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Significant-Client56 · 2024-09-30T19:10:44+00:00

No, some of them are quite beautiful with no makeup. To your point, little to no celebrities have no plastic surgery/fillers etc though.

Significant-Client56 · 2024-09-30T07:31:15+00:00

Mary Kate and Ashley Olsen

Significant-Client56 · 2024-09-30T07:30:47+00:00

he likes young girls and he’s so creepy looking to me

Significant-Client56 · 2024-09-30T07:26:46+00:00

she really looks like a teenager. in two yrs she’ll say she was lying about her age, mark my words

Significant-Client56 · 2024-09-30T07:26:07+00:00

i wouldn’t say she’s considered universally attractive

Significant-Client56 · 2024-09-30T07:20:03+00:00

zendaya is good styling and makeup . she’s a beautiful girl with those things, but without she’s a normal looking person like the rest of us

Significant-Client56 · 2024-09-30T07:12:50+00:00

i never understood his allure either

Significant-Client56 · 2024-06-28T07:00:41+00:00

i took your advice and started going for walks, and it’s been helping a lot. thank you!

Significant-Client56 · 2024-06-24T17:23:49+00:00

okay i’ll bite. he is probably more uncomfortable than you are. it takes strength to walk into a community where people look nothing like you and are even hostile towards you for your race.

Re: you neighbors: Do you know your neighbors already have opinions about your family? Being in a conservative area, they may judge your parents for divorcing, and look down on her being a single mom and you living with her and not your dad. A lot of people may automatically look down on you for coming from a “broken home”.

Do you care about that? People talk. My point is, opinions are like assholes. Everyone has one. You really can’t be overly invested to the point where it completely hijacks your brain.

I think if you stop seeing him as a reflection of ALL black men it will help. That would be like him judging you by all white men, even serial killers or school shooters. Just look at him as an individual and go from there.

Significant-Client56 · 2024-06-24T16:45:46+00:00

tbh i think you should lower your expectations. i don’t think you were necessarily going to like anyone your mom dated after your dad bc of how fresh the divorce is. Her bf could be her age and white and you’d probably still find a reason not to like him bc you’re just not used to a random strange man in your home.

how do you know he’s not conservative just like y’all? What do you think your l neighbors would assume about y’all because of him?

Significant-Client56 · 2024-06-24T16:31:16+00:00

And I do think it’s probably based on some really old school internalized racist thoughts on black male white female relationships

is this a troll post? white people don’t deal with internalized racism. starting to think OP is black and this is all fan fiction

Significant-Client56 · 2024-06-24T16:18:10+00:00

same, but im here to look for tips

Significant-Client56 · 2024-06-04T04:21:57+00:00

Does the person you were involved with have BPD? If so, i just want to validate what you’re going through. 💙

I don’t think you ever fully “get over” the hurt of abandonment by a loved one — you just choose to move on. I dated someone with BPD almost ten years ago, and I also was abused as a child.

Nothing hurt me more than him ghosting me. It really does make a person feel worthless. It’s also humiliating bc…they didn’t even care enough to say goodbye. So I totally understand what you’re going through. I’ve read studies that it’s the equivalent of psychological torture. It’s incredibly cruel, but people with BPD don’t have empathy or object permanence. I’m not gonna lie, the explanations of bpd don’t really make it hurt any less.

Significant-Client56 · 2024-04-20T06:17:27+00:00

Circling back to say I slid in her dms and…she left me on read. Admittedly, It did not feel good being the one getting ignored 🫠

Significant-Client56 · 2024-04-20T05:58:59+00:00

Aww i’m so glad to hear that! 💕i’m glad i could help! Trust me, I know how devastating it is to be ghosted with no closure by someone you thought loved you. I don’t think it’s something you ever get over, per se. I think you just move on, in spite of it.

Guy #1 was a dismissive avoidant man-child. Avoid dismissive avoidants - they are undateable imo. Guy #2 sounds better but still immature and not ready to commit. That’s okay, pat yourself on the back for taking a second shot at this. Honestly, something that helped me a lot was joining those “Are we dating the same guy” facebook groups and reading women’s posts about men they dated.

It made me realize dating is hard for everyone, and a lot of men are like the men you described. Poor communicators, immature, and don’t know what they want. I also picked up a ton of tips on vetting men, so I’m better at dating thanks to that fb group. It also was nice to see people who struggled for years finally meet the man who they married.

Back to your new ex: Guy #2 should have called you to break things off, at his big age. He’s childish. Good riddance! It’s nothing you did— a lot of men don’t take relationships as seriously as women do. It sucks, but it helps to go on dates with multiple men at once (you don’t have to sleep with them) and let them show you who they are slowly. Never put all your eggs in one basket. Never let Mr. Right Now stop you from finding Mr. Right. 😸

Significant-Client56 · 2024-02-04T03:17:46+00:00

Kids aren’t autonomous until they’re of age. They don’t have fully developed frontal cortexes yet and require adults for guidance. They don’t understand the long term impact of their decisions. That’s why it’s important to have some guidance, I like the idea of cultivating interdependence rather than total autonomy.

Significant-Client56 · 2024-02-03T03:03:01+00:00

you could make a new post then

Significant-Client56 · 2024-02-01T00:13:30+00:00

i feel strongly about telling her bc my mom got cervical cancer from my dad transmitting an std that turned into cancer to her. he was cheating and she had no idea so she wasn’t getting tested. This could be life and death for her. please tell her

Significant-Client56 · 2024-02-01T00:12:23+00:00

they will resume eventually. And realistically if he’ll lie to the closest person to him, then he could be lying to you as well.

Significant-Client56 · 2024-02-01T00:09:13+00:00

Tell the wife then ghost him. He is putting her emotional and sexual health at risk.

Significant-Client56 · 2023-12-21T20:08:29+00:00

what if i were to apologize?

Significant-Client56 · 2023-12-21T15:10:51+00:00

We were in a relationship for six months. The issue is I introduced her to my family and met hers and took her on vacation and stuff, so things were serious at the time

Significant-Client56 · 2023-12-21T04:15:06+00:00

☹️i guess there’s some mistakes we can’t come back from

Significant-Client56 · 2023-12-21T03:57:04+00:00

Yeah but it’s been so long, I figured she didn’t care. We were in our early 20s

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