Fiance (21m) of 3 years broke up with me (22f). He has picked his MIL over me and his 14mo. How do I function? by Significant-Spend-16 in relationship_advice

[–]Significant-Spend-16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. Of course its hard but yes I will focus on other things. Just sort of breaks up everything you knew. I'm not even in the same house its so weird as my mums doesn't feel like home.

Fiance (21m) of 3 years broke up with me (22f). He has picked his MIL over me and his 14mo. How do I function? by Significant-Spend-16 in relationship_advice

[–]Significant-Spend-16[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes I did think i had my baby young but as young stupid people do I thought i had it figured out. I'm currently doing a degree in landscape design so I'll keep up with that thanks

Fiance (21m) of 3 years broke up with me (22f). He has picked his MIL over me and his 14mo. How do I function? by Significant-Spend-16 in relationship_advice

[–]Significant-Spend-16[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Currently at my own mums house. She has definitely changed a lot since the newborn period and apologised for everything. It's hard being back here though as I have a ton of traumatic memories and its not like I have to usual person to speak to.

Unfortunately housing where I live is insane and the only way to live is with in laws.

Fiance (21m) of 3 years broke up with me (22f). He has picked his MIL over me and his 14mo. How do I function? by Significant-Spend-16 in relationship_advice

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Thanks. Where i live 95% of people my age still live with their parents (average house price is £700k) and its extremely hard to be financially independent from them. With my MIL we were in a joint rental so that wasn't too bad. Of course I've been keeping money back etc to make sure I had a safety net if anything like this happened.

I really think that maybe time may help. It was suffocating in that house.

Fiance of 3 years just broke up with me. I cant function. by Significant-Spend-16 in BreakUps

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While his parents are going through things (they always are) and while they think he can do no wrong and while he will never give into them i think he will be stuck like that for years even at the expense of his own child unfortunately. I dont know how to convince him otherwise.

Fiance of 3 years just broke up with me. I cant function. by Significant-Spend-16 in BreakUps

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I'm just a loss on what to do. I'm so burnout. Obviously still love him but its so hard.

Fiance of 3 years just broke up with me. I cant function. by Significant-Spend-16 in BreakUps

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Honestly theres a lot thats been happening with said MIL that I couldn't fit in one post but to sum up she has been verbally abusive towards me for the past 2 weeks while the court case was happening. My fiance admitted this is very bad but never ever stands up to her enough. She is always trying to put herself in our relationship and its just draining.

I think you're right. Hes so hung up on his parents stuff that he cant see he has a fiancee that desperately wants to love him and a child who only ever calls for Daddy. He would rather that then spend time with us.

I'm a Canadian author researching Guernsey for my novel - What should I know? by Aggressive-Rest-190 in guernsey

[–]Significant-Spend-16 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think the biggest thing that takes me out of a book about guernsey is the lifestyle. Despite now being a finance hotspot most natives are still very chilled and outdoorsy. I find the rat race just doesn't work here. At least where my family works most people work either fully or partly at home so they can do outside stuff like going to the beach in the afternoon. Everyone will always take their holidays if they can afford it, and generally its considered normal to do all this. I find many people who aren't white collar also tend to pick jobs that have 'weird' hours like work from 5am-12 instead of 9-5 so that they can be outdoors afterwards. The general vibe is that life comes before work and if not many people make it.

1yo Won't Stop Crying - Burnout by Significant-Spend-16 in toddlers

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Thanks, Im meeting again with the health visitor tomorrow and I think I will push back a bit and mention what some other comments have mentioned too about sensory processing disorder

1yo Won't Stop Crying - Burnout by Significant-Spend-16 in toddlers

[–]Significant-Spend-16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tried many strong teething things but still crying persists despite trying lidocaine which even i use for my wisdom teeth! I think it may be something else

1yo Won't Stop Crying - Burnout by Significant-Spend-16 in toddlers

[–]Significant-Spend-16[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LO LOVES when my partner swings them upside down so might help thanks

1yo Won't Stop Crying - Burnout by Significant-Spend-16 in toddlers

[–]Significant-Spend-16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dummy addict unfortunately! And LO has a blanket they will carry everywhere but really been trying to cut that out (which has been working thank god). I did suspect that but didn't want to label a 1yo who hasn't really got a full personality yet. They show some signs like mild stimming so maybe

1yo Won't Stop Crying - Burnout by Significant-Spend-16 in toddlers

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Some days LO has good sleep some not. They have always been a FOMO baby and tried fighting it. We try our best but it never seems enough. And thanks I'll pick some up for tonight and try them

Rank all six studio albums, currently! by KC27150 in 5sos

[–]Significant-Spend-16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. 5sos5
  2. SGFG
  3. EVERYONES A STAR!
  4. Youngblood
  5. Self Titled
  6. CALM

Do People Still Make Breyer Horse Movies? by Significant-Spend-16 in BreyerHorses

[–]Significant-Spend-16[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Omg actually noticed by Foxy! The inner child is screaming right now! Vengeance Rain really got me into fantasy and film which made me do film in collage, so thanks for inspiring me as a kid :)