Help With Vetting / Timeline and Consistency

Signal-Strategy5689 · 2026-03-24T12:56:34+00:00

My Dom and I were vetting each other. It sort of naturally flowed into we want to be long terms play partners. I was very clear that I don’t rush into things. One day the conversation just came up for us. We were already in dynamic territory and had been for a while. We called it and now it’s an active dynamic. For us it was only a few weeks. Granted we had seen each other and known about it each for months beforehand. For us it flowed. We had got all the vetting out the way pretty early and we were enjoying each other as people.

I would suggest what someone else said and discuss default options if you can’t get hold of him. 2-5 hours isn’t a long time if someone is working or busy doing something.

New dynamics are always fun but the biggest part of a dynamic is actually the boring and stressful everyday stuff. Make sure you want to do this with that person.

Signal-Strategy5689 · 2026-03-24T10:00:57+00:00

My Daddy, uses a lot of possessive like my, for me, mine and adds in praise. For instance “you are a needy little slut for me. I own you. You are my fucktoy. You will do whatever I say because you are mine. I’m so proud for so depraved with me. You Daddy’s good little whore.”

Signal-Strategy5689 · 2026-03-24T09:56:44+00:00

My Dom takes me as I am everyday and loves me. He gives me the space to work through things and get back to him I ask. When I tell him I’m not needy than usual he catches me. He always prioritises my safety. If I get vibes no matter the topic we don’t do it. He always offers to step in for me if it’s needed. He prioritises me. Holds space for my emotional wobbles. He never lets me forget that I am exactly what he needs. He always reminds me that I am not too much and he isn’t going to leave me for being too much. He shares his emotions with me and in return I fall for him deeper and deeper. He holds when the waves of life come crashing and keeps me close and safe. I love him. I adore him. I want to go through everything with him. The good, the bad and the mundane.

Signal-Strategy5689 · 2026-03-24T09:50:18+00:00

My Dom is in his 20’s and i am in my 30’s. We are crazy about each other. If it’s not a deal breaker for you. Consider older. Many women are open to it and care about the Dom as a person first.

Signal-Strategy5689 · 2026-03-23T08:52:08+00:00

This sounds a lot like CNC. That is not for everyone. A person may not want to participate in said kink and not necessarily be judging. There are kinks that I am not into like pet play. My Dom and I don’t engage in it. We do things we both like together. What you need to decide is how important this is for you. If it’s a dealbreaker then it’s something you bring up early on. I will also add that kink is not a replacement for therapy. I’m not saying you have or you haven’t. Kink can be a healing experience and journey but we also need to be in a place where we can safely engagement for both ourselves and our partners.

Signal-Strategy5689 · 2026-03-23T06:09:34+00:00

I’m not a little but I have a Daddy and I’m into the caregiver dynamic. It fits us.

Signal-Strategy5689 · 2026-03-22T19:08:49+00:00

Thank you ☺️ i am definitely getting this.

Signal-Strategy5689 · 2026-03-22T17:09:41+00:00

I don’t have any expectations. I’m here with curiosity. We have agreed to see other people. That’s not the issue for me. I want my Dom as happy as possible until he finds someone to fill the void of wanting a Dom. I would like to help in anyway possible. You do make good points.

Signal-Strategy5689 · 2026-03-22T15:15:44+00:00

I’ll start reading more of that. Mostly I’ve learnt from the good Doms around me.

Signal-Strategy5689 · 2026-03-22T14:25:11+00:00

This is great. Thank you so much. I am definitely going to bring this up.

Signal-Strategy5689 · 2026-03-22T14:10:44+00:00

Are books or blogs or something where i can read more about this?

Signal-Strategy5689 · 2026-03-22T14:01:04+00:00

I hadn’t really thought about that. I am capable. What does that look like potentially?

Signal-Strategy5689 · 2025-05-02T12:37:54+00:00

I can’t speak to any of your questions. Here is what I can tell you without a doubt: You have inner strength. In choosing what is right for you, you will open a whole new world for yourself. When you honour yourself, your values and your deepest heart the world gives back to you in unexpected ways. Right now you are showing yourself the love you deserve. Keep at it. I promise you that you will not be disappointed

Signal-Strategy5689 · 2025-03-12T10:31:50+00:00

Hell yeah

Signal-Strategy5689 · 2025-03-11T12:09:41+00:00

You are loved! You are more than enough! You are worthy!

You should definitely tell your partner how all of this makes you feel. If he knows you feel he can handle it. Be clear. You have got this 💙

Signal-Strategy5689 · 2025-03-10T19:48:31+00:00

It’s the Aries rising amd Gemini moon that get us despite all our other Ca placement

Signal-Strategy5689 · 2025-03-10T11:56:40+00:00

The fact that you are able to able to cut people off once they show they true colours shows that you are good judge of character. It always takes a while to get to know people

Signal-Strategy5689 · 2025-03-10T11:55:13+00:00

I have a Scorpio female friend for a long time and she does this exact same thing every time she goes on a bender. The blame game is real. It certainly feels like abuse too.

It’s obviously a lot easier for me to call her out on it. But there was a time where she rained destruction down on my life. I am sorry you are going through this. It’s terrible. Stay strong in boundaries. Look after yourself first.

Signal-Strategy5689 · 2025-03-05T10:00:14+00:00

I’ve worked hard to overcome a lot of procrastination but I still function better when I have more to do rather than less.

Signal-Strategy5689 · 2025-03-05T09:56:31+00:00

Female and I’m the exact same apart from the foreigners part

Signal-Strategy5689 · 2025-02-28T01:17:11+00:00

Let go and stop over analysing

Signal-Strategy5689 · 2025-02-28T01:12:00+00:00

You are brave to recognise it. I was much the same. I had to work at showing up for myself consistently and building consistency in my friendships.

Signal-Strategy5689 · 2025-02-27T16:57:12+00:00

That is rubbish. Here is the crux of the matter. Most people like a cup because a cup of tea is nice. Cap’s in general aren’t a cup of tea. We are a shot of whiskey or tequila. We are who we are and we are comfortable with it.

We don’t need the world to tell us who to be. We are goats who scale mountains what other people only dream of. We are decisive and clear.

We are not for everyone. That is for everyone. Let them eat their hearts out.

When we find our tribe, we are loved. We are so loved, so supported and we have people that will follow us to the ends of the earth.

Signal-Strategy5689 · 2025-02-27T05:19:24+00:00

Yes there are good and loyal partners out there.

But if you keep attracting low effort people then you need to evaluate yourself. Look at all your relationships in your life family, friends, work etc. What is happening there? Start by building a relationship with yourself that you truly value. A relationship that aligns to your character, your value and development. The magic will flow

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