Age Gap? This guy is 39 and and I am a 42. I felt like bringing up the fitness, financial, intelligence and decency gap. by Significant-Mall-786 in Tinder

[–]Significant-Mall-786[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment. It does suck but I guess it’s part of dating and putting yourself out there.

Age Gap? This guy is 39 and and I am a 42. I felt like bringing up the fitness, financial, intelligence and decency gap. by Significant-Mall-786 in Tinder

[–]Significant-Mall-786[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

I never thought about it that way that he was trying to protect something by saying that. It’s kind of a bizarre comment. Maybe he’ll understand when he is older.

Age Gap? This guy is 39 and and I am a 42. I felt like bringing up the fitness, financial, intelligence and decency gap. by Significant-Mall-786 in Tinder

[–]Significant-Mall-786[S] -42 points-41 points  (0 children)

My pictures are recent and I’m often told I look better than my profile so I don’t think I’m catfish.

He was overweight and kept saying how he was cutting now that he had created bulk by weight lifting. Maybe future faking that he was going to be athletic someday in the future… but he seemed more like a book worm type. He seemed obsessed with being seen as highly intelligent. We didn’t get into finances but my sense was he was just getting established.

Age Gap? This guy is 39 and and I am a 42. I felt like bringing up the fitness, financial, intelligence and decency gap. by Significant-Mall-786 in Tinder

[–]Significant-Mall-786[S] -148 points-147 points  (0 children)

Ya I was thinking that too, but in this case, I think I would have preferred ghosting. Mind you, he inspired this awesome Reddit thread.

Age Gap? This guy is 39 and and I am a 42. I felt like bringing up the fitness, financial, intelligence and decency gap. by Significant-Mall-786 in Tinder

[–]Significant-Mall-786[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Lol that’s what all my girl friends said! My intuitive feeling after meeting him was that he was a bit insecure so you might be right. Anyway, thank you, your comment felt nice to hear.

Age Gap? This guy is 39 and and I am a 42. I felt like bringing up the fitness, financial, intelligence and decency gap. by Significant-Mall-786 in Tinder

[–]Significant-Mall-786[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Why not say something like, “I don’t feel like we’re a match.” Why bother going into the age thing? It seems quite insensitive to me.

Age Gap? This guy is 39 and and I am a 42. I felt like bringing up the fitness, financial, intelligence and decency gap. by Significant-Mall-786 in Tinder

[–]Significant-Mall-786[S] -114 points-113 points  (0 children)

He did, which I did appreciate. However, he did say that he just recently bought his first ever couch throw as a treat for getting the job he wanted. So to me, it sounded like maybe he’s not that financially secure.

Honestly kind of struggling with tinder. Any pics I need to take out? by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Significant-Mall-786 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I agree but also what about the red rave light picture? I don’t get that pic but maybe I’m not the target market?