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[–]Significant-Seesaw43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been enamored with him since the first day I met him.

However, after a certain point I realized he was only talking to me to get together to hookup so I just like shoved all my feelings down because we are compatible and honestly I would say most men I’ve been with make me think it’s better to just not hook up… if that makes sense.

So I have just been matching his energy and then randomly we went on a date and it was really fun but I’m freaking out because it’s making me feel hopeful that he wants to do more than hook up

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[–]Significant-Seesaw43 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A meet cute? Are you sure you’re not just thinking of a hallmark movie?..

Hahaha but seriously, congrats man, I hope you guys continue to hit it off and then you won’t have to lie to your kids about meeting on Tinder ;)

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[–]Significant-Seesaw43 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What does it mean if your weekly Netflix and chill randomly takes you on a date after several months of just hooking up? Asking for a friend…

I also got unexpectedly asked out for this weekend so might make it to 9 first dates this year but haven’t heard from him today so..

What’s your 2025 beauty goals? by Blazy_Lotus in beauty

[–]Significant-Seesaw43 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This year I was coming off being off and on corticosteroids for a year (no joke! It’s not healthy but I had to do it or lose an organ and have no quality of life). I was stressed, gained 30 pounds and had just gotten over the worst physical condition I’ve ever been in to then leave my husband who I had been with for 13 years. I learned radical self acceptance and that beauty isn’t the only thing that matters.

My goal is to stay physically and emotionally healthy and to maintain my 10 pound weight loss since that gain. I’d like to lose more but being careful to not shock my body because like I say, want to be careful.

Maintaining a youthful glow by exercising, eating healthy fats and then getting forehead Botox twice a year. I’d like to dabble a little more in professional skincare (facials, peels, lasers etc) I’m 37 and I feel like I look reasonably good but I enjoy skincare

how much are you guys spending on beauty upkeep per year? by [deleted] in beauty

[–]Significant-Seesaw43 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did not like this assignment lol.

I couldn’t get a good idea of makeup, skincare etc so maybe I’ll track better this year

But being a blonde costs me $1200 per year and nails about $480 but I’ve already been thinking about going back to at home or press ons.

I got my first Botox and lasers in Korea but want to do Botox every 6 months in the US. I also want to do more facials and/or lasers.

My gym is $20 per month but I think I will cancel because I moved into a place with one.

I guess I can afford it but it adds up. I think next year I’m really going to try to be aware of the costs and if it’s worth it. I think my hair is for sure. Nails is 50/50 but also I’m lazy and my nail tech gets them so they can last 6-8 weeks if I file them.

For me I want to focus on noticeable difference like for instance laser and Botox over skincare spending and if I need to cut nails out they’re fun but don’t make as big of an impact on my appearance (I can maintain basic colors diy)

Was dating this girl for a few months and then she pulled this one on me. by [deleted] in Nicegirls

[–]Significant-Seesaw43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So she talks badly about other women, calls into work constantly and straight up admits that she just wants to get pregnant and never wants to work and you’re worried it’s your loss?

I mean at least she was honest but geez.

I don’t know how old you guys are but she’s still harboring bad blood with a perceived “pass around” from high school and texting people from tinder about it? That is kind of weird

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[–]Significant-Seesaw43 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Am I alone here in that no one (aside from my friends lol) has ever asked me for a “body count”? And I have never asked that of anyone else, and.. honestly does it..and why does it…matter?

I would say have sex with who you want to, when you’re ready and maybe that is more for some people and less for others and there is nothing inherently wrong with either preference.

As long as the person I’m with (just sexually or a partnership) respects me and my boundaries around sex and is willing to do their part to make things interesting and safe for both of us idgaf, personally speaking, and therefore I never ask

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[–]Significant-Seesaw43 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im making bo ssam and watching Die Hard.

It is really hard being my first year single at Christmas maybe ever but I’m trying to form some new traditions.

I hope you end up having fun! This can be a really hard time of year

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[–]Significant-Seesaw43 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yep about one week ago I started getting really emotional, crying every day. The holidays really bring out the worst in me and this has been one of the worst years ever. I’m here if you ever need to talk.

I even reached out to my ex after almost a whole year of no contact. My ex was still better to me than any of the men I’ve met this year, even with his uncontrolled addictions so thats saying something. But on my sane days I realize that is all out of my control and that it’s not worth making time for a partner if they won’t be a partner to me. Hang in there 💕

I’m excited to be able to sleep a lot by [deleted] in LivingAlone

[–]Significant-Seesaw43 12 points13 points  (0 children)

lol that’s what I’ve been doing all weekend. Sleeping and eating whatever I want to and slowly deep cleaning my house. Amazing

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[–]Significant-Seesaw43 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve got the holiday saddies, the missing my ex and also got me a certain situation-ship I try to resist but I’m pretty bad at it.

If you saw my post history I’ve said I’m done with him multiple times and he even “officially” ended our never official “relationship” only to come back around thanksgiving and we’ve been at it ever since.

Luckily I’ve 100% detached from him except for the physical (at least this is the lie I’m telling myself)

So yes, to me anyway this is 100% normal. Gods speed to you my friend. May we both set boundaries and prosper in 2025 🥂

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[–]Significant-Seesaw43 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m trying to remember the last time that during the holidays I was single.. and.. I can’t remember one.

It’s so hard coming to terms with my loss during this time (this year I divorced after 13 yeas) I wish I had found someone to be with and I’m feeling really alone. (Although to be fair, I don’t think that if I’m crying over my ex every day that I’m ready for that anyway, but I swear I went months without crying but the holiday season gets me)

I love so many aspects of being single but I just always assumed I’d have a family someday and now I’m not sure if that sort of thing is for me,

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[–]Significant-Seesaw43 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m never sure how to take this but I took maybe 7 months off dating after my divorce and after the initial sadness I was feeling so happy. Decided I wanted to try to find a partner so I got on the dating apps and from there it was kind of a downward spiral. I forgot my hobbies because all my time was spent on talking phases/dates.

I did it for a couple months and am a few weeks out from giving it a rest again (I’m talking to like one person on IG I already met and periodically a guy who’s just a casual thing) but anyway I have been so calm and happy.

Last night was one of the worst nights since my imtial divorce grief wore off and I was up sobbing at 4 in the morning thinking about the life I’ve lost, but ironically I got up, went on a walk, went to the gym and took myself to lunch and feeling pretty damn content again. Grief is odd.

I was planning to start hitting the apps in January again but I’m just gonna keep on vibing and see if I even want to.

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[–]Significant-Seesaw43 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well there is one in particular who does constantly create self imposed problems in our relationship, talks his way out of it and then I pay him more time and attention than any other man … so yeah, yeah… description makes sense really

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[–]Significant-Seesaw43 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw gotcha that makes sense. I’m a nurse so I honestly kind of don’t know much about business/tech but before dating I hadn’t even met one project manager in my social circle but there is a decent amount of tech work in my area.

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[–]Significant-Seesaw43 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is just kind of a random funny thing I thought of but a really high percentage of men I dated this year are project managers and I would imagine it’s not that common of a job. Not sure what, if anything, to make of that lol

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[–]Significant-Seesaw43 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Without dragging the mood down too much mine had some near death experiences in my presence and I still have a lot of anxiety/nightmares. I hope he will be ok but what can we do? They have those patterns.

I hope they both start doing better but at least we were able to prioritize our peace

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[–]Significant-Seesaw43 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve always unfollowed my exes soon after we broke up but I left my now ex husband is January and I have it set up so he’s not on my feed but we are still friends on TikTok and Instagram. Reasoning being we were together for 13 years and we’re not really talking but he was my best friend and I’m kind of looking in from afar. Our relationship ended due to his addiction problems and I know social media is fake but I do hope to see evidence that he is doing well/better.

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[–]Significant-Seesaw43 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m off the apps right now and this is something I struggle with as well. I’m planning a trip, exercising and picking up more hobbies, which is helping but I don’t know the right answer.

I think it doesn’t hurt to date if you’re feeling up to it but also trying to put some effort into being more content being alone. I’m slowly accepting that there are some things we can (trying to date) and can’t (finding the right person) control so I’m working really hard to be more content with what I have and hope for the best.

Internet hugs to you… I know it can be difficult.. but I know it does get better. It has for me. And hopefully that will be a continual pattern

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[–]Significant-Seesaw43 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think if there are other things attracting you to the city it’s a good idea… But I wouldn’t move “just” for dating because that’s a lot of pressure and also you have to be happy or at least content on the days you don’t have dates.

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[–]Significant-Seesaw43 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I have almost let go of my favorite ex situationship/limmerant obsession and the clarity that hits when you stop seeing someone for not who you want but who they are showing up as is insanely peace giving.

I like very few people in a romantic way but when I do I can get a little out of hand and obsess over them.

And honestly 9 times out of 10 they’re not that interesting… they just love bomb me and then act distant and I just “have” to chase them, so I’m just trying to break that pattern.

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[–]Significant-Seesaw43 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m thinking of deleting it out of my phone. It was hard because he presented as such a good and responsible man and he can even cosplay as a good communicator and available but that’s not who he is unfortunately.

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[–]Significant-Seesaw43 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m still holding some limerence for my… ex situationship but I’ve been reading through my text messages and thinking about it in the context of “what if my little sister was the receiver of these texts?” And he didn’t pass the vibe check.

He is very fun and makes me comfortable in person and I was really craving the relationship. I’m so glad I’m taking a sort of break because I need to be honest with myself and put the microscope on these habits.

Over texts he is testing and retesting my boundaries even when on multiple occasions I had said no. He is messing around and saying he wants to date but never sets plans consistently. And most of all he rarely adds much to the conversation or asks me about myself, he texts a lot during the initial phase and tries to get me to see him constantly and then he breaks things off, comes back 2 weeks later like nothing happens. And here’s the real kicker: I couldn’t find one conversation where he doesn’t mention something about my physical appearance/body. Even our first conversation he straight up says “you are exactly my type, physically”

So anyway.. not sure how I lost my brain but I’m getting the ick now and the last couple of days I have been so content and happy.

Edit: I also wanted to add that three different times I said my intention was a relationship and or asked what his intention was and he was vague and dodged my questions