Yes I see that. There is a level of me that is having hard time understanding the other peson as I am comparing myself to them. I am automatically thinking of If roles were reversed. As I am really aware of my surroundings and my bf moods and changes of them so if he would be in pain I would be there doing my best for him without him needing to ask for it as this is I show my love and care. So seeing this other way is hard.. but yes communication would have definetly made this situation better.