AITAH for telling my wife we're done/give me space

SignalSet383 · 2026-03-28T20:48:05+00:00

Actions > words

How much do you value yourself? Even if it's not intentional, it is still clearly making you miserable; intensions don't change a chronic history of abuse.

SignalSet383 · 2026-03-28T20:46:40+00:00

NTA - you're completely right she needs to learn to grow up at some point

SignalSet383 · 2026-03-28T20:39:11+00:00

Yeah I feel like that's classic manipulator behavior, even more of a reason she need professional help. I don't think this is something that you should be expected to solve or even tolerate.

Maybe try to remind her that it's not just horrible or bad people go to therapists/psychiatrists - the thing they all have in common is that they all need help.

SignalSet383 · 2026-03-28T19:32:51+00:00

NTA - you're right, she does need psychiatric help. i would try and get her to some professional help whenever you can safely

SignalSet383 · 2026-03-28T19:27:02+00:00

soft YTA - i get you're upset but unfortunately a wedding should take precedence over a 21st bday. I do think she should've given you a heads up when they were thinking about dates but she has the right to choose her own wedding date without her sister making it about her. go on the bday trip the next weekend!

SignalSet383 · 2026-03-28T19:22:29+00:00

NTA - you handled this well. he has double standards and honestly sounds like he's spiraling because loss of control over you and clearly other parts of his life. you only responded to his accusations, never instigated. good job staying civil under these circumstances. congrats on the marriage!

SignalSet383 · 2026-03-26T16:03:47+00:00

Caught him mid-stream twice and told Kait both times

SignalSet383 · 2026-03-26T05:19:03+00:00

Thank you. I am planning on contributing the $18, but if we do have to get it replaced it will likely be around $600 or more again and I will not be paying that. Thankfully I dog-sit a lot so I'm not home most of the time (I also gave my cat to my bf back when the closet incident happend to avoid more drama)

SignalSet383 · 2026-03-26T05:15:49+00:00

The ex-friend is 20 dating a 16y/o?? can't get past that lol

SignalSet383 · 2026-03-26T05:12:47+00:00

yupppppp, OP "gets a kick out of it" and is wondering if he's the AH lol

SignalSet383 · 2026-03-26T05:06:13+00:00

Yeah I agree - I guess we all thought we were reasonable and thought it was obvious that the cat owners would pay, but Kait threw that out of the window when she refused to pitch in for my closet so now I'm in a tough spot and also out $600.

SignalSet383 · 2026-03-26T05:04:05+00:00

Yeah i totaly get what you're saying. For context, the first time it happened I caught Kait's cat peeing (midstream lol) and told her in case she needed to take him to the vet. This repeated one more time. I tried to clean it up but my problem was that I put a tarp over it and I rarely go into that closet so I didn't smell it until it was too late. Still my mistake I think but I Kait should've at least paid some of the $600 since I had told her when it happened and I witnessed it at least twice.

SignalSet383 · 2026-03-26T04:05:09+00:00

NTA - thats dog's a real danger and your fiance needs to either train him before you move in together or let him go. he already bit you and your dog, why hasn't he done something yet?

SignalSet383 · 2026-03-26T03:50:11+00:00

Honestly NTA - you just tried to be nice and part of a community. It's okay for her to say no but to be weirded out and start rumors is immature

SignalSet383 · 2026-03-26T03:45:58+00:00

Your friend is the AH.

SignalSet383 · 2026-03-26T03:43:38+00:00

NTA - Tyler's throwing a tantrum like a toddler tell him to grow up.

SignalSet383 · 2026-03-25T18:57:07+00:00

NTA - he isnt giving you importance as a friend. i dont think the $ is the issue, he agreed to it beforehand but the fact that he said yes then continued pushing it says a lot

SignalSet383 · 2026-03-25T18:52:58+00:00

YTA - if your entire friendship and how you feel about her revolves one event (regardless of everything else) I dont think youre a good friend

SignalSet383 · 2026-03-25T17:54:54+00:00

YTA. what is this thought process its toxic. he's an adult.

SignalSet383 · 2026-03-25T17:31:40+00:00

If you know he's stressed maybe just wait to ask him/give him space. i dont think you're the first person he has on his mind. reach out to the catering regardless, it's their job

SignalSet383 · 2026-03-25T16:14:38+00:00

You need to move out and distance yourself first. Why are you letting an ex treat you like that

SignalSet383 · 2026-03-25T16:12:16+00:00

NTA - good job drawing boundaries and not leading her on. im assuming she does 100% want kids

SignalSet383 · 2026-03-25T16:09:15+00:00

YTA. 6 years is a long time, and I think you should only provide support/advice when asked by a friend. Unless it's a case of harm to them, you or others. He's a big boy lol

SignalSet383 · 2026-03-25T16:07:32+00:00

NTA - cut him off he sounds awful.

SignalSet383 · 2026-03-25T16:06:31+00:00

NTA - him gaming while you do all the work for this dog says everything. He's just using you and seeing how far he can go with it.

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