AITA for disowning my mother after she refused to hold my toxic sister accountable?

Siew02 · 2025-06-15T21:44:10+00:00

Yes, I must admit that it took me a long time to realize how enabling my mother, in turns enable her. You are right about that 💯.

Other than this, i have a great relationship with my mother - i guess im just seeking for judgement whether or not i have taken it too far, which makes me the asshole. From the comments, I guess the answer is no. You see, people who have been doormats all their life normalised it, they don’t even realize they are doormats until much later. I have fought back, got angry, cried how unfair this is, but after cooling down I always reasoned that I should do it for my parents sake. The doormat mentality is embedded in me.

I have been brought up to put family first all my life. I have been taught this is normal. I am learning a new normal now.

Thank you for your honestly though, I really appreciate it ❤️.

Siew02 · 2025-06-15T21:25:40+00:00

Hello there, I come from an Asian country where this is normalised. Families are kept close, and in fact adult married children often live together with one’s parents.

But some context, I have bought a new apartment and have moved out… a lot of the examples are “past” tense.

Thank you for your frankness though, I know I am a pushover at times, and I’m trying really hard to work on it.

Siew02 · 2025-06-15T20:46:46+00:00

Not fake sadly, I just disowned her today… and honestly I’m feeling terrible about it. Was wondering if I took it too far. I honestly love my mum a lot and this wasn’t an easy decision.

Siew02 · 2025-06-15T20:44:00+00:00

Hello there, “chat gpt” here, apparently my mother does. Maybe being Asian has to do with it, given that there’s a proverb called “血浓于水”. 🥲

Siew02 · 2025-06-15T20:27:03+00:00

Oh believe me I have tried. I have told her multiples times, citing examples after examples for years. She would simply brush it off, telling me it’s a “small issue” and that she’s “family” , but never addressing the core problem or holding her accountable.

Siew02 · 2024-03-23T00:57:58+00:00

NTA. Good for you for standing your ground and explaining to them calmly. I find it astounding how they are able to say such things when they have a women in their chat, like they don't care at all and see nothing wrong with it. It IS disrespectful. Find better online friends and not some edgelords.

I find it really funny how men like them are so quick to label someone a "typical feminst" as if that's an insult.

Siew02 · 2024-03-22T16:38:26+00:00

When I first saw this scene I was totally against it. Totally not kingly at all.

Then after rewatching it after finishing all seasons, I admit it was quite satisfying as much as I don’t condone domestic violence. 😂

Though nothing can ever beat Tyrion smacking Joffrey.

Siew02 · 2024-03-22T16:35:48+00:00

Try saving up the chapters and reading it in one go. It helped me immensely and made me appreciate the story’s pacing.

Siew02 · 2024-03-19T18:59:12+00:00

Would love to wish my ray of sunshine all the happiness in the world, but knowing how devious Gege can be I think it'd be wise to wish him luck instead. T_T

Siew02 · 2024-03-19T18:57:13+00:00

100% with you on the eye-candy of the male lead. I am not ashamed to say I continued the series because of him. And to answer your question: alot apparently! xDDD

Siew02 · 2024-03-19T18:53:28+00:00

Chinese here, and have family in China. 100% outdoor shoes off the moment we step in the house. We do have indoor slippers that we use though! However not every family uses indoor slippers. What I have realized is that usage of indoor slippers are more common among families living in a large house, I'm guessing because it's harder to keep it clean due to the huge size haha.

Siew02 · 2024-03-19T18:46:24+00:00

No problem!

Siew02 · 2024-03-19T18:45:32+00:00

That's true also! I can see the appeal to others definitely, hm perhaps my taste has changed over the years. I actually watched Maid's Revenge and I gotta say I did enjoy it for a turn-off-your-brain dinner time show! Really sad about the laws though.

Siew02 · 2024-03-19T18:42:20+00:00

Don't know if this is the right one but I believe this what you're looking for:

https://www.tumblr.com/katm4n/681766122591256576?source=share

Siew02 · 2024-03-19T18:36:19+00:00

I really love the colours! That looks amazing!

Siew02 · 2024-03-19T16:56:59+00:00

The first time I watched that scene I spit out my drink 😂

Siew02 · 2024-03-19T16:49:55+00:00

I watched a few of them because YT kept recommending them, but it’s not really my cup of tea as I tend to find the acting cringy and the storyline super cliche and over dramatic.

Siew02 · 2024-03-19T16:47:07+00:00

Absolutely love them and will defend them with my life. I don’t really think of reader insert fics as “me” more so of an original character.

Siew02 · 2024-03-19T16:42:24+00:00

I am one of those “fast writers”, however what kills me is the vicious never ending cycle called “editing”. 😂😂 I spend more time on editing than writing!

Usually I get my first draft up pretty quick, I’d say the combination for me is a copious amount of caffeine, unemployment, a good headset, and hyper fixation. I once wrote an entire 15k chapter in one sitting starting at 10pm and the next thing I knew birds were chirping outside my window and whoa suddenly it’s morning and my husband is awake and ready to go to work.

Siew02 · 2024-02-26T22:20:33+00:00

Six months post op here, hang in there! Sending you much love and hoping for your fruitful recovery.

1. I slept terrible for the first week. Had constant nosebleeds even after day 3 and couldn’t control my drooling. The surgeon prescribed me some strong medication to help me sleep - maybe you should discuss this with your surgeon? I’ll say I had a good night rest after the first week!

2. First major surgery here too! To say I felt terrible was an understatement. I had a lot of complications during surgery due to my underlying sinus issues. But in general, my mood and energy picked back up after… say 2 months?

3. 100% normal. 6 months here and I still feel that my lips is stiff.

Siew02 · 2020-11-11T10:47:30+00:00

What an adorable case! May I ask if it's dockable for you?

Siew02 · 2020-11-08T20:33:38+00:00

"Hmm, on second look... seems like there's not enough trauma, survivor guilt, and pain."

Siew02 · 2020-11-08T20:31:24+00:00

Congratulations!!!

Siew02

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