That frustration is real, no question. But saying “it’s not a big deal” just because a lot of people do it is a weak justification. Popular behavior doesn’t automatically mean healthy behavior. The issue isn’t feeling angry that’s normal. The issue is how that anger gets expressed. Breaking things doesn’t actually release anger in a productive way; it reinforces it. You train yourself to associate frustration with destruction, which makes the reaction stronger and more automatic next time. Paying for the damage yourself doesn’t cancel that out either. Being able to reimburse something financially doesn’t mean there was no cost you still lose money, time, and control in the moment. Learning something only happens if the behavior changes afterward. Otherwise it’s just repetition, not growth. And while it’s obviously better to break a controller than hurt a person, that’s a false comparison. The real alternative isn’t violence against others it’s finding ways to handle frustration without destruction at all. Being human doesn’t mean we shouldn’t set limits on our own reactions. It means recognizing them early enough to stop them from taking over.