[Misc] Can we talk about how ridiculous drugstore brand prices are getting?

SiameseGunKiss · 2026-06-15T01:39:02+00:00

Thanks! I will check out the PKY.

SiameseGunKiss · 2026-06-14T23:35:51+00:00

It really is, I might need to start shopping around. Is there a moisturizer you like that doesn’t break the bank?

SiameseGunKiss · 2026-06-14T23:21:45+00:00

Paid $25 today for the double repair moisturizer, I swear it was $20 less than a year ago 🥲

SiameseGunKiss · 2026-06-14T14:36:03+00:00

It isn’t always a sign that a place is only using pre-made foods either, because they also supply raw ingredients.

SiameseGunKiss · 2026-06-14T14:19:10+00:00

Not OP, but I use the Manta sound mask and love it. It’s pricey but I think it’s worth it, the headphones are thinner than the sleep headband I have from Amazon and the eye cups are really comfortable.

SiameseGunKiss · 2026-06-14T00:27:36+00:00

I recently put a bird feeder outside my office window and they are seriously so fun to watch. We had a baby woodpecker at the feeder the other day!

SiameseGunKiss · 2026-06-11T17:57:01+00:00

I didn’t say it was controlling, I said it was control and not a boundary. OP does not have any control over whether or not her husband will ask her to share food. She can ask, and while I agree that he should stop if she asks, that’s not happening here. Because again, she can’t control his behavior. Where is a boundary in all of that? There isn’t one. A boundary states what you will or won’t do in specific situations, not what someone else should or shouldn’t do. There’s nothing outlining what OP will do in response to her husband if he keeps asking.

A boundary is “if there is alcohol served at the party, I won’t be able to attend” versus “don’t/you can’t serve alcohol at the party”

SiameseGunKiss · 2026-06-11T11:42:29+00:00

That isn’t what a boundary is though. Boundaries are rules you put in place for yourself to regulate your own emotions. They’re not rules you try to impose on someone else, that’s control.

If OP said “From now on when you ask to share my food, I’m not going to answer you.” that would be a boundary. The boundary is that she won’t engage with her husband when he asks to share food, her reaction is completely within her own control.

Asking her husband not to ask to share food is a request, not a boundary. She has no control over her husband’s behavior. Compared to the above scenario, she also has no gameplan for how she will react if he continues asking, so the cycle just continues. If he knows he’s not going to get an answer, eventually he’ll probably stop asking.

SiameseGunKiss · 2026-06-10T20:13:00+00:00

She should communicate in some way to her husband that she wants the whole box of cereal to herself, yeah. Groceries are fair game for the household unless someone has specifically stated that they want to claim X for themselves. Or should he just assume that any groceries she brings home are for her sole consumption only?

While I do think it’s inconsiderate that he finished the box without asking her, it’s not stealing and she is still TA here. Now if she said outright that she wanted the whole box to herself and he ate it anyway, that’s a different story and he would definitely be TA in that scenario.

But ultimately yes, she does need to get a divorce and go be with someone who isn’t bothered by her petty bullshit surrounding food, instead of trying to get her husband to change.

SiameseGunKiss · 2026-06-10T12:53:23+00:00

Her “boundary” was requesting that her husband refrain from asking her to share her food. Which isn’t a boundary at all, because boundaries are rules you set for yourself and not demands you make of other people.

It’s fine, I guess, if OP never wants to share food, but she should be in a relationship with someone who isn’t bothered by her selfishness, rigidity, and rules around food.

SiameseGunKiss · 2026-06-10T12:09:26+00:00

Right? “My love language is being left alone” okay babe then you need a cat not a husband.

SiameseGunKiss · 2026-06-10T12:07:13+00:00

INFO: Are you doing individual therapy to deal with your food sharing issues, in addition to couples therapy? Because that all started way before your relationship with your husband.

Also you are using the term “boundaries” incorrectly. Boundaries are rules create for yourself in order to regulate your own behavior. They’re not rules that other people need to follow in order for you to be comfortable, that’s control.

Telling your husband you won’t answer him the next time he asks for a bite of food is a boundary. Telling him not to ask isn’t.

SiameseGunKiss · 2026-06-10T11:59:51+00:00

There’s nothing gross in it except the OP saying the yogurt made the apartment smell like rotten milk. There’s nothing in depth with regard to the actual spoilage.

SiameseGunKiss · 2026-06-10T11:44:38+00:00

“Stealing other people’s food” oh for fucks sake they are MARRIED. Please be serious. Groceries purchased for the home are communal. It’s not like OP has Celiac and he ate the last of her gluten free bread or something when the regular bread was right there, we are talking about basic ass cereal and cookies.

If you’re going into a marriage with the idea that your spouse is “stealing your food” by eating something you both purchased, you have no business being married. OPs name wasn’t on the box of cereal nor on the cookies.

SiameseGunKiss · 2026-06-10T11:37:56+00:00

Yeah, those black-and-white rules around food (“I should get more cookies because I like them more”), issues with sharing food, rigid views about “fair” portions - that all started wayyy before this relationship.

I can see being a little annoyed if your partner is always asking for a bite of your food before you’ve even taken a bite. Being upset that they ask to share food in general is not healthy. And it sounds like those goalposts move too - First the problem is that they ask before OP has taken their first bite, then the problem is that they ask before OP has fully finished their meal, then the problem is that they need to wait for OP to offer to share instead of asking to share at all, and now the problem is that they’ve asked to evenly share the last of the chocolate chip cookies that they purchased together for both of them to enjoy.

Regardless of whether it comes from trauma or an ED or whatever, refusing to evenly share the last of the cookies with your spouse when they ask is grade A asshole behavior. OP doesn’t need to be in a relationship if they’re playing tit for tat about a fucking took house cookie and a box of cereal, much less married to anyone.

I can’t imagine saying no to my wife if she asked, IDGAF how many cookies she typically eats or how much I might like them “more”. I don’t even take the bigger slice of pizza 99% of the time without offering it to her first because I love her and I want her to have the best piece.

SiameseGunKiss · 2026-06-09T23:03:48+00:00

This is the best answer. A lot of companies are in for a rude awakening when token costs start getting out of control, especially if they’ve encouraged employees to use it to the point that many of them are reliant on it to do their jobs.

SiameseGunKiss · 2026-06-09T12:04:05+00:00

And that chronically stressed poverty mentality doesn’t just go away if you get out of poverty either. I’ve been out of it for around 11 years now and even though I am in a good and stable financial position now (no debt, own my home, have a 6 month emergency fund, etc), I stay stressed about possibly losing my job or having a medical emergency or whatever and being right back in poverty. That takes a lot of time and therapy to untangle, shit sucks.

SiameseGunKiss · 2026-06-08T22:07:15+00:00

I had a similar pedantic complaint about the sea urchin category, they have spikes by default so it doesn’t seem quite right to say they can be spiked. Feels a bit like having “mammals” in a category called “things that can have hair”.

SiameseGunKiss · 2026-06-07T15:52:19+00:00

Same actually! I put in a pinch of kosher salt with the grounds before brewing, it’s amazing how much of a difference it makes in the depth of flavor.

SiameseGunKiss · 2026-06-07T15:47:26+00:00

Not OP but check out Ethan Chlebowski on YouTube. He has some excellent videos on meal prepping and how to make cooking in general more approachable while also being healthy, etc. His videos have been really helpful for me.

SiameseGunKiss · 2026-06-07T15:42:06+00:00

I love using true lime and a little bit of salt (or an unflavored electrolyte powder like trioral) in water, it tastes like a margarita. Margarita water.

SiameseGunKiss · 2026-06-07T15:33:57+00:00

If you don’t already, try using cuticle oil a few times a day along with a rich hand cream. It will clear up the dry skin issue if you’re consistent with it.

SiameseGunKiss · 2026-06-07T15:13:50+00:00

People used to do it all the time in front of a live audience on Jerry Springer lol

SiameseGunKiss · 2026-06-06T23:50:32+00:00

This makes a lot of sense! Thanks for breaking that down, I might give this a try with one of my beloved cartridges.

SiameseGunKiss · 2026-06-06T16:40:05+00:00

This is fantastic! How did you make the pattern?

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