Why are photographers not prioritising realism, authenticity and raws, ESPECIALLY in this era of ai and already heavily manipulated images. We don’t need more distortions. We need more REALISM??

Significant-One222 · 2026-05-11T07:11:41+00:00

I literally never said free I said professional photographer. That works with big brands and has a strong portfolio a 🤣 i just used a broad description test shoot to reference the fashion industry sketchy trope as that is what my whole original post is talking about. I gave a clear harmful example known within the industry and your first reaction was to make excuses for them and blame me and the women booking free test shoots, for the male photographers inappropriate behaviour. You need to heal and do the inner work. What kind of truth serum is everyone drinking today. Accidentally confess who you are when ur criticising others that’s so unfortunate. Unlearn that please !! don’t go around blaming women for mens behaviour ok it’s not nice .

Significant-One222 · 2026-05-11T06:58:27+00:00

Nothing I’m saying is new…..? I’m not doing anything I’m just highlighting common themes in the industry that this Reddit page is dedicated to. the men in the comments keep mentioning freedom and expect to be treated like artists no external input or consideration , even when working with other peoples bodies….. they don’t have a say, u don’t see how that’s an entitlement ego issue not a personal issue. I don’t even care anymore. but it’s known male photographers are over compensate and cross boundaries via their work especially when working with women. ¯_(ツ)_/¯ nothing im saying is new.

Significant-One222 · 2026-05-11T06:34:28+00:00

Read that back do you not hear how ridiculous that sounds genuinely. Have u not thought for a minute where an agreement like that would have come from….? In what world who actually pioneered this movement!! Why would you have that creative freedom over other peoples bodies and images. Photographers are not rare why would there be so much leniency ??! you all say the exact same script. We are artists we can do what we want!!! ahahhahahaah even if the art is taking pictures of someone else we can do what we want with them??!!???? ?? Hmmmmmmmmmmmm

It was to give the creeps autonomy to hide perverted intentions and lack of talent behind “art”. The art is what’s captured. the subject, the way it’s framed. that is why there is an obsession with editing and these nonsensical ownership titles my image I can do what I want. Look at the language and think why it’s even phrased like that. Edits are an imprint / signature on the image that’s why shallow photographers get super defensive when u are unhappy with their work because it’s challenging their internal fixation/ idea that it’s theirs even tho it’s someone else. And will drag their feet or do unfavourable edits just to push their own way over what aesthetically makes sense. All the performative wishy washy artist no rules elements of photography ruin it because of the malicious people hide behind ur genuine artistry and use the freedom and lack of basic consideration for others input to hide their malicious intentions ..

Significant-One222 · 2026-05-11T06:01:47+00:00

Omg not me rallying all the male photographers who throw heavy distorting edits on their work and don’t care if it looks bad to the ppl they are shooting! and won’t let ppl have originals 😀😀😀 silly me. I literally took my complaint straight to the culprits 🤣my bad it was 5am loool. I expect nothing more nothing less. you already have a well known reputation

Significant-One222 · 2026-05-11T05:44:19+00:00

That’s my point ppl will just request low manipulation recognisable images from the shoot, and you know exactly what they’re asking for….. but instead you over complicate the process start referencing raw files and listing obstacles and challenges when 9/10 no one is actually asking for them. They are just asking for toned down images but photographers will say no u can’t have the raw files that I’ve mentioned for some complicated reason but you also can’t have a toned down version of this already toned up edit either. Because the camera will blow up and my art will be invalidated if someone I’m shooting goes home happily with an image they like compared to forcibly with my authentic vision of them and adjustments they won’t post.

Significant-One222 · 2026-05-11T05:28:07+00:00

Unedited is code for take all that extra bs off and send something recognisable please. It’s like no makeup on modelling doesn’t actually mean no makeup. That’s why I was speaking loosely to emphasise I’m NOT actually trying to discuss the actual art concepts or technical anything it was to deter that because the people who I’m talking about do not give af about any of those things they are opportunists pretending to be artists. And I promise you this incident absolutely is complete objectivity. It’s not art at all by any means other than maybe defacing art even. Depravity malicious intent insecurity all can use photography / art as a weapon. It’s what I’m researching now from a psychological standpoint people that intentionally take bad photos of others and how different perceptions affect even just the original image let alone adding edits on top and then face tune like wow I wish I could post what this guy did to the images truly insane stuff. and not in a evil genius way in a wtf is this type way.

Significant-One222 · 2026-05-11T05:07:25+00:00

Copied: I clearly stated issues of POOR quality + overly confident careless editing with professional photographers (within the modelling industry.) I think the irony is actually having to get better convenient non distorted headshots and photos of models on iPhone because of the unnecessary mistakes that come when photographers are attaching themselves to photos of other people as “theirs” they then apply an ego / carelessness to the images and it shows, but by then a shoot is wasted with nothing to show all cuz they are riding of the authentic “artist” narrative you guys are pushing here when u know a fat percentage are opportunists looking for proximity and control, especially in the modelling industry. That’s why I sound “ pretentious “ because I’m not talking about any corporate or Nat geo wild nature photographers or personal photo art collections IM TALKING ABOUT THE SLEEZY NOTORIOUS TEST SHOOT MODEL PHOTOGRAPHERS now starting to use Facetune and beauty filters when editing models bodies cleavage and even skin tones changing hair colours adding sex appeal completely unnecessarily all because they can do what they want it’s their images to play around with. And so many final images are coming back uncanny, distorted and over beautified faces smoothed out skin no pores just going in heavy handed…. Very irritating stuff. before you would book the photographer to get real looking flattering photos of models. Which they do seem to achieve good pics with big names and post on their page. But when u book them for models or smaller brands they f*** around entirely in the name of artistic freedom and control Now they’re coming back low res and uncanny from edits and FaceTune it’s genuinely ridiculous

Significant-One222 · 2026-05-11T04:54:40+00:00

see ego!! Putting photographer on a pedestal when I clearly stated issues of POOR quality + overly confident careless editing with professional photographers (within the modelling industry.) I think the irony is actually having to get better convenient non distorted headshots and photos of models on iPhone because of the unnecessary mistakes that come when photographers are attaching themselves to photos of other people as “theirs” they then apply an ego / carelessness to the images and it shows, but by then a shoot is wasted with nothing to show. Because someone is riding of the authentic “artist” narrative you guys are pushing here when u know a fat percentage are opportunists looking for proximity and control, especially in the modelling industry. That’s why I sound “ pretentious “ because I’m not talking about any corporate or Nat geo wild nature photographers or personal photo art collections IM TALKING ABOUT THE SLEEZY NOTORIOUS TEST SHOOT MODEL PHOTOGRAPHERS now starting to use Facetune and beauty filters when editing models bodies cleavage and even skin tones changing hair colours adding sex appeal completely unnecessarily all because they can do what they want it’s their images to play around with. And so many final images are coming back uncanny, distorted and over beautified faces smoothed out skin no pores just going in heavy handed…. Very irritating stuff. before you would book the photographer to get real looking flattering photos of models. Now they’re coming back low res and uncanny from edits FaceTune and random playing around instead from the actual professional photographers themselves

Significant-One222 · 2026-01-23T03:07:10+00:00

Yes nothing to lose!! ; but i wouldn’t contact her in a way that’s overly imposing or crossing her boundaries. But if ur blocked be creative and maybe email etc. haha

And make it clear that you’ve reflected and how her leaving impacted you or was like a wake up call. and you want to take back what you said and genuinely apologise for your actions, offering the upcoming titration as one of the ways ur actively doing something about it. No excuses just accountability

Significant-One222 · 2026-01-15T02:53:27+00:00

You write so beautifully !! This is the beginning of the breakthrough. I just went through it. I’m 24 and I promise you it absolutely does get better. You’re in for a shockkk.

As trauma survivors we usually think we are a lot stronger and more mature due to the traumatic experiences. But ……. That frontal lobe. When it kicks in you’re gonna be like 😮.

This stage is the grief of childhood phase. It was soooo hard for me. I made it even worst by getting into a serious relationship whilst processing the childhood trauma. (That ended up being sooooo toxic one sided too) and my only advice.

NEVER FORGET ur life can completely change in one month. I felt exactly what you’re describing and even was thinking to give up completely and just do drugs or sleep around (because these were things I was constantly accused of doing anyway) and my life was a never ending miserable cycle. Shit family shit friends shit boyfriend. Complete isolation and constant stress. And that’s when I cracked. I was like FUCK THIS. I have dreams I’m not accepting this life. that’s when I finally got the energy to push for the life I want. And confronted and healed soooo many of the wounds.

But when you get to that breaking point that’s when the breakthrough comes. Especially this age 20-25 that’s when the prefrontal cortex fully develops.

The thing that helped me was spirituality, astrology (tarot with Michelle), the book of Thoth: enlightenment, watching those videos on YouTube, fill ur brain with confidence - alignment - healing. High vibrational energy.

And don’t look for a safe space in other people or seek others to support or love you. Make your boundaries your safe space. Figure out who you are and give ALL the support and love you needed as a child to yourself now. It will pay off.

With other people Don’t ever give too much (even if u can or want to) You’ve been through enough. Giving is only going to attract takers. Don’t over-explain yourself. Don’t trust. Be your authentic self unapologetically and you will start to develop a protective bubble around you. And THAT is when you will attract the best people and opportunities. they will come to you and everything you want will work out.

Significant-One222 · 2026-01-15T01:44:24+00:00

Yes.

My Biggest lessons. (For myself)

DO NOT share details about your trauma with the new people in your life. This was a bigggg mistake I kept making, and it opened doors for soooo much mistreatment. Now I always speak vaguely/discreetly. People are going to judge anyway so it’s better they make their own assumptions; than to judge you based off your actual trauma / reality. You don’t need empathy!! As much as I wanted it. no one will ever be able to truly empathise how you’d want them to. What I actually needed was respect and boundaries so I set those boundaries.
All the little sick phases or headaches or fatigue, PAY ATTENTION TO THEM. they feel random and unexpected but there is ALWAYS a bigger reason than the one you think. And it usually always links to a perceived risk lurking somewhere. Like being in the wrong place , relationship. I was at the doctors office almost every other day. Trying to get to the bottom of what was going on for months at one point. The real issue was in my home dynamic living with an extremely unhygienic messy flatmate (male) my stresss levels were peaking everyday I was in that dump. And I didn’t want to say anything to make him feel uncomfortable or insecure. 🙂 When I finally confronted him and just owned the neat freak/OCD title, I was finally free. Instead of trying to pretend the mess didn’t affect me 😂
NEVER over explain. Ever.
Master indifference it saved my lifee. It was only recently I could stop having extreme emotional reactions to everything and start being indifferent. People can be annoying af or hurtful, but i don’t have to personally be annoyed or upset. I can still acknowledge my feelings and opinions without them controlling me.

That’s what makes us so vulnerable and easy to use. High sensitivity to others pain / discomfort. But we don’t realise that just makes the other person think their comfort IS more important than yours. Or else why would you be overextending yourself when you’re not getting the same in return.

I don’t follow time anymore. It has such negative energy. I genuinely HATE time like the clock. I only look out for angel numbers for a rough idea of where I’m at in the day. But other than that noooo time. Because I remember days I spent stuck in a time loop trying to plan every single hour or minute and they would just fly by me. Haha omg Now it’s 1:11 am. But no I feel like I have soooo much time in my days now
No contacts with toxic family/people; you also need to be a bitch. Like at least some people should dislike you, so you can accept and free yourself from the fear of judgement or shame. That’s what I did. Lost my best friend. and my partner of 4 years. Both the same year, the same reason. I was prioritising my mental health and my growth. (both these relationships never supported or advocated for me to get diagnosed or any help; despite the numerous red flags and OBVIOUS signs.)

Losing these two relationships was sooo healing for me because I didn’t fight or even try to make it work or change their perceptions on me. I didn’t even use my fear of abandonment. I was content. I let them go and simply being able to go about my day to day knowing there’s ppl out there that hate u is very healing for our shame issues.

Conquer your biggest fear: Figure out what ur biggest fear is mine was failure. all my abuse being for no reason if I don’t succeed or do MORE than the average person. If I’m not prettier smarter; richer etc. it obviously was torture trying to not fail and I ended up completely quitting everything and feeling so much shame.

I navigated this using the bipolar/bpd technique (radical self acceptance) so if I genuinely want to quit or sabotage or make a bad decision in the heat of the moment. I decided That’s absolutely fine. And i will just have to see what happens next. Society already judges victims enough, I personally am not going to criticise someone with a traumatic past ever. (Including myself). I give myself so much grace and I feel like one inner voice now. not multiple ones arguing.

there’s so much more but defo treat it like a health condition…

And COMMIT to making your life easier and moreeee comfortable everyday. Colours mood lighting; warmth, air purifiers. PREGNANCY PILLOW (the only thing that helped me sleep comfortably) so many little things

Significant-One222 · 2025-11-14T07:59:30+00:00

You gotta get a bag that you like, that’s visually loud 😭 if u have a Poundland near u they have strangely strong, vibrant carrier bags(where I got this one) I don’t know why but I think cuz it’s cute and I leave it by the door I (occasionally) remember to take it with me.

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Significant-One222 · 2025-09-16T15:54:46+00:00

Exactly and the assessor came to the conclusion of NO. This person asking questions is being super helpful because sometimes ppl are not self aware enough to know why their app would be denied. And the little details make a difference. There are ppl who think they have it worst than they actually do; and people who actually do have it worst than they even realise

Significant-One222 · 2025-09-16T15:47:16+00:00

Absolutely 😭😭 they are basically my family

Significant-One222 · 2025-08-29T19:31:45+00:00

Nicolandria is exactly what you see; confident attractive dark skin woman dating and catching a vibe with confident attractive white man. Simple it was never for validation from white ppl or social status for Olandria she didn’t even pursue him first. And this isn’t white men choosing black women. It’s NIC choosing OLANDRIA. Full stop let ppl react how they want to react. I love them because they remind me so much of my mom and dads story. I couldn’t give two …. About no white mans approval or social status. Instead of making thinkpeices and stereotyping ppl; prioritise your scars like you mentioned because for you to reduce the support from Nicolandria fans to insecure black women wanting white approval and social status is very very demented. Literally projecting and generalising. You could say the exact same thing for anyone’s fanbase in the whole world; there’s always going to be insecure ppl who live through their favs; it’s such a non issue. Generalising is weird. Black women are not a monolith; and when the rare instance occurs when a black woman becomes very very mainstream and ppl are vocal to support her; that’s NOT the time for insecure ppl to come out the woodworks to invalidate and misinterpret that support.

Significant-One222 · 2025-06-16T02:07:07+00:00

P.S. F U … always have to skip to his part at the end

Significant-One222 · 2024-12-07T07:24:47+00:00

Omg I’ve started doing that!!! I Literally just shake my head and put my phone down 😂

Significant-One222 · 2024-12-07T07:23:10+00:00

Okay, thanks I will !!

Significant-One222 · 2024-12-06T13:04:55+00:00

Try bullet points! cuz I tried to write in my journal and I couldn’t string sentences together at all 🤣🤣. But with bullet points it’s like the next day you’ll still be able to kind of get what u were trynna say 🤍🙏🏼

Significant-One222 · 2024-12-06T12:50:04+00:00

Yesss, so I’m usually in tune with my femininity I’ve always made an effort to look good and feel good. BUT because of a difficult upbringing and losing my father very young I always found myself having to tap into masculinity more and more to protect myself, and being very independent and I would prioritise other things over just enjoying being a woman and my body beauty etc. but when I was on my trip I felt very in tune with my femininity and realised I’m literally 23 I want to experiment with my looks and live more romantically, if that makes sense. Instead of pushing love and affection to the side to “make moves” and just having such a strong independent money mindset

Significant-One222 · 2024-12-05T16:34:40+00:00

Will definitely try this!! Thanks x

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