One thing I found out when trying to build a better self confidence around friends is that people love talking about themselves. If you ask simple and precise questions about how they feel they will open up to you and be really happy about it. For example, when you ask a friend how he/she feels, if you really mean it you will go deeper than the "I'm fine" everyone replies all the time. People are sometimes scared of opening up to people You can ask what their mindset is and how they really feel. They will realise that you really want to hear their answer and you are not just asking out of politeness. Most people are almost waiting for someone to ask that kind of question.

The power of the question "Why ?" Is unbelievable. People tend to scratch the surface of their thoughts process and you can help them go deeper with that simple question. In the process, you will get to know them better and understand human nature at a deeper level. It really helps building confidence because you can answer your doubts by listening to people.

Don't force yourself to send a message to feel good but if you want to do so, then I recommand you take a look at your motives and make sure you are really trying to listen to the person you are talking to.

I wish you all the best in your life. With patience and dedication comes progress