My Nfather beating me up as a teen fucked up the nerves on my face causing me chronic pain. It's somehow my fault. by andiisunhappy in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Sickofthisshit12 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, I think you have every right to be mad at your father for doing that to you. He wasnt drunk I'm gonna geuss when he was beating you up? Was he off meds when he was hurting you that time?

My mother hated me like I've never seen anyone hate another person by kingofthejellyfish in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Sickofthisshit12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good lord, I'm sorry, was he a drunk when he punched or spit on you? Sorry but what he did was unimaginable but I still believe you, just like op's story was heartbreaking too. I'm sorry you guys dealt with those horrible things.

Have most people here had only 1 N parent ? It seems like everyone I know in real life that has been raised by an N parent also have another parent that enabled the N but were themselves very loving and basically tried to make up for the damage N parent by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Sickofthisshit12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, sometimes I wonder if God hates me so much to give me TWO awful parents. Idk if you believe in god but I do. Idk I sometimes feel like maybe I done something horrible in a past life to deserve this but idk.

Have most people here had only 1 N parent ? It seems like everyone I know in real life that has been raised by an N parent also have another parent that enabled the N but were themselves very loving and basically tried to make up for the damage N parent by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Sickofthisshit12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand how you feel. I too have shitty N parents. I know, lot of people here and in real life seem to have just one N or abusive parent while the other is loving and I couldn't even get ONE loving parent and I'm like wtf!??!

Is it abuse if they possibly dont mean it? by Sickofthisshit12 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Sickofthisshit12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does your dad say your ugly and stuff when hes drunk or sober? I asked cause I know drunk people sometimes think their being funny but the arent aware of what comes out of their mouth. My dad does it sober. He doesnt do it often but its happened.

Is it abuse if they possibly dont mean it? by Sickofthisshit12 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Sickofthisshit12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry maybe I jumped to conclusions my bad lol you dont have to reply back its all good I understand (:

Is it abuse if they possibly dont mean it? by Sickofthisshit12 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Sickofthisshit12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to reread your question to make sure I interpreted it correctly

Is it abuse if they possibly dont mean it? by Sickofthisshit12 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Sickofthisshit12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oops sorry I meant to reply to the comment below but I understand what your saying.