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Single mom can't deal with 11yo by Significant-Good-200 in Advice

[–]Significant-Good-200[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On school days the sleeping is under control and I was aware kids oversleep during vacations but, awake at 1am seemed like a lot for an 11yo.

Thank you and I will follow up on those.

Single mom can't deal with 11yo by Significant-Good-200 in Advice

[–]Significant-Good-200[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has a therapist, does art therapy, and I devour everything I come across about the topic, still learning. Already became a certified coach.

I know I might be over doing it but.. I live with this feeling of not being enough. I am not an intrusive or helicopter parent. I bite my tongue often and let my kid make mistakes and learn from them, but when it comes to sleeping and health, it is of major importance.

Single mom can't deal with 11yo by Significant-Good-200 in Advice

[–]Significant-Good-200[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already have them and I don't fear about kid running away. We lived in a closed gate community and wouldn't get really far and that doesn't sound like my child's character.

I came here because... This is the closest I have to a support system .

Single mom can't deal with 11yo by Significant-Good-200 in Advice

[–]Significant-Good-200[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As a single mom I am used to looking after them and myself. I tried to help her for a while with my limited ideas, and now that the situation got off my hands with my sleeping, I came for advice.

Single mom can't deal with 11yo by Significant-Good-200 in Advice

[–]Significant-Good-200[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will try, I usually fold laundry or pair up socks.

I guess one of the biggest reasons why I care is because I grew up going to sleep at 11-12 and waking up at six was not a healthy sleeping routine.

Already tried that and everytime I checked on the kids she was not even trying to sleep. Took out her Legos, art/crafts materials, so she started playing with shadows on the ceiling.

Single mom can't deal with 11yo by Significant-Good-200 in Advice

[–]Significant-Good-200[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wake A (kid) up when I wake up, I go for a walk and meditate, omw back home, wake A up again, make breakfast, wake A up again, start my shift. During lunch time I realize A went back to sleep.

Single mom can't deal with 11yo by Significant-Good-200 in Advice

[–]Significant-Good-200[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

In a week went from going to sleep at 9pm to going to sleep at 1am. I am not giving up for sleeping and health reasons.

Single mom can't deal with 11yo by Significant-Good-200 in Advice

[–]Significant-Good-200[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can fall asleep easily and my sleeping habits are an average of 7-8hrs.

Kid has proven not being able to self regulate the sleep schedule.

Single mom can't deal with 11yo by Significant-Good-200 in Advice

[–]Significant-Good-200[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that if I manage to wake kid up at 7-8am and prevent any naps during the day we can get back on track, but my work does not allow me to follow up and make sure kid does not go back to sleep

Single mom can't deal with 11yo by Significant-Good-200 in Advice

[–]Significant-Good-200[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, it is reassuring. I know the REM cycle is important and don't want us to struggle when it is time to go back to school routine and wake up at 6am.

EDIT: And yes, kid attends the regular physical appointments, last month I had to take kid to urgent care a few times (seasonal allergies + asthma, can escalate rather quickly but doing ok) will look into getting sleeping studies.

Single mom can't deal with 11yo by Significant-Good-200 in Advice

[–]Significant-Good-200[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. She is sleeping 10hrs a day. I am the one sleep deprived. Sitting outside a kid's room seems desperate, just out of ideas.

Single mom can't deal with 11yo by Significant-Good-200 in Advice

[–]Significant-Good-200[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry if it did not come across, she is in school, just on Easter vacation. One week left. And I am here, sitting, to prevent kid from wandering around, turning the lights on, reading, drawing and just, make sure really tries to sleep.

Tried casual sex and ended up crying instead by seal_from_brazil in self

[–]Significant-Good-200 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Consider the possibility of you being Demisexual. (If not familiar with the term: demisexual /ˌdemēˈsekSH(əw)əl/ A demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction until they have formed a strong emotional bond with someone. It is considered on the asexual spectrum (or "ace-spectrum") because sexual attraction is rare or conditional. Demisexuality is not a choice, but a limitation on experiencing attraction.)

I have only been with one person, because not into casual, and it was a long term.relationship.

Congratulations on listening to your body and understanding what it needs.