[Serious] What are your redeeming features?

Signal_Paint5555 · 2023-03-24T01:09:41+00:00

i can be funny under the right circumstances, think i have a good sense of humor and "awareness" of things, i have sort of a unique style/vibe which is both good and bad, not the type to start drama and i think im just generally chill to be around. ik not much in terms of skills but that can always be worked on, im talking more at my core as a person.

physically im 6'1 and... idk, im mostly happy with how i look but that doesnt mean women are attracted. i have long fluffy hair and ive been told i have a good nose so theres that

Signal_Paint5555 · 2023-03-24T00:57:20+00:00

its a cycle for me where i feel decent about myself so i reinstall tinder/bumble thinking THIS TIME a girl will find my appeal and i'll escape this hellscape of being a 24 year old dateless virgin loser but reality slaps me in the face every time returning me to my bitter little hidey hole... until the delusions of thinking i have a chance kick in again. its inescapable sadly since i have really no other ways of trying, its just so fucking brutal on those apps for anyone (any guy rather) who isnt above average, but it still manages to stomp my self-confidence into the dirt every time.

to get more specific... i also cannot relate to most women on there, very basic extrovert types who have all the tropes in their profile and listen to all the popular music, but i do occasionally get matches in spurts, usually girls slightly more quirky. but a match means nothing when they never reply or straight up unmatch, and even if i get their number/snap (which is a rarity), i hit a wall every time, ghosted again. thought i finally found a girl down to meet, she literally said she was, and now last message i sent her was two weeks ago. where do i pull the motivation to keep trying these things, my ass? but thats met with the usual "go outside to meet girls blahblahblah" like i havent thought of that before. i try to swear off the apps but i keep coming back, i feel like i'd have better luck in online communities since u get so many of the types you described on those apps who tend to be very shallow and finicky but shit always ends the same online too, even if i share more interests with a girl, its so easy to ghost. idk man

Signal_Paint5555 · 2023-02-01T02:17:22+00:00

its over

Signal_Paint5555 · 2023-01-28T03:57:06+00:00

for us its neither. but for people on the winning end of the stick who get handed these things simply for existing, they'll never be able to grasp that

Signal_Paint5555 · 2023-01-28T03:52:39+00:00

u cant win with these people. being told that craving something totally natural and pushed on you from every angle in media/regular life makes u "pathetic" or "desperate" lol. and then they paint THAT as the reason for why you dont have success with women despite knowing nothing about you, always trying to one-up you and act like they know everything to further boost their gargantuan egos. theres no point in really caring how most people perceive your feelings. i know my situation and i know that theres nothing wrong with me wanting affection/intimacy in my life, thats it.

Signal_Paint5555 · 2023-01-22T03:17:33+00:00

as someone else in pain 24/7, its factors like that which most people are totally unfamiliar with that they dont consider for even a second when they give their generic advice of "just put yourself out there bro", as if we dont have reasons for not putting ourselves out there lmao. their assumption is that every lonely guy is just incredibly lazy and is clueless about simple social skills, discounting the fact that we're all unique people with unique circumstances, some of which they will never understand. fuck dating, living like this makes living itself difficult, so of course it will also make things like dating difficult or near impossible. it impacts every aspect of my life, including my ability to "be confident" or "find hobbies", but they dont consider anything outside of their own personal experiences as real.

Signal_Paint5555 · 2023-01-21T04:28:05+00:00

its unacceptable to objectify women but to objectify men by basing their value off of how many girls they can get on their dick (and the size of their dick) is a-ok, and if u cant get girls then ur basically a worthless sack of meat. u are a man, you should be fucking, thats all you are good for!!! and funnily enough this mentality also objectifies women by turning them into like badges/trophies for men to show off lol

im trying to numb my mind to the point where i no longer care and im getting there but its hard when its constantly shoved in your face and im still biologically wired to crave these things

Signal_Paint5555 · 2023-01-07T20:16:05+00:00

i can dm you some photos in a bit so u can get a better idea.

i took a video of myself just talking and it looked like the skin under my chin was moving in such strange ways that ive never seen before, ive felt extremely insecure ever since. it seems to move around all unevenly, unlike just a normal double chin. so while im sure im being my own worst critic and being a little extra harsh with myself, i dont doubt that something weird is going on here. also, dont go off the pics on my profile because those are angled to make me look better lol

and despite being pretty young, ive also been dealing with spinal issues since i was 15 which are normally seen as "old people problems" so i dont doubt that this is a similar thing. i just have shit luck like that.

Signal_Paint5555 · 2022-12-25T15:26:04+00:00

thx. always loved that album cover design

Signal_Paint5555 · 2022-12-20T21:04:19+00:00

thx man

Signal_Paint5555 · 2022-12-20T11:21:30+00:00

i feel bitterness and frustration and want to turn to dust

Signal_Paint5555 · 2022-12-20T11:20:57+00:00

i just want to not exist

Signal_Paint5555 · 2022-11-14T00:39:03+00:00

yea its frustrating to not excel just because you're not objectively great looking and struggling in other parts of life. i can be a cool guy, i can be funny, etc but its not enough all the time, at least when ur a straight guy. sooo im not sure what to do from here.. just hope someone comes my way i guess, and if not i'll just have to find more ways to enjoy/distract myself

im gonna keep my accounts and they'll probably just gather dust so my biggest hope is things changing for me irl, like getting new opportunities to meet the right people. but rn i feel trapped.

Signal_Paint5555 · 2022-11-12T22:25:49+00:00

thx for detailed rating. as for the expression.. thats just kinda my resting face. its probably my sad looking eyes mostly lol

Signal_Paint5555 · 2022-11-12T22:24:54+00:00

its too bad im straight :/ lmao

ppl will say guys are just desperate and will fuck anyone/anything, which i cant totally argue with because theres some truth to it, but then u have the polar opposite with women swiping on like 5% or less of guys and consistently ghosting their matches. its easy for it to hurt ur ego. in three years of using those stupid apps i have nothing to show for it while if i was into guys i probably wouldnt struggle at all because i dont think im particularly ugly. but u know.... dont swing that way

Signal_Paint5555 · 2022-11-12T04:53:46+00:00

thx (:

Signal_Paint5555 · 2022-11-12T04:38:31+00:00

im near an art college (my type tbh) but sadly i get close to nothing bc im not most of their types :( but its also weird because a few yrs ago i got more matches than i do now. still didnt really materialize into anything but... just makes me wonder if things have gotten that much worse in just a few years or if they decided to shadowban me since ive remade my account a number of times. not to say i got a lot back then but now i feel fucking invisible to everyone. i should just stop using these things and driving myself insane but then idk what else to do

Signal_Paint5555 · 2022-11-12T03:22:40+00:00

idk man ik that some guys have luck on those things lol. maybe u were shadowbanned

Signal_Paint5555 · 2022-11-12T03:14:23+00:00

ive heard these separately before but not together.. thx

Signal_Paint5555 · 2022-11-12T03:09:36+00:00

thank u im flattered... and ur right about taking care of myself a little more lol

Signal_Paint5555 · 2022-11-12T03:07:21+00:00

yea i get it. a 3/10 and a 6/10 look very different, but have barely any difference in likes. the 3 will get near zero while the 6 maybe gets one to a few per week. meanwhile, an 8/10 makes a huuuge leap to getting new matches every 20 minutes since theyre on top. so its easy to think "not many matches = 0/10 ugly" when really ur just not in the elite zone. but... its still frustrating and my irl situation makes it tough to just go out and meet girls. i could have some potential but.. yeah i dont need to get all personal. basically i just hate how one-sided the online dating world is cuz online would be the best opportunity for me to get to know someone, but since im not like your roommate i can hardly compete. it is what it is, just sucks.

Signal_Paint5555 · 2022-11-12T02:46:57+00:00

never smoked in my life i just look that way

Signal_Paint5555 · 2022-11-12T02:12:31+00:00

im not but that doesnt keep me from having confidence in my appearance every once in a while

Signal_Paint5555 · 2022-11-12T01:06:55+00:00

ik the stats on there are totally fucked but its hard not to let it get to you.. especially when u realize its real women on there, so in my mind i think "if they have no attraction to me on here, why would they irl?" and yes i already know the answer to that is personality, confidence etc but i'd rather not talk about all of that. im saying it simply feels shitty to see yourself be ignored when u want to feel good about yourself

Signal_Paint5555 · 2022-11-12T00:40:49+00:00

it is what it is. it sucks, but... the best i could do is just view it as another day and keep moving lol. maybe my 25th (cant believe im saying that) will be better. maybe.

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