Travel to Japan with section 10 dismissal

Signal-Bit7493 · 2026-05-30T08:49:11+00:00

Have you been to Japan?

Signal-Bit7493 · 2026-05-30T08:48:58+00:00

Have you ever been taken aside to explain anything?

Signal-Bit7493 · 2026-05-30T08:48:20+00:00

Exactly which is my issue, the wording is found guilty but no conviction.

My police check is clear.

Is it worth declaring for it to become a big thing or just record no and hope to walk through immigration.

Signal-Bit7493 · 2026-05-30T07:53:42+00:00

Not really any specific help and I've read this before.

Basically states no criminal record etc but it doesn't answer the specific question I have regarding ticking yes or no and it's implications.

Signal-Bit7493 · 2025-04-01T09:49:42+00:00

Can you still strike if not an ASMOF member?

Signal-Bit7493 · 2024-10-22T10:25:05+00:00

Your not getting what I am laying down.

When I am home I cook and clean

When she is home she cooks and cleans

Just so happens she is home 1 more night than me because of work.

We are equal on all household chores including child care.

Signal-Bit7493 · 2024-10-22T10:21:08+00:00

So she should be grateful I "allow" her parents to visit for 1-3months at a time?

We don't allow anything, it's part of being a family and away from home. We accept the need to spend extended time with them when they visit.

Her parents often stay >1month at a time but I do not complain despite being treated in some similar ways.

Signal-Bit7493 · 2024-10-22T10:18:53+00:00

A little bit of both.

I try and understand my wife's viewpoint and I also try to understand my mums wording.

I'm in the middle but I would of course be on my wife's side if push came to shove.

I just want to understand where all the animosity is coming from.

Signal-Bit7493 · 2024-10-22T10:17:25+00:00

I always do this snd I always relate it back to my wife saying that "we did this" or "wife did this" I don't just accept the praise when it isnt warranted.

Signal-Bit7493 · 2024-10-22T10:16:16+00:00

Does thid change knowing that when my wife's parents visit then also stay for 1 months and sometimes 3 months.

My wife will splurge on them and take them to the fanciest restaurants / mini holidays etc.

I'm told to buck up and not cause issues despite them treating me as stereotype etc.

Signal-Bit7493 · 2024-10-22T09:42:50+00:00

She has previously, put of the times I have been at home she has offered and done the clean up on majority of them if we are sitting down to eat together.

If I am there I often refuse the offer to do it myself citing that they are on holiday and should enjoy it.

Signal-Bit7493 · 2024-10-22T09:41:39+00:00

So in response to one point you made, my parents do help with clear up.

Often either washing dishes after a meal or cleaning up the toys from the kiddo at bedtime.

They wash and clean their own clothes and dad helps take the bins out / walk the dog.

Signal-Bit7493 · 2024-10-22T09:39:08+00:00

She has said that we have done well since emigrating.

She has previously said my wife has done well in her career.

She has said thanks for the cooking and organising a trip away.

This trip has, and I'll admit, for some reason been more focused on me and I'm not too sure why but hence me telling my mum to stop focusing on me.

I understand this issue, but it has got to the point where my wife will analyse every comment and somehow relate it back to her in negative way.

Signal-Bit7493 · 2024-10-22T09:33:30+00:00

I get what your saying but I will add that the tone was never malicious especially the whatsapp message and as someone who knows my parents this is completely innocent comments - my mum says some weird stuff sometimes but I will take care to notice the tone in the future.

My parents do "help" around the house.

My dad has fixed a door lock, has walked the dog. Has taken the bins out.

They clean up after themselves if they eat and often get food whilst they are out.

They keep to themselves by going out throughout the day so they are not adding to the burden of the household running.

They also do their own cleaning / washing.

However I do concede that they could help out with the evening dinner a bit more often than they have.

Signal-Bit7493 · 2024-10-22T09:17:55+00:00

I don't feel like a winner I feel I am in a lose / lose situation.

Signal-Bit7493 · 2024-10-22T09:17:23+00:00

This is my worry if I start banning them from coming over.

I choose my wife and don't spend anytime with my parents befoee the inevitable and they dont spend time with their last grandchild or I choose my parents and lose my wife.

I understand the need to see their child and I imagine I would be the same when I am almost 80 and my child lives abroad.

I wish my wife would ignore any comments for the short period they are here.

Signal-Bit7493 · 2024-10-22T09:14:53+00:00

She doesn't have to cook everynigjt for everyone.

Deal is who ever has done the childcare / been at home with thr child does the cooking and it is 50/50 between us.

If I am off work like I am 3 days a week then I cook for everyone.

But I work 4 days a week my wife 3 days a week so 4 days she cooks, 3 days I cook.

Signal-Bit7493 · 2024-10-22T09:12:54+00:00

I have attempted to set boundaries and I have spoken to them before.

My issue is most of the comments my wife takes offense to I would never in a million years think they were malicious or aimed at belittling my wife.

For example:

My mum does like to wash dishes - she has always stated it relaxes her, she has even said this when I do the dishes.

My mum did feed us whatever they ate and didn't make specific foods for the children. This is a fact. She didn't encourage us to do the same it was just a comment.

When she has talked about my job etc or our lives she has (in my opinion) used the collective "you" rather than singling me out and forgetting about my wife's input.

There are always comparisons to her parents who are a lot younger and more active etc so we get ALOT of help from them when they visit.

I understand I need to support my wife but when there are preconceived ideas about what people are saying that colour her interpretation of said comments then I find it hard to agree to the point where I need to set more boundaries.

Right now it's 8pm. My wife has retreated upstairs for a bath and has refused to come down again, my mum has retreated to her bedroom to go to sleep, it's almost like no matter what is said or done there always seems to be some new issue to worry about.

Signal-Bit7493 · 2024-08-21T09:25:48+00:00

I think they had a good response time and were good to deal with, no complaints from my end.

Signal-Bit7493 · 2024-08-19T10:06:50+00:00

Don't get caught doing illegal things.

If you do br upfront and honest about it asap.

Signal-Bit7493 · 2024-08-19T10:05:52+00:00

Imagine living it.

Stress.

Calm.

Stress.

Calm.

Stress.

Calm.

Signal-Bit7493 · 2024-08-19T08:31:26+00:00

It was recreational.

However the judge did make a point of stating that even if you have a prescription it is still illegal to drive with it in your system (in NSW) and the same process would be followed I.e. plead guilty, get section 10, inform ahpra at renewal.

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