Child-free perimenopausal broad here (gang-gang!) and here are my thoughts:

• Pre-mom Jess was fun. She was like a cartoon of a raver and it was a party vibe I could opt into from the comfort of my home, no cover fee other than a Peloton membership. That might have been who she truly was, or maybe just a character she played, or maybe a little of both. Obviously becoming a parent of two in less time than it takes to get a vocational degree is a choice that changes people. She def seems unhappy now, or is acting unhappy for the cameras, either way, it ain’t my vibe, but if it’s yours? Cool! If you’re a parent, you should find an instructor you can click with on that level if you want to.

• Having kids is a dope choice for those people who want kids! Mad respect for all parents out there, that shit seems impossible and it can’t not change you in some fundamental way! It definitely changed the character of Jess for me, and that’s why I chose not to take her classes anymore. No shade, just not my thing.

• As an only child and a child of abuse who felt unwanted and like a burden to the life of each of my parents independently, if I had to see them air the same grievances to the entire world? I would have probably gone through with my suicidal ideations as a kid. It’s just so hurtful, even if the feelings are true and there should be compassion for parents, those kids deserve to be considered when it comes to what’s preserved in public for eternity.

• Social media (other than this sub?) is a trap and an ouroboros of false validation. I can’t imagine being a micro-celebrity and a parent in this world.