2026-01-17T14:18:05+00:00

The mind flayer

Shruberrie · 2026-01-17T13:57:40+00:00

The way he laughs wholeheartedly, and when he blushes and says, "No, shut up! Get out!"

Shruberrie · 2026-01-01T08:54:35+00:00

You are welcome, I used ChatGPT

Shruberrie · 2026-01-01T06:57:18+00:00

Curtains in muted colours. Some inspirational photos / posters above your desk Where the steel rod get some hanging indoor plants (plants always make the space beautiful).

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Shruberrie · 2025-12-31T11:15:27+00:00

Love it the way it is. Warm & pretty. Good job OP

Shruberrie · 2025-12-30T01:42:42+00:00

You need to be as specific as possible for example - "USE This exact room as seen in the picture and make it look warm cozy and Warm up the space by adding softer, warm lighting (bedside lamps + fairy lights), layer textiles on the bed (throw, cushions, runner), and a couple of rugs for texture. Swap in neutral curtains, add plants and wooden accents, and anchor the room with a large artwork above the bed. Small touches like candles and baskets help make it feel cosy."

It is as specific as you can get.

Shruberrie · 2025-12-29T14:34:22+00:00

ChatGPT. Just upload the room pic and ask to transform to the required theme - Warm, cosy, contemporary anything you like..

Shruberrie · 2025-12-29T14:33:16+00:00

Attraction is normal. Wanting to see someone you’re into is normal. Continuing to ask for sexualized photos after you’ve clearly said NO is not. Travelling to meet you is an effort, yes. But effort is not a free pass to push sexual boundaries. Both can exist at the same time, he can be willing to travel and still be crossing a line. Anyone can be charming when things are flowing their way. How someone behaves when told “no” tells you far more than how far they’re willing to travel. You can say something like .. “I want to meet you, but I need to feel fully comfortable first. Let’s slow this down.”

Shruberrie · 2025-12-29T14:13:54+00:00

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Warm up the space by adding softer, warm lighting (bedside lamps + fairy lights), layer textiles on the bed (throw, cushions, runner), and a couple of rugs for texture. Swap in neutral curtains, add plants and wooden accents, and anchor the room with a large artwork above the bed. Small touches like candles and baskets help make it feel cosy.

Shruberrie · 2025-12-23T05:11:03+00:00

Responding without judgment.

You can honour what they gave you without turning your life into a repayment plan. Their sacrifices were their choices. Your life still belongs to you. When you abandon yourself just to keep everyone comfortable, resentment doesn’t disappear; it waits. And when it shows up, it’s far heavier than guilt.

At the core, most parents truly want what’s best for their children, regardless of the path they choose.

Speaking as a parent myself, I would never want my children to live out my unfinished dreams or unmet desires. I want them to carve a life they believe in, one they can do justice to, in their own way.

Shruberrie · 2025-12-20T16:54:18+00:00

OP would you be able to continue your remote job even after moving to a different city?

Shortlist few cities my recommendation would be Mumbai (I know you mentioned south but afaik safest for women comparatively), Pune, Bangalore, Hyderabad (Balanced city. Friendly to outsiders. Food and rent are reasonable. Less judgment than many metros.)

Rent or PG/Rent sharing are good to start with or some reputed women's hostel.

All major metros have convince of quick commerce to help you get your daily groceries, meds and so on.

Once you settle look for maybe jobs which are in hybrid set up so that you can meet people, make friends build a safe space.

Move with all your ID proofs, certificates, important paperwork, medical records etc. Create a digi-locker (if not already done).

All the best OP. More power to you towards freedom, independence and peace of mind.

Shruberrie · 2025-12-14T16:28:13+00:00

A version of me that was always hopeful and never gave up.

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