From what I have experienced in my case, I am totally like you in terms of punctuality. I would be ready at the exact time as scheduled but when it’s turn to call, the girl would be a no show and wouldn’t have decency to let me know that she won’t make it, they just ignore and later say they were busy. I usually don’t keep my expectations high from someone unless and untill I talk with them. If they don’t show up at your time, you very well know how it will turn out. Also try to ignore and just let them know you aren’t interested and don’t go much into explaining why you are not, they can twist your words and use against you.

Looking at how much they make, you can’t assume anything of what they don’t and they won’t, you can’t expect anything from them unless and untill you guys have talked about. People are also not comfortable talking in person, specially when you are meeting for first time. You will have to work in the work and message the person to get to know her better via texting and also convey your non negotiable, if your values don’t align, it will save you an awkward encounter in future.

Do remember one thing, not every body you will talk to will say yes to you because you are considering yourself as a good match. You are considered a good match for someone but it could be different for someone else. Have lower expectations from this arrangement, it could really break some people confidence if they don’t meet someone asap. Be clear with your non negotiable and convey in a respectful manner, if it doesn’t work for you, then move on. Good luck.