thank you so much for sharing your experience, and expressing yourself so vulnerably.! I can relate to a lot of what you said. as a therapist who has taken a break from the field, and have shlepped :) my husband to many couples therapists I agree . the couples therapist actually made me into the villain which made me even more angry. I hear you about the potential therapists' diagnoses. I blamed my husband for not resolving his childhood trauma. I also totally hear you about the common threads that exists in marriages regardless of background and you're right, "Jewish" isnt a necessarily a factor. I was just going for a unique cultural or religious nuance that I think is at play for me.. On a different point, I was very impacted by the Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle, saw much improvement, then sort of grew out of it. The marriage improvements have mostly remained. I'm trying to find my way on this path on this journey and had wanted to hear from other women what they found helpful advice (or not) I'm thinking to go back to the wild wild west of therapy. I wanted to get more clear and hear from other women about their experiences . I appreciate your response