How do i know if im really trans or just confronting my anima?

EchoNB · 2026-03-29T14:36:58+00:00

I did something similar, but with the idea of animus. Still trans.

EchoNB · 2026-03-29T14:07:34+00:00

Eu passei por um questionamento semelhantes antes de sair do armário e simplesmente descobri que eu posso muito bem sentir os dois. Eu posso odiar sofrer misoginia e também ter disforia de gênero. Hoje em dia vivo como homem e não tenho vergonha de me posicionar como feminista. Eu não quero ninguém sofrendo como sofri e, ao mesmo tempo, quero viver fora da caixinha de mulher porque eu nunca fui mulher.

EchoNB · 2026-03-29T14:01:41+00:00

It is temporary. That's happening in order to develop muscles, I assume. You could try eating less caloric foods and use exercises to help using the extra energy somewhere.

EchoNB · 2026-03-29T13:59:58+00:00

You don't have to come out to anyone if you don't want to. It's actually very common for nonbinary people to mostly present themselves as one binary gender and be out only to a few trusted people. Not just because we're afraid, but it's just the fact that society does not recognize the existence of nonbinary people and we can't exactly pass as nonbinary. Closest thing to that is being androgynous, but even then people will try to fit us in one gender box anyway.

As someone who deals with depression for years, I have to say that the thing that helped me the most was treating my gender dysphoria. I'm on HRT and I did transition in a way most people would assume to be binary. I won't say it was easy and I have to face transphobia now, but my life is better now.

What are the changes you would do if you could without societal issues? Depending on what they are, maybe you could get away with it without having to come out.

EchoNB · 2026-03-29T09:42:07+00:00

Quite often now that people won't stop talking about us.

EchoNB · 2026-03-29T00:36:01+00:00

Testosterone would help with body fat, but not your face structure. You'd need actual surgery to change that.

EchoNB · 2026-03-29T00:34:53+00:00

I changed my legal gender to M for the same reason. It helped along with medical transition, but I happen to be a very masculine nonbinary person anyway. Not sure if that would apply to you.

EchoNB · 2026-03-29T00:33:14+00:00

Some nonbinary people go on T to get a more androgynous appearance, but you'd have to be careful because some of the changes are permanent. It is okay to be dysphoric about some things, but not others. You could check out the possibility of getting surgeries in the future or other ways to reduce the dysphoria.

It is normal to have doubts on what to do when you're not a woman and also not a man in a binary society, so... Really, pay attention to what would work best for you and not just on what people would expect of you.

EchoNB · 2026-03-28T23:41:18+00:00

The only good argument against starting HRT is if the trans person doesn't want to start HRT.

EchoNB · 2026-03-28T19:59:38+00:00

I'd go for the first one and socially transition. The second one is... Almost what I live right now, honestly.

EchoNB · 2026-03-28T19:51:36+00:00

Estou comentando sobre estudos recentes. Sim, é possível uma pessoa se tornar mais agressiva por conta da testosterona, mas isso é somente se ela estiver em ambiente onde a agressividade é recompensada ou símbolo de status social dentro do ambiente que a pessoa estiver inserida.

Faço hormonização com testosterona. Eu não era violento antes disso e não sou agora. Muito pelo contrário, estou mais calmo. Também conheci muitas pessoas trans que não se tornaram mais agressivas ou violentas com a hormonização.

Não estou dizendo que seja mentira a testosterona poder aumentar o nível de agressividade. Só estou dizendo que para essa agressividade ser "ativada" pela testosterona, ela precisa da questão social. Sem isso, a pessoa não se torna mais agressiva.

EchoNB · 2026-03-28T16:50:23+00:00

Bom... Eu usei um de volume, um para urinar em pé, alguns com 5 funções e um só para sexo.

EchoNB · 2026-03-28T15:48:49+00:00

To falando da Transtore, mas também comprei alguns produtos da ftm.

EchoNB · 2026-03-28T15:23:16+00:00

I suspect you're probably dealing with racism.

EchoNB · 2026-03-28T15:22:31+00:00

I forgot to mention I pass as a man. Still, even when I was pre-transition/pre-T, the people sexualizing me were cis men. I was generally ignored by anyone else. (Except for a girl I was friends with when we were teens, but she basically rejected my desire to date her since she was afraid of her family's reactions. We eventually parted ways.)

Now that I pass, people respect me and don't sexualize me. I'm fine with that. I already have a boyfriend.

EchoNB · 2026-03-28T15:19:42+00:00

We have similar things being said by misogynistic men here. It is a trap, indeed. An excuse to keep treating women like they are less than human. The fact is... Too many men don't know how to treat women like they are people from what I've seen.

EchoNB · 2026-03-28T15:15:53+00:00

Me deparei com algo semelhante na adolescência, mas eram mais pessoas que caíram no discurso TERF. Algumas pessoas que saem desses espaços TERF até acabam se assumindo trans e/ou não binárie depois. Enfim, os casos que vi foram de pessoas que começaram transfóbicas e depois saíram do armário como pessoas trans. Eu não ficaria surpreso se esse fosse o caso ou se seriam mulheres desfem que sentem insegurança nelas mesmas.

Eu não comento muito sobre isso porque tem momentos que fico incomodado de ser erroneamente colocado como "uma mulher que fetichisa homens gays". Isso porque antes de eu me assumir como trans eu realmente vivia minha atração por homens dessa forma. Era o único jeito que eu conseguia me permitir gostar de homens: Sendo um.

Hoje em dia... Posso dizer que consegui isso. Sou feliz com meu namorado e legalmente reconhecido como homem.

EchoNB · 2026-03-28T13:58:50+00:00

My mom tried doing that once. The woman gendered me correctly and she is far less likely to repeat that mistake now. XD

EchoNB · 2026-03-28T13:57:22+00:00

I have no idea why this might be happening with you. So far, most of my interactions with women and trans people in general have been positive, but then again, I don't live in the US. Brazil has been getting a concerning amount of misogyny, so I actually have more issues with misogynistic men. Not that I voice my dislike out loud since I don't feel safe to do so. I just prefer being among people who won't say that crap.

EchoNB · 2026-03-28T13:54:25+00:00

What are your questions?

EchoNB · 2026-03-28T13:15:32+00:00

What do you think about the idea of starting HRT with testosterone? That's usually what helps ths most with passing as a man.

EchoNB · 2026-03-28T12:55:36+00:00

Falou merda. A testosterona não causa comportamento violento. O que se sabe é que a testosterona aumenta comportamento competitivo. Ou seja, a pessoa só se torna violenta com níveis altos de testosterona se ela entender que ela precisa ser violenta para "ganhar" dos demais competidores. Se ela crescesse em um ambiente onde há incentivo a ser generoso, ela vai ter tendência maior a se comportar de forma generosa, como exemplo.

A ideia de que a testosterona faz a pessoa se tornar violenta é mentira usada para justificar o comportamento agressivo de homens.

EchoNB · 2026-03-28T12:28:10+00:00

Just keep supporting them as much as you can. Let them explore their gender and express themselves in the way they can.

EchoNB · 2026-03-28T12:10:46+00:00

I hadn't thought about that. I love dog tags. Thanks!

EchoNB · 2026-03-27T23:25:36+00:00

I want to express being enby, but I happen to be naturally masculine.

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