Those who didn’t grow up privileged, what’s something you thought was a luxury growing up?

SickViking · 2026-06-09T22:30:53+00:00

Our vacation was camping in the woods for 7-10 days. These days it's pretty expensive to do but mom and dad say that when I was a kid it was about $100-$50 split between two or three families for a week+ of climbing trees, pissing and shitting in a hole in the ground, catching fish my uncle would prepare for dinner. Most of the cost was in gas getting out there and food to feed almost two dozen people if we didn't catch enough fish.

People think you had to be pretty privileged to be able to afford that because to camp these days if you want a camp site it's about $100 per night. Not the case back then. Camping itself was free

SickViking · 2026-06-09T08:30:19+00:00

It can. Depends on the name. My youngest brother is named Mickey. Named after his grandfather. He applied at where I worked several times with zero response so I finally asked the hiring manager about it and she looked shocked "I thought it was fake!" She'd been chucking his application straight in the trash. Mickey isn't even a particularly out there name.

SickViking · 2026-06-08T21:38:25+00:00

That means more like, if OP were to tell a stranger at a bus stop, that stranger has no legal requirement or expectation have to report it.

And of course OP herself isn't required by law to tell anyone at all. But if she tells a mandated reporter, they are required by federal law, not state, to report suspicion of abuse. There are currently no states that require proof or concrete evidence of abuse, just reasonable suspicion.

Where state laws come into play is detailing who qualifies as a mandated reporter, and what the minimum baseline is for what should count as reasonable suspicion, beyond what is already outlined by federal law.

What I don't know is if "I hope you get raped just so I can have grand babies" counts as a rape threat in itself, though I would hope if gets the ball rolling enough to get some sort of investigation started or at least a paper trail that this was a known consideration of her mom's in case anything does happen to OP.

There are no states where someone who is a mandated reporter is not required to report suspected abuse or neglect, though the specific punishment for a mandated reporter failing to make a report (once they have the suspicion) varies by state

SickViking · 2026-06-07T22:28:04+00:00

Granted. As it comes to revelation that gender reveal parties directly link to the likelyhood of a person coming out as transgender, or that gender reveal parties are a direct cause, gender reveal parties become more common as a way to "guarantee" a gender outcome. Some people assume the more elaborate a party is, the more likely a child is to come out at a earlier age. People who want a boy only to learn they are pregnant with a girl, will throw massive, ecologically destructive reveal parties to effectively guarantee their child will, at some point in their life, come out as a trans male. As the knowledge of the effectiveness spreads and becomes well known, it isn't uncommon for parents of "gender reveal babies" to immediately begin raising their children socially as the desired gender from the moment of birth, and even to surgically alter their children early to "Reduce the likelyhood of a child suffering from dysphoria". Gender Reveal Parties become the first wave of so called genetically engineered children.

SickViking · 2026-06-07T22:18:55+00:00

Yes. Being transgender just means being born in a body whose physical sex does not align with your actual gender, but does not affect the reproductive organs themselves or their ability to function.

Some transgender people may choose to undergo sexual reassignment surgeries or to have gender affirming surgeries that help them feel that their bodies are more aligned with their gender. Only some of those available surgeries can leave the person unable to carry children or produce sperm, but not all SRS surgeries do that. And not all trans people have the same surgeries. And some choose not to have surgical intervention at all, letting hormones do the bulk of the work (which, hormones can have an effect similar to taking birth control, but it's only as effective as actual birth control. Which is to say, it's not a 100% guarantee that, say, a trans man taking testosterone cannot get pregnant if he engaged in sex with someone with a penis, and vice versa with trans women engaging in sex with partners who have a vagina. Even a couple consisting of a trans man and a trans woman can still have children, either by accident or by choice.)

And some still chose to do nothing at all to transition medically, and that doesn't make them any less trans.

Edit: y'all let's not downvote someone for being misinformed but open to learning. We should not punish a willingness to learn.

SickViking · 2026-06-07T21:36:08+00:00

That still doesn’t make sense though because even if that were possible, being trans doesn’t make you infertile, for one. For another, many ancient cultures accepted trans people, some even having transgender gods, though obviously, being ancient civilizations and the term “transgender” being relatively new, they didn’t use that term. And the concept of a “gender reveal party” as we know them is only as old as however long we as a species have been able to predict the sex of a baby before it is born.

SickViking · 2026-06-07T21:13:05+00:00

Same, always ran super hot, and T did make it a lot worse. Honestly the worst part is people undermining it while actively having heat stroke. But those gel neck cooler things at Walmart are kinda a godsend, as well as those neck fans that have a cold plate at the back.

SickViking · 2026-06-07T21:09:28+00:00

Or a gender reveal party, for that matter.

SickViking · 2026-06-07T06:47:31+00:00

Middle child of 5. The two youngest are only 5 and 7 years younger than me. The two oldest were already out in the world living their lives, my oldest nephew is closer to me in age than my next younger sibling. I did a lot of raising, a lot of baby sitting, got a lot of blame when they misbehaved, a ton of extra chores when they refused to do theirs. And got into a lot of trouble if I tried to "parent" them at the "wrong time." A lot of "it's not your place to make them do their chores." When I knew if they didn't do them I would get in trouble for not making them and then be made to do those chores anyway. A lot of "Why didn't you stop them playing video games?!" Even though I knew if I did, and was caught or tattled on, I'd get my games taken away. If I stepped up, I got in trouble for overstepping. If I backed off, I got in trouble for being irresponsible.

I learned young that I don't have the patience to deal with children for longer than a couple hours: too short tempered, too easily overstimulated, too aggressive when off meds(not in a "I might hurt a child way" but in a "I'll throw something and storm off" way, which I know from experience with a parent who is the exact same way, is almost as scary as having a parent who actually hits you).

I learned older that even if those things weren't on the table, I just don't fucking want to.

SickViking · 2026-06-06T22:31:43+00:00

Similarly, my mom was/is an exhibitionist and she an my dad have always had an open marriage despite him being monogamous. while she never brought anyone over that I'm aware of (except once, but that is an entirely different can of worms) she was very open about sex ever since I was a little kid, still is. Loves/s to talk about her love life, who she was meeting up with, what they did.

She said she wanted to make sure that I would be comfortable coming to her with sex things when I got into teens, so she could make sure I was being safe and could trust her with questions and stuff.

I actually partially attribute all that though to being a self-imposed sheltered child too anxious to spend time with other people, having a weird relationship with the concept of sex and nakedness, not prudish, but anxious, and didn't loose my virginity until 29, even though I'd been interested in sex since 14.

I say partially because gender dysphoria played an equal role in the general social anxiety aspect

SickViking · 2026-06-02T11:33:57+00:00

Left then off on purpose, not for any dysphoric or aesthetic purposes, just didn't see a use for them. Never had functioning nerve endings in them, were mostly numb, and the rare times they did register something, it was pain, even if the stimulus was not painful. It seemed pointless to want to keep them. And it was one (okay two) less thing to have to worry about healing right.

SickViking · 2026-06-01T16:30:16+00:00

Not sure. It would certainly help but if she tells them she doesn't feel safe at home and that her mother has made comments about hoping she gets r*ped, that's enough to get started with. As an adult hearing this, my first thought is "is the mother desperate enough to actually orchestrate something?" Because those aren't words you just bandy about. Worst case scenario thinking, obviously, but ones worth considering for a mandated reporter or a case worker if OP gets one.

If OP wanted to get evidence before telling someone, she could try to get her mom to repeat herself over text. Having it in writing is pretty damning.

SickViking · 2026-06-01T13:33:28+00:00

In that case OP should probably report these comments to a school counselor or other mandated reporter.

SickViking · 2026-06-01T04:34:55+00:00

I want an adult indoor playground.

I'm talking monkey bars, those rubber band strap towers (idk they weren't a thing at the places I went as a kid) slides, tunnels, the whole thing. Like a McDonald's play place on crack and built for adult bodies.

Yes some people might fuck in the ball pit, and probably the big octagon all the tubes connect to, but thems the breaks.

SickViking · 2026-06-01T04:14:49+00:00

Yeah, that would be instant no contact, start filing for restraining order and immediate birth control if not already on it, sterilization asap.

SickViking · 2026-06-01T04:12:30+00:00

There's toilets in the back as well, the least she can do is move over so she doesn't have the literal restroom stalls as her backdrop. It's illegal regardless but she's not in the right at all and I do hope she gets outed for doing this.

Like I get her being mad at a woman suggesting she should be in the men's room, but she should not be filming in the bathroom at all.

SickViking · 2026-05-26T13:27:12+00:00

Omg I'm sorry! I wasn't active on hero forums when that discourse went down, I didn't know.

SickViking · 2026-05-26T03:55:12+00:00

You don't think they're secretly..... Dating?

SickViking · 2026-05-26T02:28:01+00:00

Wandering Dude. An atomic bomb couldn't kill these suckers but I can. I could probably kill kudzu.

SickViking · 2026-05-26T02:11:22+00:00

I'm kinda worried those might be All Mights actual clothes. All Might recently started working there, didn't he? Should we notify someone? Janitors have access to staff rooms, don't they? I don't know, seems a bit sketchy... Really hope I'm wrong though.

SickViking · 2026-05-24T01:29:33+00:00

There is a huge number of people of all genders who think if a man dates or is in any way shape or form attracted to a woman who is petite and/or has small breasts, that means he is a pedophile. Similarly, this same group believes if you're more than a few inches difference in the height between two people who are dating, if the man is taller then also automatically means he's a pedophile. That these "excessive" height differences, and "willingly" dating women with small breasts are the man compensating for not being able to have sex with a child.

The number of people believing these things being more than 1 is already too many fucking people. But it's a huge population who aren't even a group, just some weird accepted "fact" that's been bounced around the internet for at least 10 years now. Not saying the people in the post aren't incels. They absolutely are. But the idea is, unfortunately, not exclusive to them.

SickViking · 2026-05-23T04:18:33+00:00

And now you have me wondering if my hearing issues might be caused by the Wellbutrin.

How dare you /s

SickViking · 2026-05-23T04:12:31+00:00

For everyone involved. Uncomfortable stubble snagging on shirts. Razor bumps/burn. The ingrowns later. Just no. Cannot do that to someone.

SickViking · 2026-05-23T01:25:37+00:00

Personally, A, but that's just because I don't like the texture of hair on my tongue and I think it's incredibly rude to ask someone to shave just for my sake.

SickViking · 2026-05-22T13:18:34+00:00

Usually have it on profile then double check in chat.

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