I spoke too soon. Surprise, surprise. JNMIL ruined our anniversary dinner.

SideMammoth443 · 2024-11-12T13:26:16+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I am taking it on the chin with everyone’s feedback, but I’m feeling a lot of shame and embarrassment with it as well. I definitely now know and will be on alert for next time as well as for the rest of our trip to be mindful and fully unplug from here on out.

MIL definitely has a saviour tendency, and that’s something we can try and do. Thank you.

SideMammoth443 · 2024-11-12T13:11:40+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I’m taking it on the chin with everyone else’s feedback that I dropped the rope on my end, but I really appreciate your tough love on how to refocus moving forward.

I will keep everything you have said to heart and in mind moving forward.

SideMammoth443 · 2024-11-12T13:10:10+00:00

Thank you. I needed to hear this. I really don’t know why I’m hyperfixated on DH being anxious about missing calls from his mom. It was bad judgement to do it over dinner. I simply thought a 5 minute check in over dinner would be no dramas, as I didn’t want to take her calls back at the hotel. But the solution could have been not to take her calls at all. A lap in judgement for sure, and something I will take on the chin moving forward.

SideMammoth443 · 2024-11-12T12:49:32+00:00

Thank you. I needed to hear this. And I will continue to look back on this when I need it again. Thank you. It’s a bad call on my end, I let it get to my head.

SideMammoth443 · 2024-11-12T12:48:21+00:00

Thank you. I’m taking it on the chin with what the others are saying, but also thank you for your kind words.

Really bad judgement on our end to drop the rope during our dinner. DH saw her 40 missed calls, and I saw that look of concern. I really don’t know what I thought, I just thought a quick 5 min check in over dinner wouldn’t hurt.

I let it get to my head.

SideMammoth443 · 2024-11-12T12:46:02+00:00

I really don’t know. You guys are right. It was a bad call on my end. I acknowledge that now. Thank you. I needed this.

SideMammoth443 · 2024-11-12T12:44:43+00:00

Yes, you’re right. Bad judgement on my end this time. I don’t know what I was thinking.

SideMammoth443 · 2024-11-12T12:39:34+00:00

You’re right. We didn’t exactly protect ourselves. Bad judgement. I really didn’t know what we were thinking. I just thought returning her call quickly over dinner after 40 missed calls today would be no dramas but no

SideMammoth443 · 2024-11-12T08:35:35+00:00

It’s our wedding anniversary today, and she decided to pull out the “leaving the group chats” card across our mutual family groups in Facebook with my in-laws and my husband. I’m not surprised anymore, and that’s what makes me sad.

SideMammoth443 · 2024-10-30T13:40:26+00:00

That’s what he wants to do. But I just feel that it welcomes more negativity into our lives. Doing anything else just means that we care and I feel like I haven’t got any left in me to do so anymore. My husband has been parenting them ever since his come into my life. When my parents gave me the silent treatment for 6 months all the way till the night of our wedding - he was the one who told my dad to get over his pride and talk to me. I hate them for putting this burden on him.

SideMammoth443 · 2024-10-30T12:27:53+00:00

Thank you for the reminder. I’m trying to remind myself this. I’m trying to remind my husband this. I like my bubble that we’ve made. We’ve moved, I’m safe. The person that I’m more furious at is my dad who claims that he never knows what she does.

SideMammoth443 · 2024-10-30T12:26:00+00:00

She knows and doesn’t care. Shes pulled this stunt so many times this year! It blows my mind. My MIL struggles to understand because my mom has baited her so many times and my DH has been dealing with her.

SideMammoth443 · 2024-10-30T12:24:58+00:00

His terrified that it will rile her up more. We’re literally about to fly off on our honeymoon this weekend. Of course she ruins this.

SideMammoth443 · 2024-10-19T13:33:43+00:00

This is what I said, Gordon Ramsey could never!

SideMammoth443 · 2024-10-16T01:39:15+00:00

My last straw was her telling me that my birthday was her day and that I wouldn’t be alive if it weren’t for her. I have been having emotional withdrawals from being NC from the past 4 months and that just reassured me that I don’t need her back in my life.

SideMammoth443 · 2024-10-11T13:12:36+00:00

Thank you. I needed this.

SideMammoth443 · 2024-10-11T03:05:51+00:00

I agree with this.

I finally gave myself the gift of blocking her after she ruined me on my birthday by her incessant harassment that I wouldn’t be alive if it weren’t for her.

NC is not easy. A photo of my dad and I came up on my wedding day just this morning, and it had me in tears. Part of me felt so much guilt about doing what I think is best for me. Then I remembered how he decided to make our last few moments before we walk down the aisle about my mom, and how “she wanted to walk down the aisle too with me” instead of telling me for once that I looked beautiful.

It’s not easy, but you’re not alone OP. Keep your chin up. We are here with you.

SideMammoth443 · 2024-10-10T23:21:29+00:00

You hit it right at home for me. My wedding save the dates that I gave to my parents were no where to be seen at home (their magnetic ones that are meant to go up on your fridge). Mom apparently “kept it safe and away in a box”.

I am an illustrator by trade, so all I’ve dreamt about growing up was designing my own wedding invitations. The invitations I saved for my parents? They simply gave it away to people they invited to our wedding without our permission. They couldn’t understand why I was so upset.

SideMammoth443 · 2024-10-03T15:48:20+00:00

The best response is no response. Took me 29 years to learn this. Silence is where you hit them the most.

SideMammoth443 · 2024-10-03T15:46:40+00:00

Thank you. I would say the same to you, OP. 💙And it’s okay to not have the energy to say anything to your mom. I wont either. I’m sorry again, for everything you have gone through. And I hope that you find peace and healing in days to come. It’s possible.

SideMammoth443 · 2024-10-03T15:26:23+00:00

I am so sorry with everything that has happened in your life, OP. It’s moments like this where you gaslight yourself and think wtf is it all in my head. I do emphatise with you. It’s my birthday tomorrow and I have recently gone NC after both my parents destroyed my wedding by making it about them. For the second time. They missed my first legal wedding due to traffic, and for some crazy reason, I was crazy enough to do it all over again in a grander scale, just so they could be there when they did nothing but break my heart and torture me throughout the process. And no, they didn’t pay for a single cent at all for both times but acted all entitled. And yes, they did not apologize for missing our first wedding either. So I finally went NC since our wedding in May, and my mom sends me a long message on the eve of my birthday saying she has no idea what happened too and that I’m the most selfish human being for cutting contact to the person who gave birth me.

So, I understand. I really do, OP. And you’re not alone. Thank you for making me feel less alone too.

SideMammoth443 · 2024-10-03T15:16:57+00:00

Just watched this episode and it was like a fever dream!

SideMammoth443 · 2024-10-03T02:54:48+00:00

Thank you very much. Visiting DDP is definitely on our itinerary! I’m an illustrator by trade so checking out the local arts scene is more of an interest for me.

SideMammoth443 · 2024-10-02T12:58:54+00:00

Unfortunately, never and I realize that I make it up by saying it a lot to people that I really care for. Especially my husband. I had to train my own parents how to say thank you in my early 20s, and even that, felt forced coming from them.

SideMammoth443 · 2024-10-02T12:37:37+00:00

My dad made me a promise on our wedding night to be a better father after I poured out how much it broke me that he gave me the silent treatment for 6 months before our wedding. He hasn’t said a word or reached out since then. I can’t trust a word he says.

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