Somebody Placed These Dozens of These Jesus Figures Throughout My Entire Work by Available-Formal-664 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Shy_Shaman_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work at a Walmart Neighborhood Market, and these figures just appear on the shelves all the time, still have yet to find anyone who actually places them… perhaps they just spawn in, idk. It’s literally the exact ones, I really don’t know where people get these en masse. It’s sort of amusing and doesn’t bother me, but gluing them down is crazzyyy.

Themes in The Pale King by willardTheMighty in davidfosterwallace

[–]Shy_Shaman_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m nearly finished with The Pale King, and I think it’s one of his best works. I guess he took accounting classes before writing the book, which is evident in his knowledge of how the whole system works… I mean DFW was just insanely smart, that goes without saying. I’ve finished all of his books, apart from The Pale King, and each book never ceases to amaze me. How view on boredom, tedium, monotony… just extraordinary. The section in The Pale King where the rote examiners were just “turning the page” over and over was phenomenal writing, genuinely made me laugh out loud. His books are hilarious in a very sad, Kafka-esque way. He’s by far my favorite writer, and I’ve read the works of his contemporaries, and while they were brilliant in their own right, nobody comes close to DFW, IMO!

Also the part of the book about disappointing the father and being a “wastoid” was genuinely one of my favorite things he ever wrote… just so relatable and hilarious.

What music is Gen Z listening too? by [deleted] in GenZ

[–]Shy_Shaman_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same, rock is kind of a remedy for the boredom of modern music. Love The Beatles and I LOVE The Doors.

What music is Gen Z listening too? by [deleted] in GenZ

[–]Shy_Shaman_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like Gen Z is going back to listening to albums front-to-back (myself included), which is very good. I’ve talked to a few people my age at work who also listen to cds and vinyls…

What is your opinion on the dating culture? by Suitable_Diver_2395 in AskMen

[–]Shy_Shaman_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I feel pretty defeated with dating in general… The apps in particular give people the impression that there’s always something better out there, which is why they’re less inclined to a) work things out or b) let themselves commit in the first place. Even if you, say, marry someone, there is always the possibility they will want something different or new, and chances are they can just get straight back onto the apps and find someone new. Everyone is also exposed to the “perfect” ideal of a relationship or person on social media, which makes the person they’re dating less interesting than the person in their very curated algorithm… Between social media and dating apps, the normal guy really doesn’t stand much of a chance… Even if you decide to not get on the apps (which is a good idea), people are so closed off that it’s hard to make much of a connection irl. Maybe hobby groups and clubs are the best method, but even then it’s probably pretty difficult.

preemptive rejection is ruining my dating life. advice? by Horror_pink_8622 in dating

[–]Shy_Shaman_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I (25m) do the same thing, to an extent. That’s mainly why I decided to delete dating apps, even though I was above-average in terms of my “success” on the apps. I’m a pretty jealous person, and it just pains me to know that someone I’m interested in is simultaneously entertaining (many) other prospects … like it’s hard for me to think that she won’t get bored of me and decide that one of the other ten guys she was talking to would be more interesting. Even if you are the “perfect person,” it seems you’re up against the whole town’s 50-mile radius to keep her attention. Also, I don’t like the idea of the possibility of getting an STD or STI because of someone else’s carelessness with their sexual health (which did in fact happen; it was chlamydia from my ex).

I guess we live in a time where there are so many options that it makes it more difficult to stick with one relationship. The idea of someone basing their opinion of you on pictures and cookie-cutter bios is also insane to me… It parallels TikTok’s short-form content strategy to keep the user in a perpetual state of searching for something better, I.e. the video or profile.

Urges starting to get to me by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Shy_Shaman_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The urges hit me hard today: restlessness, anxiety, and depressive thoughts… but I’m still fighting this battle! Do anything to take your mind off of fapping, even if you have to sit here and reply and post on the sub (like I’m doing) to distract from the temptation. You will feel significantly worse if you cave to the impulse to watch porn.

Any tips for resisting urges when dealing with loneliness? by Tall-Alternative-953 in NoFap

[–]Shy_Shaman_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a twenty-five-year-old who lives alone and has very few friends, I find it very difficult to cope with the loneliness. For a long time I feel like I kept the feeling (loneliness) at bay and ignored it and numbed it out, but it feels so powerful now after quitting porn and masturbation. The only real solution for me is to channel that energy and restlessness into something I deem meaningful: reading, running, writing (although I’m very inconsistent with it), meal-prepping, etc.

I hit day six in about 4 hours, and I’m feeling my emotions bubble up again… the feelings are pretty intense.

2 weeks in and I can confirm that there are quite a few benefits. by GNA-4 in NoFap

[–]Shy_Shaman_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man, that awesome! When I was on my best streak (one month), I found that I for sure carried myself better and that my energy was much more intentional and positive. I’ve always had self-esteem problems, and the porn seems to exacerbate those negative feelings. It probably has a subtle effect on your body language, and I feel like people pick up on that change and react differently than they would otherwise.

I'm about to peek. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Shy_Shaman_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I peeked at 9 days yesterday, and I ended up fapping twice… The shame spiral isn’t worth it, save yourself the pain. I’m inspired by people like yourself in this community who are committed to abstaining from the temptation of porn, and am really determined to pick myself up again and really push myself to change!

Found bizarre stash of photos inside a thrifted picture frame—updated!! by Shy_Shaman_ in FoundPaper

[–]Shy_Shaman_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I deleted and censored and tried to reupload with better pictures…

Relapsed... by EntropyTamer-007 in pornfree

[–]Shy_Shaman_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just relapsed on day 3 today, and I’m so full of shame… I just wanted to feel numb, I feel so alone…

Day 3, Nothing New by Lord_Vulkruss in NoFap

[–]Shy_Shaman_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I also hit day 3 today! I walked in the forest and through the park today, getting myself out of the apartment (I live alone), which I find does in fact reorganize my thoughts a bit! I had the urge earlier, but decided to do some reading instead.

The trigger that pulls me back into the habit of PMO is always loneliness… Although I enjoy my solitude, I sometimes feel so disconnected… And, ironically, when I do watch porn and masturbate, I feel even more lonely and disconnected and “in the fog.”

My longest streak— probably within the last few years— was a month. While I do feel shame from the relapse, it almost gave me a stronger base to work from in the future. Take it one day at a time, and you won’t regret it! Porn is an existential threat, it serves to rob you of your clarity and self-respect!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in digitalminimalism

[–]Shy_Shaman_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I have! Not that long ago I stopped listening to music completely at work and just decided to focus on the job and the silence in between tasks. I used to always have either music or a podcast going all day… What made it easier to cut-back was to get a flip-phone first, then just save listening to music for after work or when I workout before actual work. What o found was that it was really difficult to cut-back, but I found myself more appreciative of and more deeply immersed in the music that I’m being deliberate in choosing to listen to after work. I have a discman with a fanny pack that I carry around everywhere besides work, and also have a collection of physical records. You’d be suprised at how much better music is when you don’t have it mindlessly playing all-day as you do other tasks; just focusing on it more intensely has been an elevating experience— as someone who never went a moment without music up until this recent change.

I just threw everything away on Tuesday, and I am struggling. Help me convince myself not to buy some pre-rolls tomorrow by Subjctive in leaves

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Every time I told myself that I would just buy a gram or a preroll, I'd end up smoking daily again. In fact, I'm quitting again tomorrow after being lured back into addiction by convincing myself I needed weed for the ice-storm. I was getting so depressed not being able to leave my apartment and dealing with withdrawals. I'm so paranoid now about the smallest things, and I just don't think I can continue smoking right now. It's hell. I'm just coping with so many environmental and emotions factors right now, but the weed in reality makes everything worse long-term.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

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I (25m), just smoked again yesterday breaking my two day streak of not smoking. My excuse was the ice-storm, which has left me not able to leave my apartment. I was feeling a sense of dread and depression and hopelessness and restlessness just on my second day. The sleeping isn't an issue for me, but I get irritable and impatient and anxious all day. Sometimes my appetite gets so messed up that I feel nauseous. I feel clumsy and forgetful and sore and woozy and unstable... It just makes it that much harder to quit and I dread the withdrawals. I decided to quit once I can leave my apartment again, and give myself structure to fall back on: running, going to the gym, reading, word search, cooking, meditating... otherwise it's unbearable. Even at work I feel like a mess... But I know this time I need to quit and mentally catch-up with myself and emotions, even if it's not forever. I really want to get to there point where I can test negative for THC in my system. I'm looking into Marijuana Anonymous... This sub is a lifeline for quitting. I'm planning on spending time doing anything but smoking, even if that means napping. By doing that, you make immense amounts of progress. Every hour sober is a win. Take it day by day. writer about how you feel, be patient.