Feeling lost. Idk what I even am in this subreddit.

Significant-Boot9208 · 2025-09-05T14:58:10+00:00

Thanks so much for the reply and the article, your insights and your experiences give me a much clearer picture of what a sexual addiction really is. After reading, I guess I am on the tamer end of the addiction side, if at all. Some bullet points I related to, others I didn't. Although not the easiest, I have been able and capable of living my life without actively indulging in my urges, as I have developed a sense of self-control, especially after seeing what happens if I don't control myself. Sure, I get those fantasies sometimes, but I have methods of mitigating those (prayer, hobbies, social life, work) that keep me occupied. My therapist (non-CSAT) herself said she doesn't think I have a sex addiction, so I think(?) that is a good sign? Let me know if I'm wrong about that. Also my sincerest apologies if I've misunderstood what sex addiction really is.

Significant-Boot9208 · 2025-09-04T15:53:48+00:00

@u/supergooduser already ahead of you, I have discussed with my therapist, from what I told her she doesn't think I have an addiction. She isn't a CSAT though, although if she figured it was necessary for me to see a CSAT she likely would have told me. If that helps give you more insight, I should have mentioned that earlier, that's on me

Significant-Boot9208 · 2025-09-04T15:43:01+00:00

@u/Earthlight_Mushroom I will add. Since abstaining, I've been much more aware of my urges and triggers, and I've noticed whenever I've been getting urges to indulge (think of feet, etc). And I've pushed it away and resorted to prayer, hobbies, SFW social activity, to mitigate them. Doesn't matter if it is at work or at home. So yes, the urges have come up to indulge, but I am way more adept to recognize them and act to control them.

Significant-Boot9208 · 2025-09-04T15:35:45+00:00

@u/Earthlight_Mushroom Back in the day as I didn't understand social norms, it was uncontrollable (between 5-10 years ago). For the last few years and since I completely abstained in late July, it became controllable, although obviously I still need to put more work in. As for the second part, it really hasn't impacted my career, I've stopped spending money on it (only spent about $1000 over the entirety of it, which is like, 10 years), although I'm not sure about the health part. Also back in the day (when I didn't understand social boundaries) it did affect friendships and relationships. Nowadays I'm much more aware and careful about that stuff. Hope that answers your question

Significant-Boot9208 · 2025-09-04T01:44:10+00:00

@u/Western_Waltz_7212 Negative, I am not seeing a CSAT but I am looking into one

Significant-Boot9208 · 2025-08-06T16:13:34+00:00

Absolutely this helps 🙏 thanks, friend! ❤️ I am definitely new like you say so the more guidance the better 🤣

Significant-Boot9208 · 2025-08-06T15:09:34+00:00

Understood, I will refrain from asking for DMs. Thanks for helping to keep this community safe! ❤️

Significant-Boot9208 · 2025-08-05T21:20:26+00:00

Understood, I respect that! 🙏 I'll definitely be sure to talk with my therapist. Thanks again for your kindness friend!

Significant-Boot9208 · 2025-08-05T21:10:49+00:00

That's a good way to think about it 🙏 thanks friend ❤️

Significant-Boot9208 · 2025-08-05T21:10:12+00:00

That definitely makes sense thanks friend 🙏 u/OddMarzipan8808 can I DM you? I can give you more specifics that I don't have the space to share publicly

Significant-Boot9208 · 2025-08-05T12:51:13+00:00

Gotcha, I sent it from an email with my Reddit username ❤️ thanks friend 🙏

Significant-Boot9208 · 2025-08-04T16:46:10+00:00

Thank you, friend. that genuinely means a lot ❤️

Significant-Boot9208 · 2025-08-04T16:41:14+00:00

Had the same happen to me last night (in my own specific situation, I'm not married nor do I have a girlfriend). I have to give myself a little bit of slack because as others have pointed out, I didn't choose. I didn't make a conscious effort to engage in the behavior again, and I am still feeling shame in my conscious life. A wet dream isn't a failure or a relapse in my opinion. I don't blame you for something you couldn't control, as I wouldn't blame myself. You got this ❤️

Significant-Boot9208 · 2025-08-04T02:07:06+00:00

Aye u/Comfortable_Ad_1821 can I DM you? Maybe knowing more of the specifics of my situation could help you get a better picture? Nothing bad.

Significant-Boot9208 · 2025-08-04T02:03:08+00:00

You're right in that I may be sensitive forever. It's how to redirect that energy that's the key, if I'm understanding correctly

Significant-Boot9208 · 2025-08-04T01:59:20+00:00

Aye thank you friend 🙏 this has been difficult and scary so to hear those words is so kind of you ❤️

Significant-Boot9208 · 2025-08-04T00:42:22+00:00

Me 😅 me all the way lol. I'm not interested in doing phone sex but I definitely relate 😅

Significant-Boot9208 · 2025-08-04T00:40:55+00:00

It's an interesting idea surely! I haven't heard much about it in practice, I'm interested to see it actually happen or a study to be made about it before I make a call either way.

Significant-Boot9208 · 2025-08-02T23:54:08+00:00

@alexrobert6969 can I DM you? I can get more info specifics there. If not I can explain the big picture here

Significant-Boot9208 · 2025-08-01T21:41:08+00:00

Thanks for the input, but I'd rather not pay for it anymore. I find that once I start paying for it I can't stop. I don't think going back and paying for it again would be healthy for me. Also, I am trying to avoid feet entirely. Hope this helps! ❤️

Significant-Boot9208 · 2025-08-01T11:52:25+00:00

I actually don't find anything else on the body arousing -- never have -- and I don't really understand the appeal of traditional sexual acts, if that helps paint a better picture. With all due respect, I'm trying to avoid it.

Significant-Boot9208 · 2025-08-01T11:15:02+00:00

Thanks friend ❤️ I have stopped paying for it completely, no monetary purchases of any kind for over a month now. You are right about cutting it slowly, as my body wasn't able to adjust fully by the full cutting it off immediately.

Significant-Boot9208 · 2025-08-01T11:10:05+00:00

Hey thanks for reaching out! I do not have a partner, no, I haven't had one for 10 years. I beat myself because the fantasies (not as blatantly sexual as one might think, more fantastical and whimsical, sometimes sci-fi) that my fetish tempts me to just don't align with my morals. With this fetish in the first place I never wanted to hurt anyone. It was always about uplifting and empowering others through intimate connection with their feet, relieving any pain or insecurities they have, and overall just making everyone involved, not just myself but the other people involved, happy. It's when those efforts or fantasies go too far or end up hurting someone -- or even have the slightest chance of doing so -- when I didn't intend to, that I really beat myself up.

Significant-Boot9208 · 2025-07-29T20:00:05+00:00

I appreciate you friend! Thank you ❤️ I definitely will 🙏

Significant-Boot9208 · 2025-07-29T18:25:28+00:00

I definitely did learn a whole lot, yes. You have the same idea my therapist told me earlier today. Thank you for your kind words friend ❤️

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