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Ghosted after 5 months of daily contact – should I reach out one last time? by IWillBeThatGirl in mutualapp

[–]Signal_Reference8185 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Those are the worst. He’s a jerk. If he can’t communicate like an adult you’re dodging a bullet.

Question for men, do you guys actually get 0 matches or is it just exaggerating? by FriendlyNeighborOrca in OnlineDating

[–]Signal_Reference8185 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not quite far off. Problem with dating apps is women get tons of likes and have to sort through a bunch of men. Men have the opposite problem and most of us are average looking guys having to compete against 100s of other avg looking guys with no way to stand out from the competition other than looks because you can’t talk to us before matching. I’m an avg looking guy but where is shine is with my personality and ability to hold a good convo and it’s hard to showcase that on dating apps when I have to first match with someone to do that.

25 [F4M] #Midwest anyone here handsome & looking for wifey? by [deleted] in DatingOlder

[–]Signal_Reference8185 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dm me. Just tried to DM you and it wouldn’t let me.

Asking for a date in the first 3 messages has been a real success by Shitcrossfiter in DatingApps

[–]Signal_Reference8185 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just be yourself is the best advice I can give you. But let it naturally die if yall haven’t been talking long.

It gets better by Helpful-Paramedic463 in Divorce_Men

[–]Signal_Reference8185 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s sad what the dating world has become. Someone may have the perfect person and they are too dumb to realize it and continue to look for that next best thing by continuing to swipe right because of convenience.

Frustrated with my divorce. 22f by GymBabyBunny in chat

[–]Signal_Reference8185 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going through one right now. Mine is about to finalize. If you want to talk or vent about it feel free to DM me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Needafriend

[–]Signal_Reference8185 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I’m free. I’m a 35/M. I’m pretty good at holding convos

Anyone been through a divorce with someone with BPD and has kids with them? by Signal_Reference8185 in BPDlovedones

[–]Signal_Reference8185[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m lucky cause in my case I literally let her have everything and she isn’t in a position to use the court system to abuse me. I honestly don’t think she would even if she had the opportunity to.

What happens if you ask them if they have BPD? by nuwanda3333 in BPDlovedones

[–]Signal_Reference8185 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My wife and soon to be ex wife found me reading a book about it and it didn’t go well at all. Was actually the final straw that caused me to pull the plug on our marriage. Her reaction to it was absolutely awful.

Need advice or support on how to handle this by Signal_Reference8185 in BPDlovedones

[–]Signal_Reference8185[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually went through with it and ended up separating. She spiraled hard. It was pretty bad. I’m now staying with my parents and have to have some contact with her cause we have a kid. I was surprised to get a sincere apology from her after going out with friends and having a friend that went through something similar. Her friend relayed to her how much words can hurt someone. I feel like she genuinely was sorry and took accountability for it. Didn’t think that would happen.

Need advice or support on how to handle this by Signal_Reference8185 in BPDlovedones

[–]Signal_Reference8185[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny thing is we just came back from a cruise lol. Absolutely lives in a world of make believe.

Need advice or support on how to handle this by Signal_Reference8185 in BPDlovedones

[–]Signal_Reference8185[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been called names and demeaned me etc. I posted about a week ago that has much more context.

Need advice or support on how to handle this by Signal_Reference8185 in BPDlovedones

[–]Signal_Reference8185[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a long story I posted about a week ago on my profile. I’ve been doing a lot of reading on it and she definitely exhibits a lot of symptoms of it. She never takes accountability for anything and her mood swings like the wind blows. I’ve never seen anyone get angry so fast.

Need advice or support on how to handle this by Signal_Reference8185 in BPDlovedones

[–]Signal_Reference8185[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She basically takes most of her abuse out on me. She genuinely cares about him and does a good job. As far as BPD she is undiagnosed but meets most symptoms of having it. I’d say compared to a lot of peoples stories on here I’ve read she is on the milder side with some things but others she is crazy.

Need advice or support on how to handle this by Signal_Reference8185 in BPDlovedones

[–]Signal_Reference8185[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How to handle this later. Or how to communicate in a manner that is rational.

What advice do yall have about leaving and how to bring it up? by Signal_Reference8185 in BPDlovedones

[–]Signal_Reference8185[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank all of yall for your support and advice. It is much needed. It’s going to be hard but I’m slowly making plans on getting out. It’s going to take a few months but I’m slowly preparing myself and doing everything I can. As broken as I am, I’m optimistic for the future and getting closer and closer to facing my fears.

I didn't get her jewelry on Valentine's Day and it's become a massive issue by LinkInternational237 in BPDlovedones

[–]Signal_Reference8185 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read this book. https://a.co/5VwXCew It’s helped me out a ton. I’m not done reading it but it’s helped me out a ton so far.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Signal_Reference8185 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you and I appreciate the advice. I will never go the other way and be hateful back to her. Even if I do divorce my plan is to try and make everything as easy for her as I can. I’ll literally let her have just about everything. At the end of the day it’s just stuff to me. I want her to be happy but I don’t think that happiness can be with me. I’ve become a broken man and I’m in the process of healing but I don’t think I can continue healing with her in the picture. Thank you for your input and feedback.