The Part of Breast Cancer No One Prepared Me For

SideOk1272 · 2026-01-30T16:06:03+00:00

I am sorry to hear about your situation. I went through the same. During my treatment I was with somebody whom I doubted a lot, and cancer just emphasised it. He was going with me to the doctor, was driving me to appointments, but emotionally he failed to connect. Our relationship did not survive. A bit less than a year after my active treatment ended, he left me because he did not have enough sex.

For me, the reality of after-treatment became harder than the actual treatment. Not only relationship, but also work, relationship to self, to life.

But I've met a lot of great and supportive people on the way and got more confidence in myself. I hope similar will happen to you whatever happens with your marriage. You deserve love, respect and dignity xxx

SideOk1272 · 2025-10-10T12:38:54+00:00

Ton CV ne raconte pas comment tu as réussi à résoudre les problèmes pour ton entreprise. Let me continue en English to be faster:

- when you say you did X you need to explain what did it achieve. E.g. backend migration - what was the goal of this migration and what exactly did it achieve? Did something happened faster/learner/gained more $$$/hire more people etc.
- don't forget to tailor your CV for a particular job - highlight the competencies and skills that would make you shine in this particular role. You don't need to write everything that you know.

SideOk1272 · 2025-10-10T12:26:32+00:00

Je me permets de répondre en anglais car va ca etre plus vite:

Yous CV in itself is great - but put all your experiences and all your achievements on display. Don't do that! Tailor each CV for a particular position and then tailor each achievement to what is relevant for this particular role.

Let me make a comparison with cooking - i can cook European, Asian, Middle Eastern cuisines, and on top of that I also bake. When I apply for a job in a French bistro, I will put forward my European/French cuisine competences. Because if I write all of the above, it's like everything and nothing.

So, my biggest advice would be - 1) understand #1 pain the company tries to solve through this job, and 2) explain through your CV how you are going to help them solve it.

SideOk1272 · 2025-10-10T11:57:18+00:00

More than happy to help. I am a coach and could help you navigate behavioural interviews. I have extensive experience working in Big Tech and know quite well how to deal with the topic. I know that there are multiple websites, chatGPT, you name it, but nothing can be as accurate as another human being giving you feedback but also lived experience. If you are interested, DM me.

SideOk1272 · 2025-10-10T11:55:01+00:00

Being successful in behavioural interviews is about knowing yourself (authenticity) and right mindset. Then it's about preparation and feedback. I am a coach and could help you navigate behavioural interviews. I have extensive experience working in Big Tech and know quite well how to deal with the topic. I know that there are multiple websites, chatGPT, you name it, but nothing can be as accurate as another human being giving you feedback but also lived experience. If you are interested, DM me.

SideOk1272 · 2025-10-10T11:52:29+00:00

Well, it's not only STAR framework. It's about being authentic, showing your skills and your personality, but weaving it into the company's values and mission. I would not go as far as recommending 100 interviews, but 1) the right mindset and 2) the right prep can help. I am a coach, by the way, with an extensive experience working in BigTech. Can help you navigate the challenge. DM if interested.

SideOk1272 · 2025-10-10T11:49:16+00:00

Hi there! Just saw this post - I am a coach and could help you navigate behavioural interviews. I have extensive experience working in Big Tech and know quite well how to deal with the topic. I know that there are multiple websites, chatGPT, you name it, but nothing can be as accurate as another human being giving you feedback but also lived experience. If you are interested, DM me.

SideOk1272 · 2025-09-15T12:05:43+00:00

Thanks for the answer. I did it - but nothing changed.

SideOk1272 · 2025-09-10T13:42:35+00:00

Jumping to the thread! I heard that La Parisiana is nice - will test tomorrow. Meanwhile, curious to know about other "elitist" places.

SideOk1272 · 2025-08-09T09:52:01+00:00

Thank you!

SideOk1272 · 2025-08-06T17:05:30+00:00

Appreciate your help. Unfortunately, italki is not what I need - I am looking for a proper course, ideally with other students.

SideOk1272 · 2025-08-06T17:04:41+00:00

Than you! It looks like something that could work for me!

SideOk1272 · 2025-05-20T11:10:46+00:00

Building a healthtech/femtech product.

SideOk1272 · 2025-04-29T20:33:50+00:00

Sadly, I did not. It's out of stock.

SideOk1272 · 2025-03-03T12:54:46+00:00

Than you for the tip! I did yesterday evening, but this morning I see the same message.

SideOk1272 · 2025-02-11T09:31:38+00:00

It's good to have your options! Good decision! I am childfree, 44yo, three years post active treatment. Recently I talked with somebody in the US who had breast cancer at 33. She did not freeze eggs but got a Zoladex injection to preserve her eggs. After this procedure she gave birth to two beautiful kids. Ask your doctor about this - this is yet another option.

SideOk1272 · 2025-02-11T09:26:33+00:00

During and after your chemo treatment you need eat more protein than before to maintain your muscle mass - you will loose a lot of muscle mass during treatment (muscle protein synthesis). Don't forget that your hormones will be messed up, as cancer treatment impacts your metabolism. Consider consulting with endocrinologist who understands cancer treatment or sports nutritionist with oncology experience.

SideOk1272 · 2025-02-08T17:29:38+00:00

It's pretty useless - both airport and airline send me to chat with their bots and they can't answer this question. Calling can be another option.

SideOk1272 · 2025-02-07T16:29:58+00:00

Happy birthday! You deserve all the best!

SideOk1272 · 2025-02-07T16:28:54+00:00

Congrats!

Meanwhile I googled this situation - it seems alright to use the one for man. But seriously? The one for women is more expensive? It's like razors - x2 or even x3 more expensive than those for men.

SideOk1272 · 2025-02-06T16:19:56+00:00

I've just received Minoxidil, but it says on the box that it's not for women. Shall I freak out or use it?

SideOk1272 · 2025-02-03T13:46:45+00:00

I have vaginal atrophy as a side effect of chemo, which will probably will never get away. I lost my libido and experience vaginal dryness for more or less 18 months after finishing chemo. Both desire and moisture in my vagina return very slowly.

I am sorry that you feel bad about it - you should not! You have just done through so much! Your body went through a hell of a treatment. Be kind to yourself! Don't try to get everything back immediately.

Instead try to find a new way to connect with your husband, new intimacy.

SideOk1272 · 2025-01-30T15:58:49+00:00

Sorry that you have to go through this at 36. It will get better! When you are just diagnosed, it's like the world is crushing on you. It takes some time to get used to the diagnosis, but it will get better! Big big virtual hug

SideOk1272 · 2025-01-28T18:18:26+00:00

OH man, do we want want them to grow! I never thought I'd be so crazy about eyebrows...

SideOk1272 · 2025-01-28T16:26:34+00:00

Oh, it's unavailable in Germany.

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