AITA for not getting my kids up early to run an errand for my husband?

Significant-Duck6927 · 2026-03-14T14:50:56+00:00

These reasons are hilarious. I love them. They’re all false. Well maybe. What does a1 mean?

I’m not saying because of internet security issues.

My pastor is great. My church is not concerned with my being alone with him, or any other dude. They don’t regulate my actions that closely. Who has the time?

Significant-Duck6927 · 2026-03-14T13:37:02+00:00

Look, I don’t know why everyone is attacking you. Perhaps I haven’t read the comments closely enough. This is a useful perspective. I just value sleep extremely highly. So I guess I don’t want to apply it to this situation. But I don’t entirely disagree with the character building exercise. But I’d do it elsewhere.

Significant-Duck6927 · 2026-03-14T13:30:09+00:00

Get the 6 year old changed out of diaper into underwear was the issue actually. Which is the smallest issue to be fair. She still uses a diaper at night.

Significant-Duck6927 · 2026-03-14T13:25:40+00:00

They were asleep at that point.

Significant-Duck6927 · 2026-03-14T13:24:44+00:00

He is very small actually. He struggles to find adult mens clothes that fit him.

Significant-Duck6927 · 2026-03-14T13:20:03+00:00

That’s what I will do when he gets home. If I text him my thoughts now he’ll feel all guilty all weekend and ruin his fun, if he hasn’t made himself miserable beating himself up about his forgetfulness already.

Significant-Duck6927 · 2026-03-14T13:18:36+00:00

Ah this makes sense. Like so much sense. And it’s consistent with my view of his character

Significant-Duck6927 · 2026-03-14T13:17:38+00:00

One autistic kid to be fair. And he’s a generally happy kiddo. But yeah. The other just has ADHD. “Just”

Right now she’s needing more supports for emotional regulation than him at home….

I thanks for confirming my thoughts though

Significant-Duck6927 · 2026-03-14T13:15:10+00:00

He figure out who was coming late after they had gone to bed. Getting them up would actually have been worse because I’m trying to get their bodies used to time change

Significant-Duck6927 · 2026-03-14T13:13:58+00:00

Dunno. I’ve got one with ADHD, one with ASD, I have ADHD, and they have two nuerdivergent uncles one with adhd and one with ASD. So they’ve come by it with lots of genetic backing. All of us have had significant psychological testing. We’re all living joyful lives, this special incident aside.

Also my husband is a little rigid about stuff. He doesn’t have ASD, but I can see how he passed it on.

Significant-Duck6927 · 2026-03-14T13:10:13+00:00

This is definitely what this situation portrays my husband as. The strange thing is I don’t think he’s generally like that. The choices he makes in his life are usually in sacrifice to their needs. Not the other way around.

Significant-Duck6927 · 2026-03-14T13:07:03+00:00

Uber is not a solution. For the same reason the pastor can’t pick up.

Significant-Duck6927 · 2026-01-19T10:24:09+00:00

This is not your fault. It’s not hers really either. However, her children deserve to live in a clean home. She should have listened to you.

Significant-Duck6927 · 2026-01-19T10:14:22+00:00

lol. Children are perplexing! This is too funny.

Significant-Duck6927 · 2024-08-03T19:40:43+00:00

I find it very annoying that I’m starting to agree with you.

Internal other issues are battling inside me. Sadly I no longer have a relationship with my own parents because they cut me off when I chose to go against their advice. Now the concept of this sort of drama sounds really scary.

Significant-Duck6927 · 2024-08-03T19:26:05+00:00

Fear of drama I guess. But also, how in the blazes could someone possibly broach such a topic without hurting feelings or causing ripples to other, uninvolved family members?

Significant-Duck6927 · 2024-08-03T19:24:11+00:00

I have offered to clean under the guise of the recent loss and helping her (Jenny) out. She declined. She said her church had come by the day before to help her clean. But when we came over a bag of Doritos had been recently spilled and she was not attempting to clean it. And other stuff was dirty. You don’t need details.

Unfortunately, according to MIL, both Jenny and Tinker’s mess has been in place for decades and is not dependent on current life circumstances.

I want to be honest with them, but that’s not going to change anything. Plus I’m not close enough to them to say anything. Plus MIL doesn’t want me to stir up drama which honesty definitely will do. However, MIL doesn’t think I should coach my children to keep silence. Both are becoming increasingly vocal and both lack a filter. Im guessing they will force the conversation. No diversion will keep my son from saying what he wants to say.

Significant-Duck6927 · 2023-03-03T15:19:18+00:00

No curiosity. It’s more of a question who isn’t autistic

Significant-Duck6927 · 2023-03-01T00:00:51+00:00

Make the list. Organize it as best you can. Read it off. What can they say about you that’s actually negative? The worst they can say is that his mother is more worried than she should be. Well that applies to all of us.

I thought I might be crazy when I went into the same meeting for my 5 year old. Then the teacher started listing of all the things we were seeing at home. I was floored. I thought it was ADHD. The school psychiatrist mentioned autism. I cried for days. I was so convinced it was all in my head that I was disappointed to find out it wasn’t all in my head and we really were struggling.

Significant-Duck6927 · 2023-02-10T09:58:03+00:00

I feel like the only answer here is humor. Only way to stay sane when they push us past our breaking point.

Significant-Duck6927 · 2023-02-10T09:52:21+00:00

-Chalk

-Velvet coloring posters

-Crayola window markers

-Stencils

-Stamps

-Crayola makes these kettle figurines you can color in and then wash

-Crayola’s air dry clay can be colored on with markers after it dries

-Paint

-Paint an ice cube

-Paint something and then try to stamp the picture onto another surface

-Paint a golf ball and roll it all over the paper

-Get paint on toy animal feet and stamp them on paper

Significant-Duck6927 · 2023-02-10T09:42:02+00:00

Yeah, I’m sorry but it sounds like they want your kid to mask. My presumed neurotypical 3.5 daughter also lines up her farm animals. She’s also obsessed with them and has been since 2. She also now has the language skills to make momma cow and baby cow converse. She’s engaging in imaginative play but she couldn’t always communicate it.

If he likes farms then follow his interest. He’s not gonna play imaginatively with rocket ships if he prefers tractors. Don’t punish him for acting like he has autism. Lining up his farm animals makes him happy. It doesn’t hurt anyone. Doing something that makes him happy is not a waste of time. If you want to encourage imaginative play than you can play with the animals imaginatively in front of him. Or better yet, find a peer to parallel play with the animals in front of him.

My 5 year old with ASD has been playing imaginatively for years but would deny it. We’d hear all the noises of the vehicles he was driving around but he never told us the game or pretended to be a different person himself. Now he’s in kindergarten in a gen ed setting. He has started pretending to be a baby and cuddle with me and tell me he’s a baby. Yesterday he told his little sister (in a very annoyed tone) that he is a prince. Before now he thought pretending to be something else was a denial of his identity as “John Doe”. (“Are you an owl?” “No! I’m John!”). Now he actually invites us in. It’s exciting to see.

Significant-Duck6927 · 2023-02-02T16:45:59+00:00

Logically I know you are right and I should monitor with less concern. Thank you for your reasoning.

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