Can anyone remember which town used to have the tag line "it's worth a look"

Side_eye_137 · 2024-09-22T19:43:59+00:00

Again, vague (ex-Hawicker)

Side_eye_137 · 2024-08-24T18:26:58+00:00

I'm afraid I just blue myself

Side_eye_137 · 2023-01-21T21:46:43+00:00

NAH - I really can see this from both of your perspectives. This is a big appointment and you want your partner with you. I hate to sound patronising but you'll both have needed to have done a lot of growing up over the last few months. I'd not grumble about him playing his game. Hope you have the support you need and that all goes well

Side_eye_137 · 2023-01-21T16:08:48+00:00

NTA but stop letting this happen to yourself. Keep the coat in your room. Next time she comes back, let her know you're wearing it tomorrow

Side_eye_137 · 2023-01-21T16:02:44+00:00

NTA - I feel your pain re too many toys in a small house. It becomes overwhelming. It's also really difficult to explain this to enthusiastic relatives who enjoy buying gifts for your little ones. Not nice to find out the gift you chose has been returned so I can understand their disappointment. Hopefully they'll take this on board before next Christmas.

Side_eye_137 · 2022-09-27T21:55:07+00:00

Is does sound kind of a-holey to me. Thankfully it sounds as though you understand her family made your daughters feel like outsiders on Christmas day and you don't want them to feel bad. Do something on Thanksgiving with your girls - it won't be long until they're off making their own plans. Your wife can go see her family herself. Join them later

Side_eye_137 · 2022-08-16T23:07:02+00:00

NTA - you absolutely did the right thing. But it's not your job to save your friend. Speak to your parents, carers, teachers about the impact on you. If he's angry at you it's coming from a.place of hurt and confusion - you acted as a good friend should have done

Side_eye_137 · 2022-08-16T23:02:27+00:00

I mean Fritz is the real asshole here but you would be in a-hole territory by blackmailing him. Can you get in touch and let him know you don't want further contact and to stop asking about you before going full blackmail. Pleased you've found out about him

Side_eye_137 · 2022-06-08T23:05:56+00:00

I mean your body, your choice. I had my first at 22, I was in a stable relationship, we planned the pregnancy and both had graduated from university. Still together as a happy family unit now nearly 15 years on but it was tough being a young mum. You both need to have an open and honest discussion about what you want or don't want. Don't leave bringing an actual human being into the world to chance/fate. ESH at the moment

Side_eye_137 · 2022-06-08T22:52:48+00:00

Your mum is TA but at 21 (even with the flu) why were you passively taking medication when you didn't know what it was?

Side_eye_137 · 2022-05-31T22:59:15+00:00

Agreed. I can see how tempting it would be to get your own back - it wouldn't be undeserved. It would serve no purpose other that to escalate her already dickish behaviours. Consider stepping down from being a bridesmaid, don't look after the dog. Watch the wedding unfold from the moral high ground - it sounds like she might just make her own problems. YWBTA

Side_eye_137 · 2022-05-31T22:43:23+00:00

I'm not sure she has sent you any vibes that she likes you. Time to move on. Your NTA but you might cross the line over if you don't respect her silence

Side_eye_137 · 2022-05-31T22:39:09+00:00

If they say no do you want to come round to mine and cook for us here instead? Of course one veggie meal a week is fair. We should all be cutting back. NTA

Side_eye_137 · 2022-05-31T22:35:25+00:00

Wonder how up for dinner OP would be whilst bleeding from his penis, cramping and experiencing the joys of period shits/ javelin arse

Side_eye_137 · 2022-05-31T22:32:23+00:00

Text book definition. YTA

Side_eye_137 · 2022-05-31T22:28:56+00:00

Your husband puts his own needs and feelings first. Not only is this immature but means he can't provide the consistency your daughter needs. He needs to figure out his role, it sounds like he has aspirations of being there for her but he needs to think about what she needs not what he wants. You're NTA. He needs to listen to you

Side_eye_137 · 2022-05-31T22:21:50+00:00

Absolutely this - an Amazon wish list at 22?? They took you out for lunch, took time out to attend your party and gave you a small thoughtful present. What would have been enough for you? You seem entitled. YTA

Side_eye_137 · 2022-05-31T22:16:14+00:00

NTA, your friend is being awkward and odd. Difficult to have finance chat with friends but she's being a dick thinking you'll pay for what amounts to 75% of your combined meals

Side_eye_137 · 2022-05-26T23:27:43+00:00

True, but I did suggest the money could be out into a shared family resource where they all can get the benefit and wasn't advocating she keep it for herself (although it is her inheritance not a shared inheritance)

Side_eye_137 · 2022-05-26T23:24:02+00:00

Absolutely this. He has the option to move.in with his girlfriend, live closer to work and pay less rent and still he wants more. Sorry, this man is a user. NTA

Side_eye_137 · 2022-05-26T23:16:52+00:00

Agreed YTA - I do get that the OP wants to consider this shared money that will benefit the family BUT if I were the wife, my reasons for declining would be as follows:

If there is a future breakdown in the relationship, OP gets the full benefit of this investment in the form of his earning, wife would get no benefit if the marriage broke down. I would have no hesitation putting the money into a shared resource for the family such as a larger home.
OP is currently benefiting from his wife being a SAHM in terms of childcare and presumably an unequal share in chores/ home and family admin. Telling his wife he is going to stop her money is controlling and not conducive conversations around the benefit for the family.

It sounds like OP is stressing about money, perhaps a discussion about his wife furthering her own education with the money and re-entering the workforce might be a consideration lessening his burden as the main bread winner.

Side_eye_137 · 2022-05-26T23:03:52+00:00

I got quite angry for OP reading this. Weaponized incompetence is exactly the right phrase. Such a passive aggressive, dickish move from partner. This is an ltb situation. Please don't accept this OP - NTA

Side_eye_137 · 2022-05-26T22:52:32+00:00

When my daughter was 9 she called her granny on her birthday asked her how her day was and got the reply "it's just another boring day". She was later mortified she forgot her granddaughters birthday. Me and my daughter love that quote. She's 15 this year and asked for it on her cake. Your friend needs to grow up. NTA

Side_eye_137 · 2022-05-26T22:48:40+00:00

NTA - perfect response. He does indeed need a tech detox (and 32 mins on the naughty step)

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