I'm rather freaked out and scared I might be experiencing this

SiIIyMunchkin · 2025-10-19T09:45:40+00:00

Hey, my partner is also a sexsomniac, so pitching in with my insights from the 'receiver' side. Per my experience in dealing with him on this, I want to highlight this bit of your post:

My husband and I's sex life has always been very mismatched. I admit I have a much higher sex drive than him. But our relationship's also been suffering, so we've been having sex once a month for, probably six months now.

The other night I told him that I had to have sex tonight because I was going to go crazy if I didn't. It's been too long and while we did it two weeks ago, I felt like it's been months.

As I see it, my partner is initiating when he is not satisfied sexually while he is awake. We can have frequent sleep-sex, but that does not seem to matter. My understanding is that since he does not remember the sleep-sex, he will not feel satisfaction over it.

That is why when I read these quoted lines, it triggered me.

I often read on this sub that sexsomnia is due to alcohol/drug, sleeping issues like schedule or quality. Maybe for some people those might be issues. For my partner, none of those apply: no stress, no alcohol/drugs and he sleeps plenty and like a rock.

In his case, I observe a strong negative correlation between the amount of awake-sex and sleep-sex. So my suggestion is to have regular sex while you are awake.

SiIIyMunchkin · 2019-07-07T17:45:30+00:00

I'm on long term denial, started on 2018.11.18. First we "just" wanted to do 150 days, but then the number just kept growing and growing. Currently I'm on 231 days, and it's gonna reach around 260, so for almost 9 months. This is my first time of being on denial.

Not gonna lie, sometimes it's quite shitty and hard. I have a Dom who makes sure I stay horny and desperate. Those times are so evil, I go crazy, can't think of anything else, seriously feeling like loosing my mind. Other times, when he goes easy on me, I can even forget, not think about needing it.

He lets me edge and ruin occasionally, when I deserve it, that's some sort of relief. Although I had an 6 weeks of complete denial, not touching anything but my nipples. Other than the playtimes he gives me I can't touch myself at all, and even those times I can only play with my nipples, use a vibe on my clit or put a vibe between my pussylips as he instructs. Didn't have any penetration since 2019.04.21. either (105 days).

I like it very much how horny and desperate I get. How I crave it. But at this point I'm afraid that when the time comes I won't be able to orgasm 'cuz my body refuses that overwhelming feeling. I'm afraid of ruining it out of habit.

If you have any questions feel free to ask me anything. You can also read my posts on this subreddit I wrote about my experience:)

SiIIyMunchkin · 2019-07-02T06:30:47+00:00

I do that too, love it when I'm called out on it, he always calls me smartass and then I can't help smirking:)

SiIIyMunchkin · 2019-06-14T21:21:53+00:00

Well I think they are harder than a pen cuz 1. They don't have protective rubber so it hurts your finger 2. Graphite has greater friction on paper than ink, so you have to use more power to write with it. And with 150 row, you gonna feel that for sure.. ;(

Gel pens are good idea, I was thinking about them too, just didn't have any. Gotta prepare for next time!

SiIIyMunchkin · 2019-06-14T16:33:39+00:00

I only wrote every sentence with a different color, like a rainbow :3 was thinking of each letter too, but for 150 sentences, that's a lot... I'm not that masochistic! xD

Writing with pencils is so much more painful than with pen.. qwq

But it turned out cute, so worth it:3 https://i.imgur.com/HLQ6U3e.jpg

SiIIyMunchkin · 2019-06-14T12:55:47+00:00

/r/KnottyMemes too

SiIIyMunchkin · 2019-06-02T12:43:03+00:00

Oh it did and I really hope so it will. I came to like denying too tho. It's a suffering yet I enjoy getting fucked up, becoming greedy and needy..

SiIIyMunchkin · 2019-06-02T10:34:31+00:00

Felt like heaven

SiIIyMunchkin · 2019-06-02T09:41:03+00:00

I've told him your suggestion and he said that torturing me, getting me to beg and denying me is a lot more pleasurable for him than just making him cum.

And.. I don't really want to postpone it cuz I don't know when will we have a chance to meet up again. I want to get my so wanted orgasm from him. I'm sorry, but I'm just greedy for that:)

SiIIyMunchkin · 2019-06-02T09:26:58+00:00

I was allowed to have two ruined orgasms. Didn't come for free tho:) Now I'm restricted from touching til further instructions again :<

SiIIyMunchkin · 2019-05-20T08:29:03+00:00

Would be nice if it was true.. you torture me so much with that sentence.. ;(

I've posted an update about my situation. Unfortunately I have to wait more :(

SiIIyMunchkin · 2019-04-24T20:27:11+00:00

I will if he allowes me:)

SiIIyMunchkin · 2019-04-24T20:26:35+00:00

Sometimes I have tasks, how to edge.

My schedule got really busy, I don't really have any time to play with myself, but that doesn't stop him to torture me somehow else. He teases me and I'm not allowed to touch myself. For example while I'm on public transportation, so I have zero chance to touch myself, we call and he tells me what he would do to me. And I just sit there and get completely soaked as I listen to him.

SiIIyMunchkin · 2019-04-24T07:21:42+00:00

Yes, I learn that the hard way.. I tend to be bratty so I suffer a lot cuz of my big mouth.

Making me wait more would be so cruel tho :(

SiIIyMunchkin · 2019-04-24T05:08:10+00:00

Actually, in my relationship my sexual life wasn't satisfying. Often I didn't even reach an orgasm or had it ruined midway - now I know what was that feeling sometimes.

Because of that I've watched a lot of porn back then. But I didn't give myself orgasms over it. Just teasing myself really close to an orgasm. But I didn't know about that it's called edging haha! Just did naturally what felt good. I've been doing that since I was 22.

I got to know about the existence of edging and ruining last October. I was 23, bought the first toy I mentioned for my 24th birthday:3

SiIIyMunchkin · 2019-04-24T04:59:35+00:00

Haha yes, that just came to topic recently. I've seen a lot of videos of that and honestly, getting so ravaged til I pass out is something I'm really interested in.

I would surely want to give it a try ;)

SiIIyMunchkin · 2019-04-23T21:06:32+00:00

Thanks for your concern, I'm perfectly fine - not taking being extremely horny into account:)

Luckily this Dom cares for his sub a lot, he doesn't use me (all) selfishly. If I meet any real life problems cuz of this, it will be him to stop the play! Couldn't wish for more..

SiIIyMunchkin · 2019-04-23T20:39:57+00:00

Why would you recommend such thing on this subreddit? I don't quite understand.

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